Okay, this image, is only so that the next image isn’t the one that shows up in everybody’s Facebook feed when they share this story. Plus, people love pictures of cats doing funny things (they do! Read this post if you don’t believe me).
So, I thought I’d throw out a bonus post today, only because I am seriously irked and I need to vent somewhere! Warning, this post contains slightly graphic images, all in the name of parenting and decency.
I have two computer screens hooked up to my computer at home. Last night I was sitting with Noah on my lap, and on one screen we were going through Bing images, finding pictures of “gray things” (every week he has to take an assortment of cut-out pictures to preschool, focusing on the color of the week).
On the other screen, Facebook was open from my previous session on the computer.
While I was cheating and typing in “silver” instead of “gray” (let’s be honest, 3-year-olds don’t know the difference. I don’t even know the difference) to the image search, Noah pointed at my other screen and said, “What’s she doing?”
I looked over and saw this ad:
I immediately said, “nothing, buddy. What do you think about this “gray quarter” over here? Should we cut that one out?” I hit refresh on the Facebook page so that the ad would disappear.
And this one popped up in its place:
Noah was now watching everything I was doing. I panicked and refreshed the page again, which didn’t help because this ad popped up:
Ummm… really?
One more hit on the refresh button, loaded an image that scared me more than any that had popped up so far.
COME… ON… ARE YOU KIDDING ME? This one was enough to simply close the browser and (thankfully) turn Noah’s focus back to his homework.
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I am slightly tired of the pics of 'Russian' girls on the side of the screen. Some of the poor things look so young!
To a corporation, a dollar is still a dollar whether it comes from dirty 40 year old uncle John or little 14 year old Jimmy who accesses porn with his Father's bank card. They don't care about your kids. They just want your money. Just like they don't care about you, your health or well being. As long as you pay them money, they are happy.
These corporations don't care about your kids' welfare. None of them do. It's their job to make money, not teach your kids morals. Yes, it is quite outrageous, but you enter into their free service knowing these things about them. If you don't like it, just remove yourself from the Internet.
Money talks, dear Sir... :) The people paying for those ads are paying Fecalbook for the privilege. Since you're using their service for free, you get the benefit of free ads which you can't control.
I am so fed up with Facebook... The only use I have for it is for my internet marketing and even there I get some really bad ads connected with the posts I put out. It's getting really ridiculous, my 13 year old daughter gets ads like this on HER wall!
yes, yes, YES! Thank you, Dan! I have a 9 year old boy (and a 7 year old!) and it only gets more painful. THANK YOU.
This has irked me for ages!!! For awhile there was a whole page dedicated to posting pictures of women breastfeeding and facebook was deleting them as 'pornographic' content!!! Most of the photos should little or no skin!!! And yet I have seen people who's profile pics are their new tat on the bum or, um private parts! And they allow it!!! So what the???? Any time I see anything like that I hit the remove button and label it as offensive, but I don't get it!!!
*showed! little or no skin!!! Not should... :-S lol!
Ugh.....What is with the objectification of women all.the.time?
My recent post No- I am not your wife anymore
I started reporting these types of ads as offensive whenever they popped up and they went away. I assume there's a fancy computer marketing program monitoring what add I like or don't to send me ones I might actually respond to. What bothers me even more are the adds on kids sites.My daughter and I play on a fashion game aimed at tweens. The other day there was a shirtless ad for a rapper who's lyrics are definitely not age appropriate.
I like the ads for Pell Grants for women...with a Bond-girl sillhouette in a martini glass. I feel so empowered!
Would've been nice if you had simply said that pornographic ads popped up instead of displaying pornography for all to see. Why didn't you immediately close the comp or the window at least. Refresh? Really?
He DID put a warning at the top that there would be graphic pictures in this article.If you didn't want to see them, why did you keep reading after the warning?
I love these blogs! I am a new follower and thank God I discovered you! Just what I needed!!! Thank u for setting a good example and for telling it how it is. I love that. ♥
honestly, that stuff really pisses me off, i look over my husbands shoulder when he's on facebook and he gets the same kind of ads (just not the dad part) and i look at my facebook and i get " you like kids?" "you like to travel?" "real estate" or buy this/that... i would much rather look at your ad that the crap that pops now....
Whoa... where did you come from??? There needs to be more men like you.
What truly annoys me is that they'll put ads like this up, but then delete people's pages for breastfeeding images! REALLY?!? The chicks in those ads show more boob than a mom with her infant attached. Facebook is hypocritical when it comes to it's indecency rule.
You could use Firefox and get an adblocker. I have that and no ads, it's fantastic :)
Isn't the problem with Facebook that the guy who came up with it is some young guy whose head is probably too big to fit through the boardroom doors now? I can accept that it has become a pretty substantial part of society, but we are all at its mercy. Which sucks.
Then there is the add in your sidebar "1 sexy stomach rule - obey" with 2 women in their underwear.....
Yup, try sharing a photo of a baby breastfeeding. It's just SO offensive, don't you know? Those girls show more cleavage than I ever do!
I had a miscarriage and updated my friends and family with the post "I lost the baby". Since then I've been bombarded with "Trouble getting pregnant?" ads and related infertility type of ads. As an internet marketer, I get contextual. But geeze...no decency at all.
AdBlock Plus works wonders!
The pics in your post are allowed. Pictures of women breastfeeding are banned. WTZ?!?!
The Ads displayed on facebook are generated by a number of methods, one being sourced from content and applications from your personal page, another being sourced by other things such as browsing habits on the internet. The internet marketing is a huge trend and a lot of people are not aware that, well, you're basically being monitored through such sites as google or bing and other search engines. They use this information as 'research' and particular companies can pay to access this information to target a user with advertising tailored to their interests.
I could not agree more. That is flat out insane! I have ads pop up for dating and singles and tons of other things and the pictures can be very graphic. Your graphic was not innapropriate...nor was it showing too much skin. I encourage you to try again with as many different pictures as possible until that does become an ad on the side though...it is such an important message to get out there.
WOW! That is quite ridiculous... I can't believe they turned you down!!! Jerks!
totally wrong! i hate those ads too. I was getting tons of singles ads for a while on my FB sidebar. I finally switched my relationship status to "its complicated" but then everyone wanted to know who i was dating. hahaha!
Instead of "refreshing" do you ever "x" out of the little ad? (Like Michelle mentioned above) when you do there is a mini survey: "You have removed this advert. Why didn't you like it?" [ ] Uninteresting, [ ] Misleading, [ ] Offensive, [ ] Repetitive, [ ] Other
It's a pain, but I try to select "offensive" on stuff that I wouldn't want my kids to see if they happened to walk in.
I'm ALL about the adblock on Firefox. I was really sick of the lesbian single site ads, and with a few clicks on the mouse, they all went bye-bye. I was one happy girl!
Yes, that would tick me off too.
Those ads are horrible! I have never gotten one of those adds, though. Maybe it is because I am married. Maybe you should just change your status...but then where would you find women? I'm not sure why you thought the last image was so bad, though. Your image for your post is not even close to the top 3 near porn pics. You are totally right!
Real life is about the same, with the styles for women showing so much more cleavage than I want to see, and here on Maui the styles for men are showing so much hip that the website 'inadvertant butt crack' aka 'plumber's syndrome' could sustain itself just on Maui pix alone. Most people look better dressed.
whenever i see ANY of these type of ads ANYWHERE it makes me upset. they're too much 'in your face' and they're offensive, not to mention inappropriate on so many levels.. for example, i use a fertility website and constantly there are ads for single women coming up with their boobs all flashing in my face..
ENOUGH ALREADY
That's crazy. Why allow ads like that in the first place? I honestly think there shouldn't be any of that on Facebook, especially since there are teenagers using it. They shouldn't of denied your image when there are far more inappropriate ads on Facebook.
ummmmm i have not seen these ads on facebook, but i'm shocked they allow those. Young kids use facebook & they totally should NOT be seeing images like that.
disgusting!!
we should do something about this, perhaps make a facebook page against explicit ads??
UG! I HATE those ads. I'm not sure if anyone has said anything yet, but if you had clicked the x on the ad and answered 'offensive' to the question of why you don't like the ad, I think that those would pop up less or not at all.
ok...this Mama of 6 year old twin boys...loves it, lmao! Admit it, while it is offensive and completely ANNOYING (I will agree) it did allow for a great chuckle! I love that your son asked, "what is she doing," that is SOOO something my boys would say...and have! Thank you for being so irked chose to write about it, YOU made my day w/a great chuckle! ;)
Dan, that is one of my biggest complaints about FB. Why does everything have to be about big boobs, shiny bottoms and girls with pouty lips? I'm a hot girl..I don't post photos of myself all dolled up in skin. It's definitely a way to get attention..I suppose either good or bad, but it makes your piece on Perfection all the more relevant. Perhaps the FB advertisers could take a few pointers from it and some of the comments. I don't have anything to say about it that is useful or some magic answer to do away with the issue, but I appreciate you bringing it up. And why those ads keep popping up is because people keep clicking on them. So..if it's working, why fix it? xx
Rita
get adblock bro
:: sigh :: I'm not surprised. Facebook also deletes breastfeeding photos. So . . . it's ok to see Tila Tequila showing 50% of her bowling-ball breasts . . . but it's not ok to see a child's head in front of what you have to ASSUME is a breast because you can't actually see it?
I have actually clicked on some of the x's to get rid of the ads for the single parent or singles ad's and becasue I have done that Fb has apparently decided that since I am not interested in the male ads they now send me pictures of the femals single's ads.. I as a general rule of thumb ignore the ads but sometimes my children who are all under 9 years old and extremely vulnerable... are around and see the ads so I also find them offensive why do we have to be such a sexualized country? there are lots and lots of other ways to get someones attention for sure and still not be shiny... or hanging out all over the place or degraading ourselves in the process.. our children can see this stuff.. and it will influence them in the wrong way and make them feel as if they cannot be anything unless they are beautiful, perfect, and look a certain way.. my children btw are all beautiful., perfect and wonderful.. and they do not need to see this stuff.. ( ok I will get off the soapbox now) thanks so much for sharing your thoughts I am going to go register now and will be following your blog I can tell it is one worth following...
While aggravating, I agree... At least you're not over on MySpace getting inundated with ads that are much bigger than said thumbnail! I hate it when those things pop up...
Imagine one of my Facebook friend's surprises... When a "Single?" ad came up on his page, with his SISTER'S picture as the thumbnail! We got a good laugh out of that one :)
I get really tired of the ads on Facebook as it is, but some of the ones I see are just awful. I mean, shirtless men with abs of steel...can you imagine anything more...I'm sorry, what was I saying?
In all seriousness, though, I really can't believe your ad would be banned and those others are "acceptable." I bet they would have ok'd yours if you didn't have the big red circle and line through it.
HAHA! That's actually kinda funny, because I was showing my mom your Perfection post and her response to your picture was a **gasp** and, "What the heck kind of stuff are you looking at, Steph???" It was funny.
I HATE those ads though! I hate the fact that I may or may not have to shield my daughter's eyes on the next page. I have to distract them. "Look, there's a bird in the house!" Click, check images. "Haha, made you look." Google may be the worst for misplaced images! I was searching for images of different types of flowers (it was either "green calla lilies" or "purple flower") and a very explicit photos were around page 7. Luckily my kids weren't with peering over my shoulder, but STILL! Who said I wanted to see those pictures? I sure as heck didn't! I just wanted flowers! GEEZ!!! I honestly don't know what I'm going to do when my kids start using computers on a regular basis in the next few years!
Funny, I am a single mom and when I am on Facebook the Single Dad ads are not nearly as provocative! Wonder that that means!?!? I have to laugh at your son asking about the pictures as I have been in that position before..."oh nothing" is such a great answer!
Wow FB, that's a bit hypocritical!
And to think my husband thinks FB is crap! Look at all I'm missing by not being a part of it. Ok, I'm not really missing anything.
OK What you NEED TO DO is click on the little "x" on the top right corner of the ad. It will then ask you "Why do you want to delete this ad?" and you will click on the "OFFENSIVE" option. Then it won't pop up again!! That is what you are supposed to do. Another idea would be to just CLOSE the facebook after the SECOND offensive image appeared instead of refreshing it over and over. Good luck next time!!! We all have a "first time" that teaches us what we should have done.
I must be boring. My ads tell me to go back to college and buy shoes. Hmm. I would understand the frustration over it though, and your ad is great. Definitely better than an oily butt.
Could I have been more redundant with the word teen? :D Is it Friday yet?