I felt a need to post a follow-up tonight to the last two bullying posts. While the majority of the response to both posts has been extremely positive, there seems to be something that keeps being stated by those in opposition.
When my child is being bullied, I will not teach him to try and befriend or love the bully.
Please re-read the articles. I never asked him to do so, nor would I. The reason I shared my own story was to demonstrate that children who are being viciously bullied are not in a proper frame of mind. They are generally incapable of making rational choices or decisions. Their minds are spinning with only the unhealthiest of thoughts.
No, we can not expect the bullied to end this problem. They can’t do it.
The major point of both posts was that we have the power to end it. Mothers, fathers, grandparents, teachers, friends, peers, youth advisers, pastors, and neighbors. We can end it. We must end it. And we must use love to accomplish this goal.
It is only when we band together beneath a blanket of understanding that we can expect to see any real change happen.
So please, let’s stop the debate. We must unite if we are to end this problem. The bullied can’t do it, only the bullies can. And only we can love the bullies enough that they begin to love themselves.
People who love themselves don’t hurt other people.
This is not to say that if you are being bullied you are helpless. You have a voice. Find it.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing.
If you haven’t read the other posts, you can find them here: