the
post
visit the
blog
skip to
comments
lots more
sdl
get it in
your email

The OTHER 15 Ways I Blew My Marriage

Almost two weeks ago, I told you all about my family’s tradition of going around the room and having everyone give their best marriage advice to the bride and groom on the eve of their wedding.

While sitting in that circle on the night before my sister’s nuptials, I felt so valueless having been divorced not just once but twice. Not a lick of what I had was good marriage advice. No. Everything I had was “how not to botch your marriage like I did” advice, which was something I had plenty of. They were the “don’t dos” instead of the “do dos.” (Yes, I heard it the second I typed it). They were my regrets, and not my successes. And I didn’t really feel like anyone in that room would want to hear them.

So, after an awesomely failed joke and an evening of feeling like the biggest turd on earth, I sat down for a few hours and wrote my own advice list to my sister (and probably even more so for myself). I shared the first half of it with you in my “16 Ways I Blew My Marriage” post a couple weeks ago. The list had gotten much longer than I planned, so I chopped it in half. Today, I wanted to share the other 15 things that were on my list. I hope that’s okay.

I never, not even once, thought that post would be popular. When it went crazy viral, I couldn’t help but wonder why. I’m still wondering why, if I’m being honest. After all, it’s the advice from a guy who blew it, not a guy who knows what he’s doing. My failure at marriage is one of the things I am most insecure about. I sat down and wrote the list in insecurity. It was shared in insecurity. It’s a list of things I’ll forever be working on, none of which I’ve mastered.

And maybe in the end, that is the “why.” I don’t know. I’d love your opinion on it.

That being said, I’m so thankful that so many people found value in it and shared it. If you haven’t read the first half of the list yet, you can find it here. I also hope the rest of my list has value as well. It may be better to read while cranking up Gotye’s Somebody that I used to Know.

Anyways… with that, I give you:

The OTHER 15 Ways I Blew My Marriage
(continued from previous blog post) 

17. DON’T STOP BRINGING HER FLOWERS.
When I was wooing her, I made it a point to show up with flowers. And not just for special occasions. I’d have them delivered. I’d drop some at her door and run. I’d have them if I was just showing up for a movie on her couch. I brought her flowers from day one to day married. And then after we said I do, I stopped. Flowers became an unnecessary expense and were only worth splurging on for really special occasions like anniversaries or Valentine’s day. And sadly not always on those days, either.
IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I might get her flowers on those special occasions, but I’d make it a point to get her flowers often enough that she never wondered what I’d done wrong when I did. I’d understand that the most meaningful flowers were the ones given with no reason but to give them.
BONUS! it’s hard to hold grudges for the other stupid things you do when there are fresh flowers reminding her that you’re a good guy most of the time.
18. DON’T WORK SO MUCH THAT YOU DON’T WANT SEX.
This may be a little too much information, but when I was married, I would sometimes be so in need of sex, yet I would work so hard and so late into the night that even when sex was an option, I would turn it down in favor of crashing and decompressing. This of course would make her feel rejected because she knew that I wanted it, but couldn’t figure out why I didn’t want it from her.
IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d set a bed time for myself and wake up earlier to get my work done if needed. I’d remind myself that no amount of money is ever enough when you’re a workaholic. And I’d not give up the boonda boonda with my wife to make a few extra unneeded bucks.
BONUS! you don’t have to go to the gym as often because the gym comes to your bedroom.

19. DON’T PUT HER DOWN TO OTHERS.
It always seemed that the more bla our marriage got, the more I would (usually jokingly) put her down to others. What’s worse is that I’d do it while she was standing there as much as I would when she wasn’t. I made sure that she knew that her faults and her weaknesses were never going to be secret and then if she’d get mad about it, I’d throw it back on her and tell her she needed to develop a sense of humor.
IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d realize that there’s nothing motivating about being put down. Building people up can still be done in awesomely joking ways.
BONUS! she probably wants a good guy as part of her foundation. Building her up makes sure that her foundation is with you and not Billy Bob over there.
20. DON’T BE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE WITH HER.
Always claiming I was the saint, I would refuse to talk about what was bothering me, I’d refuse to discuss when things hurt me, and I’d refuse to admit that anything was wrong. Instead, I’d be passive aggressive about things. I’d pretend to take the high road. “It’s not worth the contention to me, just have it your way,” I’d blurt out. Let’s not kid ourselves. I said that to make her feel like a bully and to push her into giving me my way. It rarely worked. All it ever did was make her feel worse about herself and about me, and neither one of us would get what we needed.
IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d tell her how things were actually affecting me, and I’d learn to genuinely want her to have her way sometimes, or I’d learn to agree to disagree, or I’d learn to take a break from the conversation. I’d also ask her to point out when I was being passive aggressive so that I could rephrase things in a productive way.
BONUS! when you tell her what you actually want or need, sometimes you get it. Fancy that.
1747 comments
MakomvaNaome
MakomvaNaome




My is Julie, me and my husband get married over couple of years now and we were living fine with no distraction and my husband loves me so much until one day when i saw a girl who work in the same office with my husband came home and check on him at first i thought they have nothing to do with each other and she asked if my husband was at home i told her that my husband went out a couple of minutes ago, so she left that day.... so later on when my husband came back so i tried to make him happy because he told me that he is very tired and he said he wont be able to catch fun with me so from there i begin to notice that my husband is having an affair with another woman so i thought of it and a friend was trying to console me... so i stood over my friends advice so one day as i came back from the supermarket i heard a female voice crying and shouting so i tried to check who was it, to my surprise i found out that it was the same girl that came looking for him, when i caught them doing all this my husband quickly drove me out and never let me in... so i was very worried and i was confused, i had nothing to do.. later, on the third day he came to my moms house and told her that he don't loves me and he is going to be divorcing me in some couples of days so i cried and a friend came to me and said that i should not look at this problem and think that it is over, she said i should fight back..... so later i went on a search on the internet on how to get my husband back so i look over and i saw someone testifying about DR EHOHO at first i thought he wont be able to get him back until when i found out that magic really, is real, so he helped me get my husband back to me and now my husband bought me a car to show me that he will never do such again..... so if you have this same problem and you think is too big for you to handle just contact him tell him that it was Julie who refer you to him he will help you get your problem solved OK... and in case you do need his contact email just email him now at [email protected] you can call this number to rich him +2348140033845  he will help you get your problem solved within a blink of an eye......

DeannaJosh
DeannaJosh


Dear friends, i am from united states i had a problem with my husband 2 months ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, i was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me until i came across [email protected] who was able to bring back my husband and restored what was missing in my marriage and restoring my failing marriage thank you so much Dr Lawrence

vodoo
vodoo

BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL ISAW A POST ABOUT MAMA ANITA SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HER MY LAST TRAIL.SHE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $180 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HER A TRY SO I CALLED HER AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $180 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS SHE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL MAMA ANITA THE NEXT DAY THANKING HER FOR WHAT SHE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HER AND THANK HER AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT MAMA ANITA ([email protected])

StellaGodfrey
StellaGodfrey

My name is Stella Godfrey am from Columbus Ohio United States, Am very happy about the great work of Dr sakura, he Pray for my husband to stop cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend. Me & my husband have been married for 3 yrs. We have lived together for 16 yrs and been together almost 17 yrs. I ask Dr sakura to remove the ex-girlfriend from my husbands heart and remove her from our marriage. I believe there is an ungodly hold on my husband. He even admits that he doesn't trust her and that I am a better woman than she is and says she is greedy, selfish and a liar. But he still sneaks to call her on the phone etc. She also is very persistent. This is her nature to stay connected to ex-boyfriends etc. He is not the first. My husband is a Christian and is just doing the opposite of what a Christian does. I believe he is drinking again. He says he has changed. He has been back and forth for the past year now. He even joined her Devil church. She believes Magic sent him to her. She wants him to divorce me and marry her. She thinks this is Satan's plan. He says he doesn't want to keep hurting me. He says he still loves and is in love with me. He said he doesn't think he could stop seeing her. He was faithful to me for over 18 years. I think he is in a midlife crisis and the devil is messing with him. I do not want to divorce him but I am getting to the point where I had enough. I keep praying to God. My husband isn't the Godly man I know. He needs to repent to God and turn away. This woman is being used by Satan. I pray she repents and turns to God and walks away from my husband. I pray for God to physically remove her from his life. I also order prayer for my son. I ask Dr sakura to heal his mind, heart and emotions. I believe my family is restored with the power of Dr sakura the spell caster. I am not giving up. The devil loves to smokescreen situations. Now my Husband is in love with me and my family and promise not to look up to other woman outside accept me her wife so today is a very happy day in my life to share this grate testimonies to everyone in this forum. If you need the help of the Man called Dr sakura he is always there to help anyone who have problem once again thanks to DR sakura you help me and my family I am very grateful I fund you Doctor you are God sent. contact this great spell caster that help me he can still solve your problem his email: [email protected] 

