As you know, at Single Dad Laughing we sometimes talk about letting go of “Perfection” and what it means to really love yourself. We’ve debated how healthy it is for men to place unfair expectations on women (particularly in the looks department), and we’ve also found ourselves lost in discussion about what “normal” even is.
Over the past couple months, I have repeatedly found myself deep in conversation with family members, friends, and SDL followers about how all of these things tie together, what it means for me personally, and what I truly and personally believe.
|What do you mean “nothing really special in the looks department?”|
One of the more interesting conversations I’ve had was with my dad. I had a date lined up with a girl that I had recently become acquainted with. My dad knew this girl as well, and when he found out I had asked her out, he jokingly said, “Dan, you can’t take a girl like that out on a date. All your readers will think you’re a phony!” I took it in the good humor that he intended, but it did give me lots to think about. It’s made me ponder three things. First, is it wrong to want beautiful? Second, what is beautiful? And third, should I be concerned about what my followers will think when it comes to the girls I date?
So, first question. Is it wrong to want beautiful? Dear God, I hope not. I would hope that it goes without saying that you must be physically attracted to any person you choose to pursue romantically. I’m going to go out on a dangerous limb here, and say that those women who feel a “good man” shouldn’t be attracted to certain types of beauty are simply women who don’t feel attractive to anyone themselves. They feel that they could never be that woman. And so, for a “good man” to be attracted to a woman “like that”, makes them feel rejected. And nobody likes feeling rejected.
Which brings me to the second question, and probably the trickiest of the three. What is beautiful?