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16 Ways I Blew My Marriage

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You know what blows big time?

The other night I was sitting with my family, most of whom are very successfully married. We were going in a circle giving our best marriage advice to my little sister on the eve of her wedding. It’s somewhat of a family tradition.

But that’s not what blows. What really blows is that I realized I don’t have any good marriage advice to give. After all, I’ve never had a successful marriage out of the two marriages I did have.

And so, when it was my turn, I just made a joke about divorce and how you should always remember why you loved your spouse when you first met her so that when times get tough, you can find someone new that is just like she was.

There were a couple courtesy giggles, but overall my humor wasn’t welcome in such a beautifully building ring of profundity.

They finished round one, and for some reason started into another round. And that’s when I realized. Hey. I don’t have marriage advice to give, but I have plenty of “keep your marriage from ending” advice (two equivocally different things), and that might be almost as good.

It eventually came to me again, and what I said would have been such great advice if I were a tenth as good at saying things as I was at writing them.

And so, that night, I sat down and wrote out my “advice list” for my little sister. You know… things I wish I would have known or done differently so that I didn’t end up divorced (twice). After writing it, I thought maybe I’d share it with all of you, too.

I call it my “Ways I Blew My Marriage” list. Also, for the list’s sake, I am just going to refer to “her” instead of “them” even though they almost all were true in both marriages.

1. DON’T STOP HOLDING HER HAND
When I first dated the woman I ended up marrying, I always held her hand. In the car. While walking. At meals. At movies. It didn’t matter where. Over time, I stopped. I made up excuses like my hand was too hot or it made me sweat or I wasn’t comfortable with it in public. Truth was, I stopped holding hands because I stopped wanting to put in the effort to be close to my wife. No other reason.
IF I HAD IT TO DO-OVER: I’d hold her hand in the car. I’d hold her hand on a star. I’d hold her hand in a box. I’d hold her hand with a fox. And I’d hold her hand everywhere else, too, even when we didn’t particularly like each other for the moment.
BONUS! When you hold hands in the winter, they don’t get cold. True story.
2. DON’T STOP TRYING TO BE ATTRACTIVE.
Obviously when I was working to woo her, I would do myself up as attractively as I possibly could every time I saw her. I kept perfectly groomed. I always smelled good. I held in my farts until she wasn’t around. For some reason, marriage made me feel like I could stop doing all that. I would get all properly groomed, smelling good, and dressed up any time we went out somewhere or I went out by myself, but I rarely, if ever, cared about making myself attractive just for her.
IF I HAD IT TO DO-OVER: I’d try and put my best foot forward throughout our entire marriage. I’d wait to fart until I was in the bathroom whenever possible. I’d make myself desirable so that she would desire me.
BONUS! when you trim your man hair, guess what. She returns the favor.
3. DON’T ALWAYS POINT OUT HER WEAKNESSES.
For some reason, somewhere along the way, I always ended up feeling like it was my place to tell her where she was weak and where she could do better. I sure as heck didn’t do that while we were dating. No, when I dated her I only built her up, only told her how amazing she was, and easily looked past all of her flaws. After we got married though, she sometimes couldn’t even cook eggs without me telling her how she might be able to improve.
IF I HAD IT TO DO-OVER: I wouldn’t say a damned thing about anything that I thought could use improvement. I’ve learned since my marriage ended that there is more than one right way to do most things, and that the imperfections of others are too beautiful to try and change.
BONUS! when you tell her what she’s doing right, she’ll tell you what you’re doing right. And she’ll also tell her friends. And her family. And the dentist. And even strangers on the street.
4. DON’T STOP COOKING FOR HER.
I knew how to woo a girl, for sure. And the ticket was usually a night in, cooking a nice meal and having a romantic evening. So why is it then, that I didn’t do that for her after we got married? Sure, I’d throw some canned soup in the microwave or fry up some chimichangas once in a while, but I rarely if ever went out of my way to sweep her off her feet after we were married by steaming crab legs, or making fancy pasta, or setting up a candlelit table.
IF I HAD IT TO DO-OVER: I’d make it a priority to cook for her, and only her, something awesome at least every month. And I’d remember that meat in a can is never awesome.
BONUS! candlelit dinners often lead to candlelit bow chica bow-wow.
5. DON’T YELL AT YOUR SPOUSE.
I’m not talking about the angry kind of yelling. I’m talking about the lazy kind of yelling. The kind of yelling you do when you don’t want to get up from your television show or you don’t want to go ALL THE WAY UPSTAIRS to ask her if she’s seen your keys. It really doesn’t take that much effort to go find her, and yelling (by nature) sounds demanding and authoritative.
IF I HAD IT TO DO-OVER: I’d try to go find her anytime I needed something or wanted to know something, and I’d have both gratitude and manners when I did. I always hated when she would yell to me, so why did I always feel it was okay to yell to her?
BONUS! sometimes you catch her doing something cute that you would have missed otherwise.
6. DON’T CALL NAMES.
I always felt I was the king of not calling names, but I wasn’t. I may not have called her stupid, or idiot, or any of the other names she’d sometimes call me, but I would tell her she was stubborn, or that she was impossible, or that she was so hard to deal with. Names are names, and calling them will drive bigger wedges in communication than just about anything else.
IF I HAD IT TO DO-OVER: Any time it got to the point that I wanted to call names, I’d call a time-out and come back to it later. Or better yet, I’d call her names, but they’d be names like “super sexy” or “hotness.” Even in the heat of the moment.
BONUS! she’ll call you names in better places. Like the bedroom.

