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You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.

Young Child Looking Sad

Dads. Stop breaking your children. Please.

I feel a need to write this post after what I witnessed at Costco yesterday. Forgive me for another post written in desperation and anger. Please read all the way to the end. I know it’s long, but this is something that needs to be said. It’s something that needs to be heard. It’s something that needs to be shared.

As Noah and I stood in line to make a return, I watched as a little boy (he couldn’t have been older than six) looked up at his dad and asked very timidly if they could buy some ice cream when they were done. The father glared him down, and through clenched teeth, growled at the boy to “leave him alone and be quiet”. The boy quickly cowered to the wall where he stood motionless and hurt for some time.

The line slowly progressed and the child eventually shuffled back to his father as he quietly hummed a childish tune, seemingly having forgotten the anger his father had just shown. The father again turned and scolded the boy for making too much noise. The boy again shrunk back and cowered against the wall, wilted.

I was agitated. I was confused. How could this man not see what I see? How could this man not see what a beautiful spirit stood in his shadow? How could this man be so quick to stub out all happiness in his own boy? How could this man not cherish the only time he’ll ever have to be everything to this boy? To be the person that matters most to this boy?

We were three from the front now, and the boy started to come towards his dad yet again. His dad immediately stepped out of the line, jammed his fingers into his son’s collar bones until he winced in pain, and threatened him. “If you so much as make a sound or come off of that wall again, I promise you’re going to get it when we get home.” The boy again cowered against the wall. This time, he didn’t move. He didn’t make a sound. His beautiful face pointed down, locked to the floor and expressionless. He had been broken. And that’s how his father wanted it. He didn’t want to deal with him, and breaking him was the easiest way.

And we wonder why so many of our kids grow up to be screwed up.

I’m going to be blunt. People see my relationship with Noah, and quite often put me up on a pedestal or sing my praises for loving him more than most dads love their own kids.

Damn it. I don’t understand that, and I’ll never understand that. Loving my son, building my son, touching my son, playing with my son, being with my son… these aren’t tasks that only super dads can perform. These are tasks that every dad should perform. Always. Without fail. There is nothing special about me. I am a dad who loves his son and would literally do anything for his well-being, safety, and health. I would gladly take a rake in the face or a jackhammer to my feet before I cut my own son down or make him feel small.

[sigh] I am far from a perfect dad. And I always will be. But I’m a damn good dad, and my son will always feel bigger than anything life can throw at him. Why? Because I get it. I get the power a dad has in a child’s life, and in a child’s level of self-belief. I get that everything I ever do and ever say to my son will be absorbed, for good or for bad. What I don’t get is how some dads don’t get it…

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SandraJames1

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HopeSonia
HopeSonia

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beachpeach
beachpeach

A good dad, my husband, gives our son and daughter kiss after kiss, hug after hug, tickle after tickle, a constant presence.  A good dad, my husband, does not always say, "no" he does not always say, "yes" but he is there to say something.  A good dad, my husband, sometimes gets angry and frustrated but follows that with an explanation of the feeling, a closure to the "episode" (which truly is not an episode, but perhaps a raising of the voice).  A good dad, my husband, is my teammate in parenting.  A good dad, my husband, will allow for the occasional failure, but will be the biggest cheerleader upon a success of our children.  A good dad, an amazing husband, is Devin.  :) 

csommerfeldt88
csommerfeldt88

Funny how this post would get to a mother, I am crying at your point of view and saddened that it took your penance to write this article. I am moved to be a better person and God willing, all of these things "Dads" need to work on... I feel as a mother I have just as much to do. I am saddened at myself and my past behaviors as I read this, being unaware of the things that we say sometimes is terrible and can hurt so very much. I love my children to the end of this earth and back again. Thank you for this... A million thank yous for this. 

JoesCandra
JoesCandra

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JohnLucy

my ex broke up with me for the fact that he wanted space, i tried telling him how much i love him but he was just so stubborn, he suddenly changed, he started cheating, I was so hurt and depressed. so a friend suggested the idea of contacting a spell caster, which I never thought of myself. after i contacted Dr Wu for his help. I asked him to do a love spell for me so that my lover can come back to me, but before the spell was done, I was a bit skeptical about the capacity to bring my lover back to me. 3 days after the spell was actually cast, my lover returned to me and since then, it seems that there is no more mistrust and no more lies between us. He doesn't cheat anymore. there is no word to say how grateful I am, I am leaving a testimonial on this page, email [email protected]

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blendapark


my boyfriend of two years let me for another girl because i accuse him of seen another girl and since then i have been trying to get him but he refuse to come back to me,he was not responding to my call or email and he even unfriend me in facebook and he told me that he is done with me.i was searching on the internet for help and i saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so i decided to give it a try and i contacted him and i explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell for me and guarantee me of 3days that my ex will come back to me and to my greatest surprise the third day a great miracle fell on me and my ex come back to me on the third day and he beg me for forgiveness.Dr Azima of ([email protected]) i will continue to publish his name because he is my Savior and we are about to get married.if you need him to help you Email [email protected]

Andrea
Andrea

I am the mother of a six year old boy. I cried when I read the part about the kid starting to sing and the dad shooting him down - because I do that all the time! I get frustrated at my little one when he doesn't move as fast as I would like him to so we can get out of the door in the morning, I yell at him for constantly singing and being "excessively happy". He drives me crazy with all of his questions and I have barked at him on more than one occasion. But now that you have opened my eyes I will vigilantly be on the lookout for my horrible behavior towards my happy-go-lucky, spunky, inquisitive son. Thank you so much for giving me the proverbial "kick-in-the-rear" I needed.

LD
LD

This brought tears to my eyes as I have seen things like this happen as well - and not just by Dads but by Moms as well.  There are so many people out there who SHOULD NOT be parents, but there are also people out there who try to make things better, for ALL children not just their own even though it isn't easy to undo what the "parents" have done.  I am grateful that my husband is a good dad - not perfect by any means, but he does his best to let our daughter know she is loved and valued.

New Mommy
New Mommy

Hello, Dan!


I appreciate this post very much. I work in a certain, well-known, family-oriented theme park where things like this happen all the time when parents do not think that anyone is watching. It breaks my heart to see children cower from or be ignored by their parents. It scares me to think how many parents feel that breaking their children is the same as disciplining them. Discipline has its root from the word "disciple", which is someone who follows another. So, if we were to literally discipline our children, it should be in such a way that they wish to follow in our footsteps, not cower against a wall and hang their heads in shame. I do know, though, that many parents today did not have the best example of discipline in their own childhood. Of course, that is not an excuse for horrific behavior from those parents, but it does explain some of the issue. :/


I am sorry that you get so many awful comments on your posts. I usually do not read them, so I have no idea if you will read mine at all--I wouldn't blame you if you didn't--but I wanted, to tell you about a superdad that I know, since you asked to hear about them. 


My husband and I had our first child nearly four months ago. I come from a large family in which I helped to raise my siblings, but he didn't have that experience in his "growing up years", so I didn't know how he'd be initially with the baby and the long nights. I am so pleased to share with you that he is what I think you and I agree should be a natural dad--one who, though he doesn't have much experience with babies, loves the little man and does everything he can to show that love to the baby (and to the baby's mommy!). He is, as far as I can see, a superdad. He will step away from anything to play with the baby, even though "playing" could be seen as boring to an adult at this stage in our child's development. (Too many guys I have seen refuse to play with babies because the babies cannot move around or be handled roughly. What's up with that? Isn't getting a baby to illicit a smile after you help him kick his feet and smile down at him the best reward ever?!) I have noticed that it is my generation that seems to have this parenting thing pretty wrong for the most part, and that saddens me. Luckily, my husband is a young father who seems to have his priorities straight as that young father... even to the point of trying to get out of his current position at the company he works at in order to make sure he stays in the best health possible for our child and other future children.

There are other great dads out there, Dan. :) I am so glad that you are one of them. 

