You see… Somehow I learned early in life that you can’t rewind time, but you certainly can trick it. You can make time and take time that others squander, and you can give it to yourself. You can add minutes, days, and years onto your life simply by not wasting it fighting for things that don’t ultimately matter or can be replaced. This is the only way to get more time. The only way.
But money and possessions are only the first things we waste so much time on. There is actually one greater destructor to time than any of that.
Hurt will erode time faster than any other force. You see, those who hurt often mask that hurt with other surface emotions such as anger, resentment, or envy. And when such emotions are riding on the surface, we become unable to forgive. And when we become unable to forgive, we waste more thoughts, more energy, and more time than with anything else in life.
Even the ugliest divorces rarely waste more than a few years of a person’s life. I’ve seen the inability to forgive waste decades. And I bet you have, too.
Decades that are gone. Forever.
What is amazing to me is that forgiveness is as much a one time decision as giving up money or things, but for some reason it is (for most of us) so much harder.
It is sometimes harder to give up hurt than it is to give up a million dollars.
But when we hold onto that hurt, and we subsequently are angry and can’t forgive, we do so at a price.
And that’s not okay because we cannot rewind the clock. We can not get the life we exchanged back.
“But what do you possibly know about forgiveness?” you may ask. “When have you ever been so wronged that forgiveness was almost impossible?” It’s a very fair question. I don’t need to tell you specifics. Just know that I have been wronged more than you could ever imagine. I have been betrayed by those closest to me with others who were closest to me. As a child, I experienced nearly unforgiveable moments.
I know hurt. I know duplicity. I know what it’s like to be maimed by those who should be protecting you.
I also know what it’s like to forgive immediately in exchange for time. I know what it’s like to add years and maybe decades onto my life by simply letting go of the hurt before it could consume me. And forgiveness was always a decision that simply had to be made.
Money. Things. Hurt.
Sometimes we have to let it all go so that we don’t waste the greatest gift that we all have.
Time. Life. And our next breaths.
“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.”
I’ve lost a lot of money and a lot of things. I’ve given up my God-given right to be hurt. But it didn’t matter and it doesn’t matter. Not to me. Because none of that affects the real price of anything. Indeed, nothing matters in the long run more than time.
So let’s beat the system in the only way we can. If you’re fighting for something that can be replaced, let go of it. If you’re holding onto hurt, let go of it. If you’re giving up any portion of your life for things that simply don’t matter… well, you know what you need to do. Give yourself the best gift you ever will… the gift of time.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing
PS. Thank you for commenting today and for sharing this post. Tell me, have you experienced letting something go in exchange for time? How did that make you feel? Have you ever regretted it? And, is there anything that you are having a hard time letting go of? Is there somebody you can’t forgive for something? And is it worth the time you’re spending not forgiving?