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SevdaGulea

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lipnicki71
lipnicki71

I also have two divorces under my belt. They ended for their own reasons and not necessarily for the ones listed here HOWEVER I found myself single yet once again a year ago after being in a long term relationship for 11 years.  This is where your article made sense.  Looking back on our relationship I can see where it started to frazzle. The trigger points. Sadly, this list only applies if BOTH practise it.


I cannot put enough emphasis on one key component within any healthy relationship - COMMUNICATION. OMG, it is integral to have the patience, trust and comfort with your partner to be able to talk to them about anything, whether it's something that they have done that you don't like or maybe someone that you are friends with that they don't like, whatever. I call situations like that 'icky stickers'. Conversations that you just don't want to have. You don't want to hurt them. You don't want to possibly cause an arguement. You just want to sweep it under the rug and hope it goes away. Guess what? It won't. 

A few things I have learned over my marriage history is this:

1. Never go to bed mad. Sounds cliche but so true. Odds are you probably irritated with what they think, not them as a person.  Respect that. It's what makes them who they are.

2. Do things that you may not like...... for them.  I hate feet, even my own. Feet are nasty. But yet I will rub my guys tootsies after a long day just to have that contact.  Brownie points made. The sink is full but dishes make you want to dig your eyes out?  It will only take a few minutes, even better if you have a dishwasher.  Nothing makes a woman happier than seeing an empty clean sink. Trust me on this guys.

3.Always..ALWAYS have a date night.  Once a week is optimum but in todays busy world not always possible. Try at least a couple times a month. Go for a walk, go to dinner or movie, have a bubble bath or nap together. Turn off the phones, get a sitter and just exist as two. And don't forget to talk!!!

I am sure there are more but obviously, I am no expert.  :P.  

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brettfish

As each relationship is different cos of being made up of different people i find it super helpful to hear stories from a number of people and grab what is helpful and leave what is not - in fact i have collected a bunch of these stories from people married from as short as one year to as long as 46 - some really great things of which SOME may apply to you - http://brettfish.wordpress.com/2014/02/18/marriage-through-the-years-part-intro


Enjoy

love brett fish 

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RichardTaylor1

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Dorothy Laeno
Dorothy Laeno

I might add that you should always speak positively of your spouse to your friends, family, and anyone who knows him. Telling other people your spouse's shortcomings is one of the fastest ways to show disrespect and ruin a marriage. 

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Amy

Crying as I (re)read this. Been married for 12 years to the Love of My Life. You know how you have pet names for each other? Mine for him is My Love. Right now however, our marriage is heading towards a reef. A big fat reef. There's time to correct, to save this ship, we've been close before. But so many of these I want to scream at him. And, I need to scream them to myself as well.

