When you date a single parent
And you wanna make ‘em swoon
Show ‘em that you speak their language
And ask to share a spoon.
But don’t stop there, you sexy thing
You have a golden chance
To connect in ways you never have
And add to the romance.
First tell ‘em that your house is messy
Say, “I just don’t have the time,
Between life and love and doing things
For those that I call mine.”
Then tell ‘em that you love to laugh
Sometimes it’s your only tool
When things turn into crazy mayhem
And chaos becomes the rule.
And tell ‘em that you love to ride
In those spicy minivans.
And tell ‘em that you love to eat
From freezers and from cans.
And tell ‘em that some days you stay
In your pajamas until two.
And tell ‘em that you often want
Something to remain new.
And if you do all this, my friend
You’ll really start to see
That the pathway to a single parent’s heart
Is as easy as 1-2-3.
It’s not in the way you do your hair
Or the way your muscles rip
It’s not in the things that you can buy
Or your ability to strip.
It’s in your smile and the way it shows
Whether it can thrive or not
Amid the craziness life often is
When you’re dealing with tiny tots.
It’s in your laugh and the way it proves
The kind of person that you are
It’s in the way you talk of others
And not about your car.
It’s in your hands, and the way they touch
The ones you love most dear
Cause soon those hands might also touch
Those ones that they hold near.
It’s in your words and the way they lift
Their heart when it’s feeling low
It’s in your eyes and the way they find
Their sometimes dampened glow.
But more than anything, I think perhaps
The thing that they need most
Is someone who can see beyond
The toughness they must show.
Yes single parents don’t have the chance
To show when they are weak
Or sick, or hurt, or off alone
Crying themselves to sleep.
Supermoms and Superdads,
They’re only missing capes
But give ‘em half a minute and
They’ll make one out of drapes.
Just know that you’ll wear one as well,
If a single parent you are to woo
It’s gonna be tough, but it’ll be worth it
When you’re covered in glitter and glue.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing
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I have no children. My boyfriend has an 8 year old son. My boyfriend once said to me, "I don't want to make you angry but in order of priority you will always be second to him."
My response: "Good. I should be. If I came before him I would seriously doubt where your head is."
He said he had never loved me more than in that moment.
Many things has to keep in mind if you date a single mother specially the emotional part , as she is already a broken at heart and need emotional support the utmost.
I am a single parent of 3 children. I have been married 4 times. One of my daughters hasn't spoken with me in over 10 years. Thank you for sharing this. It helped me @patrickwhite
very sweet. I find, after 10 years of this single parent thing, that my needs have shifted, the kids are teens now, and they don't "need" or "expect" a father figure, so the pressure is off on any potential suitors to be covered in glitter and glue. They really just have to be very respectful of my time, my children, my still messy house. :-) It does make it a little less daunting a challenge to date me, I think. No need for a cape. It does get easier...
I'm not a single parent, but this was beautiful and touched me as well. I'm married and have 3 kids with another on the way. We own our own business and sometimes things get so crazy that my hubby and I lose touch with eachother. There's so much truth here about how to reconnect. It really is beautiful. Thanks for this!
i am so in tears right now! how true! I am a single mom. this hit home hard!I laughed, i cried, it moved me! it is so hard at times. and so many people don't seem to understand. you see me out an about with a charismatic smile and a happy hello. you see me reading or playing with my tyke. what you miss the loneliness i don't let show. someday i hope someone like you woos me.
Sweet. <3
Lovely! I just wanted to say though, after nearly 4 years, the idea of dating still makes me nauseous!! Besides, too busy!!!!!!
Liked it so much I had to read it a couple times! Great job!
I love it! Thanks again Dan you saved an aweful week!
Yay! I am a single parent about to take on my ex for the joint custody of my daughter. Long story sorry to say. But that poem is so accurate.
You can say you "get" how tough being a single parent is, but you'll never know unless you become one. My children have such an age gap, I had forgotten how hard things could get. I lost overtime, which means we are now living paycheck-to-paycheck. Which, in turn means, I'm struggling to buy the diapers my youngest needs, and she's still too young to potty train. Being a single parent is, quite possibly, the hardest challenge I've ever had to face in my "young" life, but I welcome it every morning. I love my kids with all of me, they will ALWAYS come first.
I'm currently dating a single father with partial custody. Not having children of my own doesn't make me not comprehend what its like to be a single parent. Many of my girlfriends are single parents, so I do get the often sleepless nights, the worrying, sicknesses, happiness, first steps, first words, kids finding trouble for the first time, etc..I absolutely LOVE watching my man in action with his son. It is possibly one of the most endearing things to me. In fact, his son was kind of a centerpoint for us communicating to each other in the very very beginning.. his son was quite ill, and it was my texts back and forth to him asking how he was doing, how the little one was doing, and just reaching out the best way I could at that point (because we hadn't met face to face at that time--only exchanged emails and messages on a dating site). It's a new thing for me, but it totally warms my heart to see him be an amazing father to his son--that's a major check mark in the personality department. "Love me, love my kid" is always present with a single parent in any involved relationship.. some can agree and abide, others can't. There will be one that sticks by your little family no matter what. =)
I was a single parent once and I know exactly what you mean in your poem...even though I am a married woman I still feel like a single mom becuz our children never go to him instead they always go to me for answers, questions, love, compassion, bedtime stories, and just to be a shoulder to cry on.
Thanks buddy! On one of those days when being a single parent has been challenging (12 year old daughter issues), this poem has made my day ... We are in a class all our own ...
Perfect!
Loved it!
I heart this!!
I want to share this, but my phone won't let me! This is a great poem and you, sir, have a fantastic blog! I'm so glad my friends shared a link one day and I found you! From the funny to the serious, you write from the heart!
Fabulous! I'm not a single parent, but maybe I need to find one to date...it sure sounds from this poem like they are much more in touch with what really matters than most of the non-single parents I have met lately!!!
This is awesome! So true. It made me smile.
Now you need to start a single parent dating site!
Awesome words of the soul!
Thank you Dan. Three years as a single mom and Im just now thinking about dating. This made me laugh and I really dont think I could date someone who didnt understand my life!!
Its so true too Dan. Thanks for writing it!
Keshauna: I am definitely going to start using "Holy Shiitake". That made me gigglesnort.
Dan, thank you. My body didn't know whether to laugh or cry, so I'm still doing both! You wrote the poem I couldn't find the time, energy or words to write today! Brilliant and touching.
@LaviniaStienerPoholarz Aw, your comment makes me happy. :) << and there's the proof.
"But more than anything, I think perhaps The thing that they need most Is someone who can see beyond The toughness they must show." my fave :)
This is just... WOW.. it touched my heart... THANK YOU! Its amazing!
Very cute post dan. What a beautiful way to end a long day...
You make me smile.
But, I don't have drapes, only mini blinds.... Shower curtain, it is! Last one to the couch-cushion fort is a rotten egg! :p
Loved it and shared it! I am not even a parent and it stirred up a little tear. I have immeasurable love and respect for all the women and men that work so hard to be everything for the people that mean everything to them
@jerry ford
Allyson, yes! It always surprises me and I immediately feel overwhelmed with emotion when someone else sums up how I feel. Love the poem, Dan. I will share, of course. Xoxoxo
"Supermoms and Superdads, They're only missing capes - But give 'em half a minute and They'll make one out of drapes." - best line!
Right on! Thank you for this
Well said Sir, well said. The hard exterior is what I am beat at but I can admit, I was tearing by the end. It is amazing the emotions that surface when someone hits the nail straight on the head; you can't deny your emotion at that point
I find it so bizarre that this applies to me now, too. I am a single mum. How odd (as of 9 weeks ago and I still feel like i'm lying when I say i'm single).
<3 it!!!
I'm no longer a single parent, but I was for 10 years. The man who stole my heart started with "I think it's hot that you put your son first". He move on to "can I come over and make dinner for you and your son?" and then he asked my son to give his blessing for us to be married. What I'm saying is that it struck a chord.
Love it!!!!
this is so coooool!!!!!!!!!
That was an amazing poem.
That was brilliant! :)
When it comes to being a single parent in general, it's really hard to find ANYTHING that one can relate to. Idk if it's how you word things, or that you seriously just "get it". But you have given voice to much that people just don't understand. Single parenting being among that category. Thank you, Dan, for all your blogs and vlogs. For me personally, you make me laugh, you make me cry, and you make me go "holy shiitake I never thought of it that way" lol. :)
This is awesome! :)))
That was AWESOME!!!
Lots of single parents out there, struggling with dating.