Nate Maclean
Nate Maclean

My advice to any one who might be thinking of contacting a spell caster,is to contact Metodo i know he the only real spell caster i think still leaves his methods will speak and make you believe. I am not really that kind of person that disclose  much about myself experience especially on the internet but today i am going to make an to exception  I really never intended to say to anybody that i used a spell to get what i wanted in life not cos i am ashamed of it but cos some may never believe cos its seem like something that can never happen. All it take is to find the real and right spell caster. Am that kind of person that have always thought that marrying a rich man will set me free in financially as a matter of fact i have been married to to four different men all for money i guess after every divorce with every one of them i didn't as much as i expected even when there was no prenuptial agreement signed. But When i met my firth to be husband,i never expected i will fall for him so much i mean he was so charming cute and for the first time he made me feel safe like he will always be here for me not matter what happens. For the first time i was in love. Maybe i don't know what love is cos i never felt it for any one my ex husband the only detail i can give is that my heart literally beats fast when he was around me, anytime he ran his finger through my hair. I always knew my past will come to hurt me no matter what i do but i never gave it to much thought cos i never thought i will meet this kind of man. At the time i meant him ,it was not a while before the relationship became serious cos i bet he loved me also. We moved in together and our relationship just blosoomed. He was gentle with me always i mean my life was a fairy tale for a moment. But then again my past life that was to be left in the closet got out. I was so much in love to not tell him about my pasted life i just wanted to left him know like this was the person i use to be but cos of him i changed .He brought me to the light. I guess that was not the case he grew mad at me and  thought i was going to do the same thing to him just like my exes. I don't know if it was that in the last 4 years i have been married four time to four different men cos of their bank statement that made him mad of was that i didn't tell him all this while. All the same after a while of not speaking with me he moved out. I thought he was going to call i just wanted to give him space i mean my friends suggested i did that but time few by with no call no text the only time he came back to our house was to pick his remaining things. The first man i have ever loved was walking out of my life just like a mist that comes and go i wanted him back to show him that he changed me to show him with him am a different person,He kept saying he would not want the same thing to happen to him just like my exes i believed he still loved he though he never said but that thought made me contact Metodo the spell caster for help. I saw positive comments about him and someone said she has actually seen, that is come in contact with him during the time he helped her. Was not really sure what to believe i just thought i was desperate i need help right away or i was going to lose my dream man for life. Like honestly i was not going to travel for over thirteen hours or so  to look for metodo in were he leaves cos one i din't know anybody there and two my run my private spa so i had little all not time and it will be an expensive thing to do. I could not also get the materials he needed to cast the spell so i had to ask him to get them for me so i can give him the money to pay for them. Within the first seven week he sent me a some candle with some hand written don't really know what to call it but will say words to recite at night at the right hour. At that time within the seven days, Stephen started coming around all the time i mean i don't think it was coincidental cos really it wasn't. I believed what Metodo was doing was working. Just after those seven day i received a parcel with something he gave me instruction on how to use. This is no lie in anyway Stephen and i are back together now he is no slave to anything cos of the spell he is just the way he was before the spell only made him love me more and never talk or think about my past life. Not everybody will believe this more over its just something on the internet but my heart knows every of this word that formed this entire comment is true. Living Metodo contact for those who believes me and needs help metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

bakerlaura009
bakerlaura009

Whoever is reading my testimony now this is a must share testimony on how I got back my husband after 2 years separation.
My husband is the most lovable man on earth we got married when we have nothing God bless us with two lovely kids, But I don’t know what happen to him in his work place a lady I brought to him for job got into my husband head and he started an affair with her secretly I never knew this because I trusted my husband so much because he has never cheated on me in our courtship so I have no reason to suspect him. After months of their secrete affairs my husband change completely keeping late night, not taking my calls, rude to me and the kids,  the lady in question she is my friend, on my way from bank one afternoon I decide to check on my husband in our company  I went into his chamber I couldn’t find him I was told by the secretary he went out for launch I waited a while few minus they both  worked in they were so perplex seeing me at once I just figure they were dating I maintain a composure  but I was spent anyway   my husband denied  everything I prayed for weeks, my husband abandon his family and move in with her for almost two years I lost hope, I never stop praying but God just directed me to a blog where I saw a lady sharing  similar testimony I pick up the mail and explain my predicament to Dr saulat he require few details  of me and my hubby few minus he replied back and told me  24hour my husband will call and apologize to me 12hour same day he called asking for forgiveness I can’t go in details now . But Dr saulat is a helper to this generation so many others do this for money but he is different from them all you can reach him on his mail [email protected]  he can fix whatever situation you might be in martially, thanks doc.


leonidsbalodis
leonidsbalodis

After reading BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com about Metodo helping her cast a spell to fix her relationship, i was hmm.. will say considering doing the same thing cos my life was a total mess.On one hand my girlfriend now soon to be fiancé  parent did not want me to be their son-in-law cos i did not belong to the upper class community and on the other hand, i moved from Latvia where my life and job was to be with my soon to be fiancé in Azerbaijan.I had no home there but just the apartment we both bought together.If am not mistaking her father is a famous lawyer to almost  every rich person in Azerbaijan. She was going to help me get a job in her father law firm before she broke up with me because she was going to marry one of her father client.All this was before i contacted Metodo to see what he could for me.As i said her father was against our relationship and she was going to marry a 53 years old man for his money.She has always loved materials things but i never thought she would pick money over me.We were still see each other not as lover but secret lovers.I loved her too much to be sharing with a disgusting old man because he was rich.I don't mean to disrespect any elderly person i just don't like it when rich old or young persons try to take or take someone you hold dearly to your heart cos they have the money to do so.In my own case it happened that it was an old rich man wanting to take the woman i loved and still loved with all my heart and strength.She didn't want to marry me but she wanted to be my lover in secret.I knew she loved me dearly but she was also in love with all the money and assets the man had.she knew i was content with what i had and what she had but she wanted to be so rich like adding riches ti what she already had.The date of the wedding was already set when i realized that if i don't do something to stop the wedding i would lost her forever.It happened that i came across BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com as i search the INTERNET on how to make a woman  realize living without you will be a great mistake where she wrote how metodo the spell caster helped her fix her marriage and how she came face to face in contact with Metodo and also how real and awesome he is.I just felt compelled to also contact him for help maybe i was not thinking clearly or i felt it was my only chance to make sure she soon to be fiancé doesn't marry anyone else but me or maybe i felt both ways.I know something was clear to me that whatever action i took was my last chance to win her back.There and then i contacted Metodo cos i had no money to travel all the way to Chad.I just trusted BRUNELDA NATO testimony that he really exist and can help me solve my problem.It turned out that BRUNELDA NATO was right.Now i can also truthfully tell you that Metodo is really something out of ordinary he is the greatest spell caster you can ever meet.He sent me some items that he told me to use to pray with within the 7 days he was casting the spell i asked him to help me cast with the materials he told me to provide to for the spell casting.Within those seven days of incantation pray my soon to be fiance developed something i dont know what to call in her head that made the love she had for me resurface i say resurface love because she became that girl i fell in love with back in lativa she told me she was going to call of the wedding but was scared what would happpen to her father relationship with the man.But all those worried faded when Metodo sent the spell that looked like a powdery substances with instruction on how to make it effective.She called off the wedding and nothing happened it was like no one cared anymore not the man or her parent almost like it idea was yipped of their head.Whether anyone believe me or not it does really matter the only thing i care to say here is that Metodo is the ultimate spell caster anyone can ever ask for help.Am going to leave his mail in case  Metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

Krista S
Krista S

Thank you for posting these! My husband and I are recently married, but some stuff I was like, yep. I am sharing these with him. He's been married twice before, but this is my first marriage, so I think there is stuff to learn. 


There are two things I would add:


1. Appreciate small surprises and homemade gifts without being negative or finding something wrong with it. When your spouse does something like that for you, it is to show love and make you happy. Even if you don't like it or it's not perfect, just graciously accept it without finding fault. When fault is always found, the surprises will stop and neither of you will be happy. Don't only accept gifts as well, give back every so often. Don't keep score or tally. 


