This Happiness Series of posts is taking me on quite the mental and emotional adventure. To be honest, I had no idea what I was going to write when I started this project. I had no idea what many of my feelings even were on the subject. All I knew was that there were certain dynamics of happiness that I wanted to “write out” so that I could know what my feelings were on everything.
I won’t lie. It’s taken it out of me so far. A lot of people don’t realize how entirely depleting it is to write overly introspective pieces. Each post (of that nature) takes anywhere from four to ten hours for me to write and edit. During that time, my brain is going a bazillion miles an hour, trying to think of each and every dynamic of each and every dynamic that I’m writing about. It’s a grueling endurance test of brutal honesty juggled with concern about whether my viewpoints and words will be read the way I intend.
And I don’t tell you that looking for anything from you. I tell you that so you’ll understand when I tell you that after I publish the next couple posts in the series, I’m going to start spacing them out at least a few days apart from each other. I’ve realized that I can’t keep writing one a day. I’ll end up in a loony bin.
You see, the more I write about this, the more I realize there is more I want to write in this series. The more I think about it all, the more dynamics I realize need to be explored. I’m up to 18 posts (five I’ve published already) that I’m planning to write. I’m sure by the end there will be at least a few more.
And… I met someone.
You’ve already met her in my post First Date Carnage, which by the way was completely silly, sarcastic, and only mostly true (which is what humor blogging is all about sometimes). There were a few people that took it all literally and thought she was horrible. You all stop it. 🙂 It was honestly one of the best first dates I’ve ever been on.
I don’t know why and I don’t know how, but our connection has been something absolutely incredible since we first met. I literally have never laughed with a woman so hard in my life. We have such similar beliefs. We both are absolutely passionate about some of the same hobbies and activities. She also noticed something about my personality on our second date that literally no other woman I’ve dated or been married to has ever “seen” or appreciated. And she loved that part of me.
That meant a lot.
There are also a lot of quirks and imperfections between the two of us. There are some things I do that will eventually drive her batty. There are some things she does that will eventually drive me bananas. And I love that, too. Life’s too short not to celebrate the quirks and imperfections and differences of those we care so much about.
Anyway, you know how when you meet someone really special, you just kind of know that they’re going to be around for a while?
Well, I kind of just know that Brandy Girl is gonna be around for a while. “Brandy Girl,” by the way, is going to be her nickname that I use when I write. I’m sure you’ll hear more about her on SDL. Probably too much. We tend to think we’re pretty funny when we’re together.
But, my point (yes, I do have a point in all of these random thoughts) is that as I’ve started really dating Brandy Girl, I’ve been brought to think of a few other dynamics that I want to write about in the Happiness Series. Dynamics that I haven’t thought much about in a very long time. Dynamics involving the way many of us look at romantic love in our pursuit of happiness. Dynamics that really are an integral part of the equation.
It’s been interesting writing this series, falling for a girl at the exact same time. And to be honest, I don’t think the timing could be better.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing