Last week I opened up the floor to all of you to ask any questions you like about me or this blog. I answered your top ten questions and my top ten questions, and it got so long that I called it quits and didn’t answer a lot of your other fun questions. After it was over, several of you commented that you thought I should just do a second post with answers to more of the questions. So, here goes! Hopefully I don’t bore you to death.
If you missed the first Q&A, be sure to check it out. We had a lot of fun with it.
Victoria asked, “when you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up and why? What did your parents tell you about it? What does Noah wanna be and what do you say about it?”
My parents always supported me in what I wanted to be when I grew up. My dad is a man who has chased his dreams his entire life, and he encourages his kids to chase theirs as well. When I was younger, I really wanted to be a hairdresser when I grew up. I don’t know why. Later on when I actually started growing up, my dream went from film maker, to sociologist, to kinesiologist, to writer, to business owner.
Melanie asked, “Has your curiosity ever piqued and made you consider dating a reader?”
Yes. I used to have a rule that I wouldn’t date readers and then I realized, that’s a stupid rule. It was when I realized that maybe, just maybe, the people who read this blog might have some real things in common with me that I changed my mind. I had to get off my high horse, I guess, and stop thinking that I was all that and stop thinking that the popularity of my blog was the only reason readers wanted to date me. Turns out I’m not “all that” at all.
I’ve been on a handful of dates with readers now, and I’ve made a few great friends as a result.
Becky asked, “What is your Favorite part of being a blogger?”
Good question. I really love what I do. I think my favorite part has to be when I write something that gives somebody else the courage to do something incredible in their own life. I love hearing about it. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. I wish everybody could spend a day rummaging through my inbox. It would change them.
Sarah asked, “what do you teach Noah about religion and spirituality?”
Noah is just getting to the age where he notices that Dad and Mom are living slightly different lives. In the chapter Real Dads Believe of my book (which you can read here on the blog), I go into depth about my philosophies in this.
The gist is that I don’t think parents should ever tell their children what to believe. Instead, they should share with their children what they themselves believe and then be an example of how a person should live his beliefs.
Jennifer said, “i want to know… in your videos is that your real voice or do you put on a little show as far as your voice goes?”
Faith replied, “dude, that’s totally how he talks.”
Jennifer responded, “I guess it always seems kind of… fake.
Ummm… now I’m wondering what I sound like because to me I just sound like me. Believe me, I’m no thespian. Dramatic, yes. Crazy, absolutely. Manly, not really. Maybe all of that combines to make me abnormal. Haha. Oh well. You all know how I feel about being normal.
Justme75025 asked, “Now that you have had Noah home for a while, what are your feelings on open adoption vs. closed adoption?”
I really wish Noah’s birth mom was more a part of our lives. I am a big fan of open adoption. Always have been. I’ve seen a lot of beautiful relationships between adoptive parents and birth parents. My sister is a birth mom and the adoptive parents have such a special open relationship with her. I love it.
Chelsea asked, “Do you believe in true love?”
Yes. And I believe I’ll find it. Someday. When I finally get the guts to wax my back.
Dennis asked, “Do you actively practice a religion? Go to church? Read the bible?
Chantyshira asked, “Did you always know you wanted kids, or did that come with time? If so, what brought you to that realization?”
I always knew I wanted kids, yes. I grew up with nine siblings, and I was the second oldest. Kids have always brought so much happiness into my life. I just think they’re the most perfect examples of non-judgmental love that we have.
Kim asked two questions. First, “What was, in your opinion, your best judgment call ever?” Second, “What was, in your opinion, your worst judgment call ever?”
Whoa, pulling out the big guns here. Let’s see… best judgment call ever… I’d have to say deciding that a second round of in vitro wasn’t the way to go. Instead we jumped right into the adoption process, and, well… you know the rest of the story.
As for worst judgment call ever, I’d have to say choosing to hide behind the walls of my guarded heart while the girl I loved (and who truly loved me) kept getting more hurt by it.