Jordan
Jordan

I was abused physically and emotionally by my father, and I still to this day have a ton of issues in regards to making relationships with others, especially those with men. I have never been able to let someone love me, and I am trying my very best to overcome that with the person I am with now. I am damaged. I still have a voice in the back of my head telling me that I am worthless, that I will become everything he said I would. But I also know somewhere that it is not true - I am a nursing major at a top 50 university. I know I am nothing like he told me I would be, but I am still broken. What I did not like about this article is that you made it seem like only little boys can be broken by their fathers. I find that more girls are broken by their fathers. "Daddy's little girls" and "momma's little boys" are that way for a reason. Of course men are huge influences on a little boy's life, but I find it disheartening how this article seems to think that the man is always the most important to the little boy. Girls get hurt too, and those girls hurt by their fathers grow up with very different issues. Commitment issues, attachment issues, trust issues, you name it, I have it. I like the way the article was supposed to go, I just feel like you left out a major part of the problem. 

marian jane
marian jane

My name is MRS JULITE wood I married with two wonderful kid and I am a Canadian.My husband and i have been married for 10years and we were such a big happy family.But he started changing " for the worse " he looked at me like a stranger and he treat the kid like they weren't even his.I knew at ones that he had another woman.I hired a private investigator that cost me a lot.It turned out that i was right all along.I couldn't just believe it so I confronted him with the pictures I had but he denied it bluntly.He said she just just a girl he has some working project with and foolish of me i so believed him.But on bad day i caught them red handed at that moment my heart stopped for a while as i bust into tears.I was furious that i hit the whore so hard before I could ask why with my shaking voice my husband
hit me so hard.I have never seen in his eyes so much hate before.I fell to ground crying my heart out it was so hurtful.He was no longer living with me and our kids I still remember his words " keep the house and your sick kids ".I wanted to drop dead but my lovely kids gave me strength to fight for what was my.He was asking for a divorce but i wanted to my husband back so i had to delay the process to buy time for myself so as to figure out a way to get him back.On a good day "god bless the internet "i stumbled on an ad of how a girl got her boyfriend back after he broke up with because of some girl with the help of a witch doctor or a spell caster at first I told myself it's scam but as pressure from my husband lawyer increased I became desperate and gave it try .I contacted him with his email address she left in her ad.His mail were so had to his English was not so clear but he helped me any way off course not for free he charged me and i pay every cent. thank the stars it work.I paid for the material which he used for the rite And when he claimed to have finished whatever he was doing i paid for his services.He sent me a hand written enchanting words and asked me to recite morning and night for seven day " as he said seven is the perfect number "I did just that but at first nothing happened out of frustration i sent all kind of insult to him even calling a low life scam.He said he could destroy the entire thing he did but he wouldn't so I can see how wrong i was.he said those enchanting words he gave me will make my husband see the demon in his new lover and its going to make him hurt badly.just a
week later my husband was sued for physical abuse on his so called New girlfriend.he gave a black eye and didn't show remorse in the court house.just what the spell-caster had said " he would hurt her badly ".he literally confessed that he hated her all of a sudden.All the witch dr peter did worked.Thank the stars she only wanted him to stay away from her so the judge asked him to pay $5000.after all this is trouble my husband came back asking for my forgiveness and I did without thinking it was all I wanted for him to come back to me and the kid.My husband and i have never since this kind of happiness before.He his as faithful to me and as a saint.I know cos I hear his friends say "what happened to the fun guy we know ".so if you have a similar problem just contact [email protected] i bet you this one is know fake.You can only choose to believe me cos i haven't tried this spell thing before and now that I have i can only happily share with who ever is reading this. my contact is +2348143877990

Dodie
Dodie

Okay, This by far is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read.  Not on the behalf of the parent in the store but on the behalf of the original poster of this message.  It is your duty as a parent to teach them how to behave and that includes in public.  It is your job to teach your children the difference between right and wrong and to teach your child to be respectful of others and to have some manners.  To not bother to teach you children these things is to do your children a horrible injustice--to not teach your children the reward of work or good behavior is poor parenting and you are setting your child up for failure.  For all the original poster of this message knows--maybe that child was in the back seat of the car on the way to Costco out of his seat belt screaming at the top of his lungs and almost causing a car accident or maybe he was the cause of dad's smashed care on the parking lot...And it all happened on the way to the store to replace grandma's microwave because he smashed it with his toy. So, let's give him an ice cream cone?? YOU DO NOT KNOW.  Teaching you children the reward of work--good behavior--not handing them everything on a silver platter--making them feel as if they deserve everything and the best of everything just for being---is responsible parenting.  Society has created many a folk that believe someone owes them something-----and what has become of this---a WELFARE SYSTEM that is overwhelmed!!!!  What you should be doing and teaching your own children is to mind your own business.  I am not saying that I condone beating children to a bloody pulp--but come on.  I teach for a college and what do I see way to frequently?  Young adults that do not want to do his or her work and expect a good grade and if they don't get the good grade we have to be fearful that we will get sued by someone's rich parents that have not bothered to teach his or her children a good work ethic and have spoiled the child beyond belief.  So, now that I have wasted this time--I am going to get off my soap box and I believe you should too--and I am going back to work.

