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To Be a Better Blogger: Goal #4

Day four of my better blogger goals…

With a new home, fewer expenses, less stress, and a general new beginning in place for us, I’ve decided it’s time to step it up as a blogger.

So, I’ve made some goals. And I’ve read enough motivational books to know that a goal isn’t a real goal unless it’s written down and shared with others.

So, I’m going to do just that, and over the next few afternoons I’m going to share some of my better blogger goals with you all. I hope you’ll give me feedback as to whether or not those goals will make this blog a better experience for you!

GOAL #4: Get more personal again.

Man, I have a lot of ideas for important things I’d love to write, but the last two big big ones really gave me stage freight.

Writing those kinds of things brings me a lot of attention, and a lot of it is attention I wouldn’t wish on my enemy. Or on that guy at the gym who sometimes looks at me as if to say, “why do you even come?”

So, I’ve gotten more silly and more ranty and shared a lot of posts that don’t really do what I love to do, which is to start conversations.

My goal is to overcome my fear of the aftermath and write what my heart is dying to say. To hell with the consequences.

What I could use from you: Ten or so pairs of Under Armor skivvies to work-out in. They’re so dang expensive but so dang nice to have at the gym.

Just kidding.

This is all me. I don’t need anything from you on this one. Thus the goal “get more personal.” :)

Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing


Heh heh - I actually named my blog "Shove Me in the Shallow Water," the line from the Edie Brickell song. I'm always backing off to the more light hearted stuff after going deep for many of the same reasons. By the way, your posts that start conversations are my favorite posts.


Ignore the guy who gives you weird looks at the gym, put on some awesome 80s tunes and jam out! 

Violet Mudrost
Violet Mudrost

Dan, this is my first time to your blog, and I have to say that getting personal is the only thing that will keep me coming back. 

Violet Mudrost
Violet Mudrost

Whoops, hit submit too soon.  I also meant to say that I appreciate your getting personal.  It may bring you more attention, but perhaps you will find the increased exposure to be more positive than you anticipated. :)  I'm looking forward to getting to know you.

Cynthia Bohli
Cynthia Bohli

It can be a difficult thing. I find myself editing what I'm writing, even though I'm not yet writing much for other people's eyes. I think OMG, what if people find this after I die?! Will they think less of me for writing honestly?

knightndaze 1 Like

I'm very pleased to hear this.  Not so much for my sake (I do love to read things that get people talking) but that most bloggers I've seen are either just blogging subjects they know, or they have a soap box to dance on. You appear to be neither. You appear to be being your honest self. And if one of your goals is to make your honest self more honest, then who in their right mind wouldn't be pleased to hear it!


Very good post Dan, this is a good tip.  Writing what you feel is what other readers feel just sometimes they can't or don't want to say it.   Being personal will come with comments just be warned but like you gave me good advise just keep going.  When someone in need reads something personal or close to the heart it will last and they will be touched by your writing.  Never feel you have to hold back, I still post things on my site that are personal and close, everyone knows i do and they know they dont have to read it...  

Very good tip.

Keep blogging my single dad brother


The Lorax
The Lorax 1 Like

Hey Dan this is the first time I think I've posted a comment on your posts.  I've been following for some time and have followed you through all the drama.  I, personally, really appreciate the posts that have been controversial.  I think the "Congrats, You Just Broke Your Kid" post was the first that hooked me in.  I totally understand needing to connect to people and desiring to get to the heart of the issue.  I have been sticking with you through this phase of healing from the aftermath, but I'm really looking forward to when you get back on that proverbial horse.  We need truth.  We need honesty.  And people need to be smacked upside the head  with the truth sometimes (metaphorically.)  Bring it!