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It seems just about everybody has an opinion about when the proper time is to let the people you date meet your children. Heaven knows it’s been a subject that I’ve had to think heavily about any time a new love interest enters my life.
I think there is a lot of good advice out there, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that there isn’t a one size fits all answer to it.
There are so many factors that I have to consider any time I date someone. And, since I like making lists, why not make a list about this…
Top Eight Factors I Think About When Introducing My Child to New Love Interests
1) Is this person actually going to be around for a while? If there’s a doubt, I don’t introduce my son to her. In fact, no woman I date ever gets to meet my son unless I think she’s a keeper.
2) Has my son met someone I’ve dated too recently? I’m 32. I’m single. That means it hasn’t worked out with several different women. Since he tends to like and get attached to the women I bring around, I give the loss of any relationship some time to fade and heal before I bring someone new into the picture.
3) Is the woman I just met too eager for me to meet her kids? This is a red flag to me. As a protective father, it scares me to date a woman who isn’t equally as protective. When a woman invites me over to meet her kids after a date or two, it’s hard for me to believe that she has her kids’ best interest in mind and I probably won’t be introducing her to mine.
4) Does the thought of a new relationship stress out my child? My son gives me verbal cues and body language that tell me whether or not he’s ready for me to bring someone new into his life. And he fluctuates, too. Sometimes he lets me know that he’s excited at the thought of someone new. Other times he lets me know he needs more time with just dad.
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