WayneKimberly
WayneKimberly



 I was skeptical about magic spells. For me i thought love spell was a movie thing though but I was ready to try anything to get my husband back, which this spell caster [email protected] did for me, I've appreciated the fact that he solved my relationship issue in a perfect way, call him +2347060552255  if you need help to get your lover back
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NoMoreChildAbuse
NoMoreChildAbuse

 I am wondering, did you do anything to help this child? Did you follow them out, get a license plate number...ANYTHING? Did you speak up and let the man know he was out of line? I have spoken up before when I saw a child was not being treated properly, I have also called the police to protect children, I will do it every time, no questions asked. That child obviously lives a horrible life and someone needed to step in and help him.


My father was a wonderful man, I lost him at the age of 12, but he used to take us camping ALL the time. He took us fishing and I remember digging the worms and cleaning the fish. I always wanted to go hunting, but he would never take me. I am 50 years old now and I know why he never took my hunting, it was to protect me from the images of the animals being shot and killed. I think he knew that it would some how scar me, though it never did with the fish. 


I am glad that you have a wonderful relationship with your son, he will be a good person by following your example!

HemipShyl
HemipShyl


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HemipShyl
HemipShyl

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AndrewMark1
AndrewMark1

my name is Carolina i want to thank my friend for showing way to [email protected] where all my sorrow was turn to joy, i was in a relationship for 4 years and suddenly a mistake came into it from my side but i tried to beg my man but he refuse to listen to my apologies, until my friend told me about a spell caster called Dr Henry Olu that help her when she was also in a problem but i did not believed in her cause i don't also beloved in spell caster until i chose to give him a trial. this man told me what i need to do so that my man will come and after doing them my man came back to me to apologize the way this spell caster told me, so people out there i am using this opportunity to inform you all that this is the best caster that you can ever contact and trust in him cause with him all your problems, please contact him through his email address:[email protected]

nouseemailitisold
nouseemailitisold

Thank you for sharing this. You have given me some hope. See I am turning 16 and my parents have been divorced for a little more than half my life. I live with my mother and brother but I still have to see my father a few hours every other weekend. He was very abusive physically and verbally. I can't really remember a lot before I was 13, but there are still things I can remember. I remember him always being on his computer playing RPGs(while my mom went to work and supported us) and almost never coming when I needed him,hurting us, and never being well a dad to depend on. I would always try to seize any moment I could to go with my mom to work just to escape even though I was leaving my brother. When we would come home, my brother would have a new bruise or something. But what makes matters worse with the abuse of my brother, he used to have at least a hundred seizures nearly everyday and has almost died. No matter what excuse my father gave for their being another mark on him, it just made anger and pain fester within me. He used to all me a liar and manipulator starting when I was just a toddler. When my parents fought I tried to run in my room and hide. I always had to be careful with what I said because of the consequences of the slightest of things. Now I try whatever I can to not go over there, but it is very difficult because now I have three half-brothers that I adore and do anything for. When I do go over there, I try to show them love and try my hardest to not let them turn out like him. The things of the past still haunt me today though. I have the hardest time with anything that has to do with my opinion or any debate. I have an immediate shut down and start to freak. I have very bad panic attacks and my asthma like to tag along and make it worse. I can be very uncomfortable with men especially when I am alone and "cautious" (I will jerk at the slightest movements) and am always questioned to why I am acting so weird. I am terrified of what will happen with me and my future. I am so scared that something may happen down the road and I fall love with a guy that seems awesome but really is just like my father. Nothing is going to happen until I am married and out of college but, I am scared that I may go wrong with my child(ren) and mess there lives up. I don't want to be like that. And I thank God that I don't live with him anymore. I also want to thank Him that he has recently put a man in my life that wants to be a father figure for me even if we are in different states and cares for me enough to make me feel just a little bit special , and is a man of God I can look up to! I really want to thank God that there are people like you Mr. Pearce. Thank you for being a father that is there for their child and doing right by them! Thank you for being the kind of person that is sensitive to that kind of stuff! Your son is going to turn out wonderfully. I know you said that your not a perfect dad, hey nobody's perfect, but you sure are an AWESOME DAD! 

KennethLaura
KennethLaura

After been in relationship with a guy for 3 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called Dr, Aduwawa and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: ([email protected]) or you can call him  on +2348112019701, you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR.

Brice
Brice

When asked what you would do if it was your last day to live, it almost always involves spending time with family and loved ones, especially your spouse and kids.  If that is so important and so valuable that you would give up your entire last and final day to do it, why not enjoy it everyday?  Your time with them can be the most valuable gift and investment.

GabrielAnderson1
GabrielAnderson1

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Hello my name is Anna Anderson from United Kingdom, I never believe in love spells until I experience Dr. Samuel Oduduwa temple, and after he cast a love spell for me, my Ex husband who left me and 2 of our kids for 3years called me to apologize for the pain that he has caused me and till today we are living a happy family, if you need a right place to solve your problems contact DR ODUDUWA SAMUEL is the right choice. he is a great man that have been casting spells with years of experience, and his spell is absolutely harm free. he cast spells for different purposes like:

(1)If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3)You want to be promoted in your office.
(4)You want women/ men to run after you.
(5)If you want a child.
(6)[You want to be rich.
(7)You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
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h Yackley
h Yackley

Thank you for sharing this -- I have had the honor of having a wonderful dad who, throughout the years, in the midst of encouraging to do my best, always adds "I'm so proud of you, not for what you've done, impressive as that is, but who you are." He loves me and my sisters equally (though tells each of us in turn that we are his favorite). 


I think another huge thing to address is the fact that the way that a dad treats his wife is one of the most influential things in a child's life. My parents love each other, and do what they can - as a team - to help us live successful lives. It saddens me that so many of my friends have broken families. I'm convinced that mine would be the same if it were not for God's grace and help to shape my parents and my sisters and I to be the people that we are: definitely not perfect, but at least we love each other :) 

godfrey002
godfrey002

I'm glad to know there are dads out there like you, I'm lucky I never had children so I could end the cycle of abuse. I grew up with a father who could be very scary and shaming, he was habitually beaten by his father and didn't want his children to have the same experience, unfortunately he had no concept that verbal and emotional abuse were really abuse. He berated us routinely especially me since I was a boy, shaming us and calling us vial names and constantly threatening me with beatings or shaking me when I made him angry, then telling me I shouldn't have made him angry (hence his behavior was my fault). Even after a few therapists I'm still screwed up and full of self hatred, constantly trying to tell myself I'm not a sissy or a stupid little shit.


It's good that you know how lucky you are to have that precious little soul to shape and mold into someone good and healthy, I hope they realize the same thing when they become a dad.

Natalie
Natalie

I agree fully with this post. I have seen and known my share of dad/and moms alike, that need to read this and I wish it would help. For some it is too late but I hope this helps others to take a good look at their children. 

My husband is not perfect, he has those days that he needs to be alone when he gets home but most days when he gets home, even when he is ready to go right to sleep, he plays with the kids until it is time for them to go to bed. He makes sure they know he loves them every day and he treasures every moment he gets with them and wishes he had more time to spend with them.

JenniferHilsingerAltman
JenniferHilsingerAltman

I agree this story is sad, but everyone has bad days.  I know there are some days that people might see me with all 4 of my kids and I'm stressed and I might yell...am I proud of it?  No? But it happens.  I strive to be a very patient and understanding mom, but some days are better than others, no one is perfect.  But thanks for the reminder that we all can try a little harder.  

MARRIEDmomPissedOff
MARRIEDmomPissedOff

Maybe there was a backstory. Maybe the kid had been horrible in aisle 4. I assume that, as a divorced single dad, you have the luxury of "time off" from being a parent when your son is with his mother. Perhaps if you had been such a wonderful dad who had the right to cast stones at others, you might have done what was necessary to keep your marriage intact. Or do you think examples of parents who love each other don't matter? I'm not impressed.

