It was one year ago today that I published the post How Much Did YOUR Kid Cost? It was the first post I ever wrote that went viral. In all honesty, I can’t believe it’s only been a year since then. That post was a natural extension to the purely humorous and sarcastic tone that Single Dad Laughing was at that point. It was written at a time when the pain of the girls splitting was still very fresh for me and the want to be something (anything) great was hard to find.
I wrote that post when I was admittedly upset. After all, the day I wrote it, somebody had asked me how much my kid cost, right in front of him. I remember with everything Noah and I were going through, it was a bit of a last straw for me. I still feel bad for the poor old lady who said it. I gave her a single look that said it all… You are every reason I hate every person in the world right now. Then I snubbed my nose at her and went home and wrote How Much Did YOUR Kid Cost?
Most of you weren’t around back then. In fact, only 0.2% of SDL’s current readers were around at that point. It’s amazing where my writing has mentally taken me since then, what has happened to my writing voice, and what I have learned about writing in general. Still, as I read that post, I can’t help but smile. It was dirtier writing. It was snarkier writing. It was less polished writing. But, it was my writing and it was written with real emotion behind it.
I think the sarcasm that was as thick as it was in that post has more or less lost its way from this blog. To some degree I am thankful for that. Sometimes I really miss it. One of the great things about that post was that almost everybody who read it seemed to get it. They got that the sarcasm was just that. Sarcasm. I’ve found that the bigger Single Dad Laughing gets, the harder it is to be sarcastic in a way that everybody gets. Any time I attempt it nowadays, I have somebody (or lots of people) jump down my throat telling me how inappropriate I am or how thoughtless and inconsiderate I’m being.
Looking back, it’s one of my favorite posts I’ve ever posted on SDL. Why? I’m not sure. Probably because I wrote it when almost nobody was following me yet and I didn’t feel the weight and pressure to write something politically correct or encompassing of everybody’s feelings. Writing then was less restrictive, that’s for sure. That post was probably the last post I wrote without the worry of the masses.
It was also the first post I wrote that used the word “damn” in it. Damn is a bad word in my family, and in the religion I had been a part of. Most of my dedicated audience at that point was still in that religion and I was afraid it would be the end of me. It was actually quite liberating (as silly and insignificant as that word is) to say what I wanted to say instead of what I felt others wanted me to say. And, believe it or not, it was doing that that gave me much of the courage to write The Disease Called Perfection which I’ll write about in one week on its first year anniversary.
One year. Had I known that writing How Much Did YOUR Kid Cost would be the catalyst to change my life the way it had, would I still have written it? Had I known it would lead me down a road that would cause me to quit an incredible and high-paying job in exchange for the unpredictable life chasing a dream, would I have done it? Had I known it would leave me so open to criticism and near-castration by people I never met and never meant to offend, would I have done it? Had I known that two months later I would have nothing to bank on, nothing to land on, and nothing to really hold onto, would I still have done it?
Probably not. After all, I still lived much of my life in fear at that point. I still believed I could control my life and the outcome of my life at that point. I still believed I had a say in where life took me.
Would I go back and change anything? Would I take it back if I could?
While I wouldn’t have chosen it, there is no doubt that I can look back and see that the journey it would take me on would be no less than amazing, liberating, and self-finding.
How Much Did Your Kid Cost? One sarcastic post that would change my life (and many other lives) forever more.
One year later. Wow, what a chain of events. Thank you for sharing that post. I still believe in the message of that post. If you haven’t yet, read it. If you want to be awesomer than awesome and keep it going, click like below or tweet it again!
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing