A real dad touches his child as often as he possibly can. This rule is among the most important of all the Real Dad Rules, and yet is the number one rule being followed less and less because of a society whose members have gotten into the habit of over-scrutinizing a man’s every move with his child.
I believe it goes without saying that there is a very wide, very black and white line between appropriate touch and inappropriate touch. This discussion specifically centers on the miraculous, healing, and beautiful touch that comes to children at the tender hands of their real dads. The only thing I feel inclined to mention about inappropriate touch is this: real dads don’t do it, and they don’t need any guidebook telling them not to do it or where the line is.
But oh the delightful and calming power of healthy touch! There is no force more powerful in all the world to bond one person to another, and more specifically a child to her parents. Real dads touch their children in poignant and influential ways, and they never stop to think about what cultural proscriptions might exist, who might be watching, or what people might be thinking. They touch their children freely and openly, always aware of the powerful transfer that exists every time they do.
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