MercedesWilliams
MercedesWilliams

I completely agree and am touched by your message! I have an amazing father that encouraged my questions and showed me how to find my own answers. :)

laura6168
laura6168

My husband is a dad in all senses of the word. He grew up without a father, not because of some awful tragic event but because his father didn't care to be a dad. He grew up and became the father his wasn't/isn't. Yes he gets frustrated and yells, yes he gets short on patience but he is the first to tell them how much he loves them, how much they've made his life complete. They are two years old and they call him their best friend. There is nothing in this world sweeter(and sexier) then a man that is truly a dad.

mominarizona
mominarizona

This is a great reminder to parents, moms and dads. I'm a mom of 4, and each day I try, but I must say, I always thought I'd be a better mom. My father was not a good dad, but my mom loved being a mother. I thought I'd be like her and I purposely tried to find a husband who was opposite of my father, and he is awesome with our kids! But my surprise was once my oldest children got out of toddler stages and more difficult, I am the one who struggles to control myself and my words. Some days from the out side, people think I'm super mom, but there have been many days when an on looker probably thought I don't deserve my children as well. I'm working on it, and appreciate this lesson of not breaking your child's spirit. Good parenting does not just naturally come to most I think, but it's important to recognize failings and try to do better with with each day.

Chris Mucklow Meyer
Chris Mucklow Meyer

No parent is perfect, but your post brings up many good points.  Parents lose patience.  But discipline done when angry or impatient in my very humble opinion, only teaches more anger and more impatience in the world.  Kids need direction and discipline. They crave it.  But "beating them down" especially in a public place teaches many things, and they are mostly bad.  Don't teach them that Dad or Mom is a bully because then they think that bullying is OK and maybe turn around and bully another child at school to vent their own anger.  

Monkey see, monkey do.  And it's very possible you will "break them" down enough to be a victim of bullying.  

"The greatest exercise we will ever do is reaching down and lifting someone else up."  ~Bill Phillips

NicoleSilverWolfPennetta
NicoleSilverWolfPennetta

OK, I'm not saying what this dad did was right. I am saying, what's the rest of the story? Is it possible that this child, previous to your seeing him was acting like a brat? I get compliments all the time on how well behaved my children are. But I still have to yell at them, all the time. When at the grocery store, I tell my son (7 years old) to stand against a wall near the register I'm using, and not to move, make noise or touch anything. Because he could break something, annoy someone else, get in someones way etc. whilst I'm busy trying to get us out of the store. Sometimes as a parent, you just want 5 minutes of silence, and kids don't understand that, so you get frustrated. Again, no he shouldn't have jabbed him in the collarbone, but making him stand against the wall is no big deal. Telling him to be quiet is not the end of the world. I think this is a mix of normal/over-reaction. I do this myself, jumping to conclusions about how people treat their kids, but I also say quite frequently, you don't know the whole story, so don't jump yourself.

JennKing1971
JennKing1971

I was raised by a great dad who let me take apart the toaster and then bought a new one when WE couldn't put it back together. He also took me fishing at 5:30am and out for breakfast at 6:00am when I got bored. He challenged me to learn, to explore and to fail. My husband was raised by a similar man and is now raising our girls to be amazing humans. There are GREAT dads out there and I'm eternally grateful to be related to three of them!

0130
0130

I love it!  I hate when I see parents being mean to their kids in public bc you know it is soooo much worse when they are at home.  My husband and I were not blessed with children yet and are going through fertility treatments to help us live your dream of becoming parents. These 2 lines of this blog really had me:

Maybe the truth is that a lot of dads don’t deserve their kids.

Maybe the truth is that a lot of dads aren’t really dads at all.


Those lines really hit home with me bc people always tell me I am a mom with no children and I truly feel that way and I know my husband is a father with no children. 


I loved the blog but hated that something like this even needs to be discussed as an issue. 

Steps are people too
Steps are people too

This points back to something I learned a long time ago...  Any man can be a father.  It takes a GREAT man to be a Dad.  GOOD parents know the difference between babysitting their children, and PARENTING them.

llbaatz
llbaatz

I loved your article!!  I find your comments to be honest, forthcoming, and Passionate!  I wish all dads could be like you and I thank my husband for being this kind of dad.  We always looked at our daughter as a gift entrusted to us by God that we needed to take good care of, nurture, and teach!!  The caped crusader must have read another article or have some issues with his own parents to be so full of hate and sarcasm.  Please keep writing with such passion and emotion.