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FatimaObeys

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RachaelJeeninga

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ssgbigguy12
ssgbigguy12

This is Crap. Weres the things women need to change? Its a 50/50 marriage. Women blame the man when most of the time the woman needs to change. Im tired of hearing crap about the man. I do more than my share to make this a happy loving family and get Nothing in return from her. The Man is NOT Always the bad seed in the relationship. BOTH NEED TO MEET IN THE MIDDLE. Women, STOP blaming the guy & LOOK IN THE MIRROR ask yourself could I of done more or did it different.

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PaulMorgan1

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FatimaObeys
FatimaObeys

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SarahSarah1
SarahSarah1


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MaryDuffin
MaryDuffin

I want to say a very big thanks and appreciation to Prophet james for bringing back my husband who left me and the kids for almost two months. I am very much grateful to Prophet james who brought my husband back to me within 3days.I pray to God almighty to give you the strength and wisdom to help more people having similar problem like [email protected]


Frank Pallott
Frank Pallott

These are wonderful and truly work, as long as both people make some sort of effort.  Sadly in my last marriage i started to feel i was the only one doing anything to try to make it right or better.  Apologies were only ever from me, even when i didn't feel i was to blame, but wanted to go on with our relationship.  it has to come from both sides or eventually you give up trying.

LuvnLife76
LuvnLife76

I am 38 and have never been married. Had a 9 and half year relationship with 2 children and when it ended I could finally breathe again (Thank God!). He was controlling, a liar and a cheater. Next I got into an on again/off again relationship having my last child. He promised the world but really all he wanted was a relationship of convenience. After staying single for quite a while I started dating a friend from my past. The first few years was a struggle because his children are either grown or almost and my eldest was the age of his youngest plus after realizing how much I cared about him I also realized he had an addiction, alcohol. Many disagreements and arguments later he is now sober and we barely ever fight. We don't get to spend as much time together as we'd like to and don't have the financial means to go out and do things together much but I wouldn't trade him for anyone else. He kisses my face often, tells me how beautiful I am (even though I don't feel it) and helps raise my youngest because her father doesn't feel a need or want to be a part of her life very often. Sure we have our problems and disagreements but nothing major. One of my favorite lines is "Perfection doesn't exist in reality" and I don't try to be nor expect him to be perfect. We are all human and with lots of love and the right person life is AMAZING! Ten years ago I wouldn't have imagined myself ever saying that, I thought I'd never find someone and was destine to be alone. This past July we celebrated 5 years together! :)  

ItuaBlssinge
ItuaBlssinge

I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank Dr olori for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found Dr olori a male spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and she assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for long, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to devote the rest of his life with me. Priestessyewa released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have to share together. As I’m writing this testament right now I’m the cheeriest girl on earth and me and my fiancé is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that’s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.
All thanks goes to priestessyewa for the excessive work that she has done for me. Below is his email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. [email protected]

Jamesee
Jamesee

All of the things you noted all have one behaviour in common, an unwillingness to vulnerable and to be close.  From all the observing, and from my own experiences, I think that unwillingness is epidemic ... and we BLAME THE OTHER FOR OUR FEAR.  He did this, she does that, the finger is all too often pointing out and the desire is for the other to behave in a way we are unwilling to be!  Be Vulnerable. Let Love Stay. <3

Antlers
Antlers

One of the most important pieces of advice for me is to act like you love your partner all the time. What do people "in love" do? Do that. If you act it, eventually you feel it. That includes indifference, annoyance, disgust, dislike, resentment and hate. I choose to always act in a loving manner. And the bonus is that you usually get it back in spades and you feel deeply connected. How can you not be when you are busy loving each other.

I think people often fall in and out of love in a long term relationship. The secret is in low points to not act doubtful or indifferent because that will make those feelings grow. Act loving and that feeling will grow.

We've only been together 7 years but our connection is deeper now than before.

Having a light sense of humour. Laugh about your partners annoying habits. You have annoying habits too. Embrace them as quirks. My husband has this weird hiccup thing he does. It could have been something I focused on and got annoyed at instead we have made a family joke about it. Whenever he does it we all chuckle and then join in. My son and myself following suit. Everyone lets out a big exaggerated hiccup. It's an inside joke now. - I am just so grateful he doesn't comment on my faults and annoying habits :)

The other thing that helps (with spouses and kids) is to keep in mind this could be your last... Last time you say goodbye, last time you see them coming through the door, last time you say good night, last time you kiss them or hug them or play with them. Make it count. Would you be happy with how your "last" anything went down?

Which also brings me to sex. I try to never say no. Because one day there will be a last for this too. How would you feel if you had said no or acted put out the last time it was suggested? For us it's a powerful way of staying deeply connected. And I don't ever want to say no to that :)

Last thing... The realization and communicating that I love him too much to fight with him or stay mad at him. Took some courage to go hug him when we were fighting one night early on in our relationship and things had degraded to a point of stony silence and indifference to say "I love you too much. I don't want to fight with you. You matter more than who is right. I don't really care who is right. I care about you." We've never really had another fight since then.

RobertaKnutson
RobertaKnutson

We have been married 52 years.  We have experienced each of the 16 scenarios above.  Two things kept us together:  1.  Commitment.  We took our vows seriously.  One of us would always give in, say we were sorry and mean it. and start over again.  2.  We had no where to go.  We needed each others income.  We would never have dreamed to ask our parents for help.  Our kids needed two parents and to give our children what we wanted for them, we had to stick it out.  So we did and each day and each year we become more close and content.  It was not, however, an example that worked for our children.  It takes TWO people to honor the commitment and TWO people to stick it out and hang in there.  One cannot do it alone.  A spouse must be chosen very carefully, and even so, a certain amount of luck is involved.


TaraRichard
TaraRichard


No one could have ever made me believe that the letter I'm about to write would actually one day be written. I was the world’s biggest sceptic. I never believed in magic spells or anything like that, but I was told by a reliable source (a very close co-worker) that Dr Marvel is a very dedicated, gifted, and talented person, and after much “cajoling,” she (my co-worker) got me to visit this website http://extremespellhome.webs.com. It was one of the best things I have ever done. My love life was in shambles; I had been through two divorces and was on the brink of a third. I just couldn't face another divorce, and I wanted to try harder to make our relationship work, but my husband didn't seem to care. So, with nothing but my pride to lose, I checked it out. I was flabbergasted. Dr Marvel is for REAL. He did whatever magic he does, and lo and behold – no more than TWO DAYS later, I had my husband back! It was like a miracle! He suddenly wanted to go to marriage counselling, and we’re doing very, very well, on the road to recovery! Love and Many Blessings Back to You! Contact Dr Marvel through his website http://extremespellhome.webs.com or his email on [email protected]


AdamCohen_bell
AdamCohen_bell

You know that feeling you get like blood rushing up to your head when you see or read something you feel its too not real to believe like get out of here that not real!!! yeah that was just how i use to fill each i bumped in one or two article about spell casting Online like that not so happening. Yet it was that same spell casting got me to live happily with the love of my life. Just thought you should know, Metodo Acamu was the spell caster behind the spell that brought me eternal happiness. Am gay and a school teacher from Belgium and my fiancé so happened to be a teacher also but we did work at the same school. We got engagement like 8 months before he started teach in a particular high school i can't disclose. I know eight months is a long time to be engagement but we planned our wedding to happen in the united state of America so we were preparing for the big day. Any way not every parent would like for there children to be educated about same sex as a matter of fact we teacher are not allowed to talk about our sexual orientation at school to the kids we teach. Its not even right to talk about any type personal stuff with kids at school but our case was different we were getting married and it was kind of the most talked about wedding of the year not like it was like that of Kim and Mr west but co teachers were talking some how it fell into the months of the kids at school that was went the problem came. Parent started talking saying how can the school let this happen they don't want their child hearing thing like this and start talking about it at home. Where we stay, there aren't a lot gay people. You can only find one out of ten persons that are gay so it was hard on us. There was pressure form the school to either call off the wedding or force quite our jobs. I was ready to leave everything just to be with my love but he was too scared. He didn't want to loss his job cos it took a while to find something that he loved doing. I knew he loved so much {and he still does} but he was scared of his future i tried everything ti make him see we can be together an find a way to deal with the school stuff but he still broke off our engagement and called off the wedding and stopped contacting almost like he doesn't love me any more. At a time i thought we were done until we resumed contacting each other in secret like we were doing anything wrong. It was so frustrating for me i was not free to love who i wanted in public cos he loved his job as a teacher so much anytime i bring up us to come out together in public he got angry. Our relationship got unhealthy for us both it was failing and i did want us to end like that i guess that how you feel when really in love with some. I was exhaust didn't want he wanted but i knew he loved me so much. So after literally trying everything to get us together as we were before we broke our engagement i thought i should give spell casting a try and really it worked. When i explained to Metod Acamu how i have tried all means but failed to make my fiancé become my fiancé again and get married, he said all i need was to use a spell to make him feel that love he felt before that made him put a  ring it. He asked for some materials to use to get the spell casted he said i could bring it over to his fortress or send it over or send down the expenses to him to get them if i can find them to buy. It took some day to complete the spell and just after the spell was completed and made effective my heart desire was fulfilled we did not have to live Belgium any more we got married here their month but honeymooned in USA. If you don think it was the spell that made this happen then i don't know how then to explain the fact that he quite his teaching job he loved with his life cos everybody who knew him knew how he loved his job too much to quite for anything or anyone. And i would advice asked Metodo to get the materials for the spell for you . TO contact him use this [email protected]


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HopeMaria
HopeMaria

THE GRAT DR HOPE THAT BRING MY HUSBAND BACK TO ME AM NOW A HAPPY WOMAN i am sharing my testimony to everyone that has tried everything possible and had lost hope on how they can get their ex back, i want you all to know that their is one man called Dr.HOPE that work for me and after 2days of his spell. my ex came back to me without any delay, i am really happy now that we are together again and we are living happily with so much love and respect for each other, so i will advise everyone to ask for this same man's help so that you can be happy again and make your dreams and wishes you have with your ex come true. via [email protected] he can help you without any delay

CarrieSteve
CarrieSteve

I was searching for help on the internet to get my ex lover whom will got divorced a year ago, i came across this wonderful man called Doctor kizzekpe of [email protected] who did a nice job by helping me to get my divorced husband back within 48hours.. I never believe that such things like this can be possible but now i am a living testimony to it because Doctor kizzekpe actually brought my lover back, If you are having any relationship problems why not contact Doctor kizzekpe for help via email: [email protected] Then i promise you that after 48hours you will have reasons to celebrate like me.

HarretMicky
HarretMicky

Well i am Harret micky.  when i lost my husband because of our son was a drug addict and refuse to marry. i just have to look for means to get back my happiness and stop my son from drugs. That was when i read article and find [email protected] and i saw so many persons that he help and i read many testimonies of how Dr. oshogum has Heal a man affected with Drugs, IMPOTENCY, EBOLA, other affected with hiv and how he help to solve marriage problem and bring ex of different persons back., so i contact him. He help me in so many ways my son is marriad now without bad drugs he said i should tell every body of how he help me as his charges so i agreed. that while i came to to tell every body that uses your blog how [email protected] make me get all that i desire, bring back my husband and make my son to stop drugs. contact him too, his is good. Please do not abandon Drugs abusers