TrishAnn1
TrishAnn1

I love this article! Very well written. But the word Dad should definitely apply to all parents. I've seen my fair share of ass bag mothers who don't deserve to be mother. People who smack their children in the middle of the mall for talking to loudly of walking to fast. Disgusts me. Too many people treat children like their a nuisance. And considering how many people can't even physically have children - each day should be treasured. Our community lost a little 5 year old boy yesterday to a rare form of brain cancer - and it really makes you appreciate what you have. Congrats on being an awesome dad!!! 

thecapedcrusader
thecapedcrusader

What a bunch of horseshit.  Get off your high horse.  Not only is this insulting to the majority of dads out there, implying that we don't treat our kids with kindness let alone lavish attention, praise and guidance on them, but you also imply that only Dads do this by directing this at one half of the parental unit.  Weak.

You act as if you're the only one who can see in the land of the blind.  I laughed out loud at this part:

"People see my relationship with Noah, and quite often put me up on a pedestal or sing my praises for loving him more than most dads love their own kids." 

Do they throw rose petals at your feet, or just lay palms down before your donkey?

This blog post was disgusting.  Grow up.  If you think you're a saint for spending time with your kid, and you see fathers hating their kids everywhere you go, that says more about your world view than the reality the rest of us live in.

By the way, way to step in and chastise the actual person who was abusing their kid (if it actually happened) instead of waiting to run home and yell at all the dads who DIDN'T do this just so you could get the clicks.  Nice one, Superdad.

jinx63
jinx63

I recently posted a meme that said "Let's raise children that don't have to recover from their childhood."  At 51 I am still recovering from mine.  This applies to everyone who deals with kids, dads, moms, grandparents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts... you are raising these children, you add or take away from their self worth every single day...with your words and your actions or your lack or words or actions.   I have a 14yo daughter with alopecia areata..her hair falls out, sometimes she is bald.  However, she does not hesitate to stand up in class to answer a question or challenge some broad all-inclusive statement a teacher makes that she disagrees with, or walk across a stage in a packed gymnasium as a tiny 6th grader 6 times with no wig to accept the awards she receives for being a good student and athlete and peer to her fellow classmates.  She just convinced almost 50 children in a small town in southern Indiana to sign you for a Young Democrats club... again -- in southern INDIANA..  LOL She knows she is beautiful for who she is, that she is smart and talented and loved unconditionally by many, and that she deserves it.  When I watch her I am proud because I know that despite my lousy childhood, I am getting something right, and helping form this beautiful, together, loving kid, who is going to be a great mom to my grandkids one day....  If you had a bad childhood,  you know what not to do... You are deciding who your child will be with your actions and the words you say... and you will never do anything more important.

Kaitlin
Kaitlin

@Dodie I do understand that there could potentially be a backstory to this child and his father. However, it's one thing to say no to ice cream as to not reward bad behavior. It's a totally different thing to tell your child in public nonetheless to "leave you alone." That is NOT the way to speak to a child. If the child has done something wrong, it is OUR job as parents to speak to them about their behavior and make them understand why it was wrong. The author also wrote that man jammed his fingers into his son’s collar bones until he winced in pain, and threatened him by saying, “If you so much as make a sound or come off of that wall again, I promise you’re going to get it when we get home." Do you honestly think threatening your child or using any type of violence on a child is right? Let's be honest, the threat didn't sound like a spanking. And again, this was done in public. I am a mother and I understand parents can get frustrated when out with their children especially during grocery shopping. However, this is still not something you a) say or do in public and b) say or do to a child. Children are going to make wrong choice or do silly or stupid things that is a given. It is again OUR job as parents to guide them, help them understand right from wrong, talk to them, and most of all LOVE them no matter if they do the wrong thing or the right thing. You 100% missed the point of the article. Right away you blamed the child because the child may have done the wrong thing on the way to Costco. You did not even focus on what this child's father said, did and above all how this father made his child feel. If the father can make his child feel like that in public then I could only imagine how he would make him feel at home. I truly feel sad for you Dodie. Maybe you shouldn't be a teacher because i too am a teacher, a 3rd grade teacher to be exact. I teach in an area where not all the parents teach their children right from wrong and some don't give a shit about their kids half the time. I know what it's like to have students think things are supposed to be just handed to them because many of the parents in the area where I teach are on welfare and refuse to get a job. Their kids all believe they should have everything given to them. Knowing all of this, instead of being mad at the children or blaming them, I empathize with them. Again, I truly feel sad for you.

gamerghanda
gamerghanda

@NoMoreChildAbuse are you serious you are the reason kids cant go to the park alone anymore you call the cops over the smallest bullshit. you think you're doing good but you don't know if his home life is better. you just assume that because he wants him to be calm at the store that he must be beating him or some shit. 

nouseemailitisold
nouseemailitisold

@MARRIEDmomPissedOff            

 Hey, really? There are sometimes (and I am NOT making a excuse, so don't say I am -_-) where no matter how hard you try, it just ain't going to happen. Though I have no experience because I am a teenager and don't plan on anything of the sort until after college, there are so many marriages that I have seen fallen apart for different reasons. Some were stupid some "excusable", some fixed some not so much. You know what, you right. Maybe the child was severely misbehaving before that, maybe he wasn't. The world may never know 0o0! BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stop trying to be Mrs. Persnickety Snoop and seem cool and point out this stuff. Cause your not. He is just trying to make a point that dads (mothers too) hold a great power in a child's life and to not abuse it. God forbid he post a message that could change a child's life and possibly help mend a marriage. He didn't know what happened before hand and you DON'T know every little detail that happen with his marriage. He's teaching his child to not be in a relationship that makes him unhappy (and not because of petty stuff, I'm talking seriously so don't go there). So please, please, do us all a favor and don't be mean. And judging by your name, I'm guessing you are not in a pleasant marriage. Maybe I'm wrong. But IF you are, don't take it out on others. It's not pretty. At least he got out of a marriage that wasn't really working out. OR if you are a happily MARRIED mom that's pissed of with him demonstrating how to be a decent father and that just wants to come on here and make single divorced parents feel bad. Leave! There is no reason for you to be on here. Go be a marriage councilor. Make a blog about it. Just don't ruin someone else's guidance. I don't know you (and I am tired and not in the most happiest moods with you right know, and this is not be extremely Christianly of me to post this much vent) but I love you. Please be a friendly person and carry on my wayward sister, and be HAPPY!

P.S. I was being serious about becoming a marriage councilor if you feel that your marriage is going great. People need it! ;) 

gamerghanda
gamerghanda

@thecapedcrusader I agree with you sir. The world is not all rainbows and sunshine, so people need to stop making their kids believe it is. When your kid grows up and sees how cruel and mean the world really is, hes probably going to kill himself. I had to tell my kid to calm down at the store today yea i probably looked like a dick but i don't abuse him but he needed a word, he was dancing around and bumped into three people. I thought it was rude so i got to his level and told him sternly to calm down. To the "author" of this blog and to trishann1 im sure this means i abuse my kid at home. you're idiots and your children must see you as idiots as you tend to their EVERY single whim. when they grow up to be douche bags remember it was your fault for not not instilling any form of discipline 

TrishAnn1
TrishAnn1

@thecapedcrusader I'd hate to be your kid...jackass. 

vayas08
vayas08

@gamerghanda Telling your kid firmly to stop his shenanigans is not abusive. That is good parenting. What the father in this grocery store did is fairly different. Judging by the rampaging mental instability running through your comment, however, I doubt it would be easy to explain to you the difference.

thecapedcrusader
thecapedcrusader

@TrishAnn1 Why?  Because I know horseshit when I read it?  This guy wrote the most self-serving blog I've ever read, setting himself up as the gold standard of fatherhood while insulting the rest of us.  He lives in a fantasy world if he thinks this is the norm and odds are, he probably made this whole thing up to get the clicks. 

Good for him, but shit writing.  He offers a shallow point of view and takes a position on an issue he made up that EVERYONE agrees with.  It's just weak trash.

vayas08
vayas08

@thecapedcrusader @TrishAnn1 Why would you assume this post is aimed at "the majority of dads," let alone aimed at you...  unless you are in fact the kind of douchebag who makes his kids feel like shit?  Methinks the crusader doth protest too much.


You and this gamerghanda jackass should start a support group for injured dads. Because it's not abused and bullied kids who deserve sympathy, oh no... it's the poor widdle, delicate daddy-flowers like you who have to deal with the unbearable stress of occasionally thinking that distant strangers may possibly question their parenting skills. What pain and suffering you must go through. What injustice. What a crock of whiny, self-indulgent NARCISSISTIC BULLSHIT.