slimcolvin1
slimcolvin1

I was a HIV-AIDS patient and I got it from cheating on my husband. It was sort of a payback but a week later I was told by a friend that the person who I cheated with had the HIV-AIDS virus and did not tell me. I was so stupid by not using a condom I thought since he was an old school friend he
was trustworthy. But I was wrong. I cried and cried. Two days later, I got a phone call from my friend and she told me about a person who is known by another friend, who can help me. I could not let my husband know what I was going through. I finally got his email address: [email protected] and I text this man my story and he replied me immediately saying i should be calm and told me that everything will be OK.I could not come to terms with what I was hearing but then I concluded it did not matter because I was so broken up I just needed help. I was going out of my mind literally. I was confused with what he was telling me, but I listened. He told me about some materials i need to buy that he needed to cast the spell and I said OK. I bought the materials to him, I sent down my picture to him and my positive result sheet and he replied me that i am going to be negative under 3days.I message Him every 2hours for 2day and I knew he thought that I was crazy but I did care I needed a shoulder. Behold, the third day he messaged me i should go for a test that i will be negative. My marriage could be broken
because of a stupid mistake and my life was on the line. I remembered when I was going to get the results of my re-test I called him up again and told him that I was going to get my results today and his reply was “so" and that everything will be as he explained. I knew then that he was getting tired of me calling him, maybe I was wrong. Well I got my results and the first person I
called up was him - again. As he said hello I started to cry and cry. I could not believe it. I was given a second chance in life.This man is a great spiritual HIV/AIDS healer,his healing spell on aids healing is very powerful .please brothers and sister, contact Dr Zuma zuk [email protected]

LewisSlimberly
LewisSlimberly

Am Lewis Slimberly from south africa, my regards goes to dr olubam, for the great thing he has done for me, my husband left me with two kids and still yet i was on pregnancy, i and my family members has try all we could to plead him to come back but he refuses, i decided to call my pastor and invite him, tell him the all story and my pastor also talks to him and both his family members also talk to him, he still refuses that he has nothing to do with me anymore, i was so confused and fraustrated and i was praying to GOD to take away my life because i have nothing with me not even the money to take care of my kids and my unborn child, one blessed morning, after praying i decided to search the internet on what must i do to bring my husband back when he refuses to come back, i met a testimonial written by willam collins, i took the doctors email and search it on internet, i found so many intresting reviews about him, everybody say good about him, everybody says this doctor is so wonderful and great, he don't disappoint anyone like other he always do what you ask he to do, i was so excited in hearing this and decided to memail DR, he replied give me some informations to fill after sending them all to him, he called me back in 45mins time and told me what to do, after i have done it he said i should wait for three days that my husband is going to come back to me, it sound like a joke in my ears i never beleived it until three days time in the afternoon my husband called me on phone and told me he is coming to my house that we have something serious to talk about, when i heard this, smiles came to my face and my hearts was filled with joy immediately, after some minutes he droved to my house and i welcomed him in, he told me that he is sorry for everyhting that, he did not know what came upon him, i thought it was just playing until he kneel down before me, he pleaded me with tears and i accept him back it has been a month now since doctor cast the love spell on him, nothing has change him and he is now a man full of respect for the love he has for me and my kids, i now enjoy the love no fighting no drinkings of alcohol anymore, i am so happy that great dr Olubam has done it for me again, thanks to him and may the good Lord and gods he serves continue to protect him and abide with him always...

for more info contact dr on his private email via:  [email protected] thanks

regards dr from your beloved daughter Lewis Slimberly
my private email is [email protected]

LydiaEMill1
LydiaEMill1

After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is [email protected] you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem.

KelliS
KelliS

OMG!  Please edit your comments and get rid of all of the spell-caster ads!  Otherwise great advice. You can't always change the behavior of your spouse but you can definitely change your own behavior.


DavidEric1
DavidEric1


I am David Eric,I want to say thank to dr.trust for everything he did in my life. To everyone who doesn't believe in spell, I was one like you at first. I wasn't quite sure if I wanted to do this since I've tried others so-called spells casters and they did not work and was a waste of my time and money. However, when I read so many testimonials of dr.tust how he help people to get back their ex lover. dr.tust  answered all my questions and was very nice about everything, I decided to give it a try. I figured it would be my last try to get my ex girlfriend back. So my story is that I was at my office when the girl I suppose to marry  told me that she wasn't in love with me and never will it be and that she didn't want to speak or see me again, especially since she was talking to this other guy. i email dr.trust and tell him everything.he let me know which spells would be most appropriate for me and I chose the one that was to get her back to me and stay with me and  to marry me.As soon as he finish the spells, my girlfriend came back into my life! It was a miracle to me and I’m so thankful to him, that is why i am sharing this testimony to those who need his help. Things have been going well, and pretty much according to what dr.trust said would happen. I’m very happy for the love spell dr.trust have done for me, my ex girlfriend is now back to me and we are living so happy. if you asked me or my friends if I would have anticipated how things were right now…no one would believe it! contact is email address ([email protected] or [email protected] tell +2348156885231) David Eric 


JeffreyDowling1
JeffreyDowling1





my name is jeffrey dowling  After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called DOCTOR EWAN and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. his email:[email protected]

 

MaryDuffin
MaryDuffin


I want to thank prophet suleman for helping me to get my love back.My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and told me he is not interested in me anymore and i want him back so badly that i went to the net and in searching for help and i saw so many good talk about this spell caster and i contact him and explain my problems to him and he cast a spell for me which i use to get my boyfiend back.If you need his help email: [email protected]

CarrieSteve
CarrieSteve


Dr kizzekpe did a spell for me and assured me of 2 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the second day, my ex boyfriend came knocking on my door and begging for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you Dr kizzekpe for the help.  I will not stop publishing your good work for people to see because you are a wonderful man. If you need his help you can contact him via email [email protected]


Tiffany
Tiffany

I read both, "how I blew my marriage" & "how she", and these are wonderful. I like how you described how you would of handled each situation differently if you could do it over. I am a newlywed, and I've taken mental notes on some of your advice. It's nice reading a man's point of view on both sides of the spectrum. Look forward to more readings!

amooney721
amooney721

Excellent list!  If my ex-husband did even one or two of these suggestions, maybe we would still be married.  :) You really hit the nail on the head with this list. 

JoyPhilip1
JoyPhilip1

During my search on the internet on how i can solve my relationship issue i came across article about Dr. EKPEN TEMPLE, Through Which my broken relationship with my ex lover was restored. I'm Jessy by name and my lover has left me for many years before i came in contact with Dr. EKPEN TEMPLE. After contacting Dr. EKPEN TEMPLE i narrated my story to him and Dr. EKPEN TEMPLE promised to help me get my lover back and i am telling you right now that my lover came back to me within 48 hours that Dr. EKPEN TEMPLE has cast the spell on him. Trust me the fastest way to restore your broken relationship is through Dr. EKPEN TEMPLE and you can contact him via mobile +2347050270218 or email at [email protected] And for further proof of what i have just said then you can search on his name on the internet to see more about him.

Ash
Ash

@ssgbigguy12  Um this is from a MANS perspective. Also, I am a woman and when I read this it was very relatable and it was giving ME advice too. It doesn't take a genius to just flip the coin and change ' her' to 'him'.



Ana Correa
Ana Correa

@ssgbigguy12 

Im a woman whose been married twice as well and I feel this is relate-able on both sides. A lot of the things he said made me go, yeah I did that too!

Also, this blog is a MAN'S blog, HIS view on his marriages. Take it down a notch or 4.

Torco
Torco

@ssgbigguy12 what are you talking about, women are perfect always and guys need to just give more of themselves for anything to work out. 

that being said, why should every article be about what women should do to make marriages work exactly?

RichardTaylor1
RichardTaylor1

 I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my husband return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank DR EKPEN for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my husband I required help until i found [email protected] a great spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my husband back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 3 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR EKPEN released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I’m writing this testimony right now I’m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my fiance is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that’s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR EKPEN for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. [email protected]

NikkiFrey
NikkiFrey

@amooney721 same here.  Im separated and will be filing divorce after the first of the year and my ex and I are guilty of all 16 of these things.  They describe him to a tee, but Im guilty of some as well :(.  Coulda, shoulda, woulda I guess.

viviantanis1
viviantanis1

@Torco @ssgbigguy12 Word!  3 of my daughters and I have taken our spouses to counseling to save our marriages even if we have to admit to our own faults and make some improvements.  It takes so much effort to plead with them to meet us halfway only to give up because they didn't care like we did.  We women are bombarded on how much we have to change.  I feel bad for the guys who DO make the effort but Dan is just putting it out there where he failed.  So proud of him and that he shared with the rest of us.  


This is not Crap and yes we women shouldn't put all of the blame on our husbands but a LOT of us have tried to make it work.  Sorry you have / had to suffer she needs to read this if she is mature and woman enough.