2. Help out by putting your clothes - especially underwear and socks - in the laundry basket. If your spouse willingly does your laundry, help 'em out by putting in the things they don't really want to touch. Same goes for dishes. 

becky kelly
becky kelly


BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT PRINCE COCODU SPIRITUAL SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GIVE HIM MY LAST TRAIL.HE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $180 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HIM A TRY SO I CALLED HIM AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $180 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS HE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW, I DID NOT REPLY. AGAIN SHE SAID "ARE YOU THERE?" I QUICKLY REPLY YES, AND SHE SAID "CAN WE SEE TOMORROW" I SAID YES, AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE. I WAS CONFUSED, I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE. I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY. BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING, SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL; I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK. SHE SAID "CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY." I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL. IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK, SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN. I CALL DR COCODU THE NEXT DAY THANKING HIM FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE; IN FACT, I STILL CALL HIM AND THANK HIM AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE. PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE, I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS. IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT PRINCE COCODU([email protected])or(http://dadaspiritualtemple.webs.com/

CarolenAndrew
CarolenAndrew

I decided to create time for myself to enable me thank the great man that made the restoration of my relationship a success, Let me start by introducing myself, I am Sabella from Italy and i came to this site with one purpose on my mind which is to thank the great man that restored my relationship called Dr.AGBAGIE within the space of 48 hours. I must say that since the help of this great man my relationship has been on a safer edge.. This is the reason why i want other people out there to have a taste of Dr.AGBAGIE'S power. The best way to contact Dr.AGBAGIE are +2348052849204 or [email protected]

mabel5050
mabel5050

Dr EZIZA you have really proven to me that you are a genuine spell caster, my husband is back home even earlier than i expected him, your spell is really active, genuine and reliable like people always say. I will forever see you as the Savior to my marriage. Dr EZIZA am so so happy i found you. in case you need a genuine spell caster contact Dr EZIZA on [email protected] or +2348058176289

James35
James35

Hi, thanks for sharing, great post.


The ways that mention in this article it's all really good.


I would like to add also the vacations in couple, is great way for past unforgettable moments, in Desire Pearl in mexico can enjoy a beautiful momments in couple. 


The couples-only, Desire Pearl invites you to enjoy a deluxe all inclusive program and the most seductive clothing optional vacation. 


Greetings.

http://desirepearl.originalresorts.com/



Apryl
Apryl

These two posts brought me to tears and unearthed a lot of hurt I have buried, or thought I had dealt with, in order to move on and forgive.  These are the reasons why my first marriage failed (my second maggiage never made it to this point-he left after only 6 months). More than the conflicts we had on religion, finances, and intimacy, it was the subtle and not so subtle ways that he said you're not worth it that finally pushed me away: not worth my time, my affection, my respect, my money, etc. Thank you for explaining that this is how marriages fail without infidelity.

Nikki
Nikki

What I would give for my husband to actually read both of these posts and take everything to heart. I nodded my head at each and every one of these. 

MartinsLanaya
MartinsLanaya

my ex broke up with me for the fact that he wanted space, i tried telling him how much i love him but he was just so stubborn, he suddenly changed, he started cheating, I was so hurt and depressed. so a friend suggested the idea of contacting a spell caster, which I never thought of myself. after i contacted Dr Wu for his help. I asked him to do a love spell for me so that my lover can come back to me, but before the spell was done, I was a bit skeptical about the capacity to bring my lover back to me. 3 days after the spell was actually cast, my lover returned to me and since then, it seems that there is no more mistrust and no more lies between us. He doesn't cheat anymore. there is no word to say how grateful I am, I am leaving a testimonial on this page, email [email protected]

Roxi
Roxi

Hi, I thought this was a brilliantly honest article, and I'm thinking I'll print it out and leave it laying around for you know who to read, maybe my relationship wont fall apart like its doing at the moment. Thanks and hope your happy. :-).

TimLena
TimLena

my name is jim lena.I am really pleased with this service. I am one of those people who said, “I’ll never call a psychic or a magician or whatever” to help me with my problems – least of all my love problems, but I reached the point where I knew I needed some guidance, and I’m so glad I found this man called dr.zaba. I never in a million years would have thought I’d be writing a letter like this, but when I nearly lost Andrew in one of our stupid,fights (he broke up with me), I thought I had lost everything.i cry all day and think that he will never come back to me again.i read a testimony by a man called zerek paul about him saying that how dr.zaba help him to get back is EX wife within 48n hours.I qiuckly email him.and also get back my husand with his love spell. And when I was at my most desperate,he didn’t take advantage of me. You performed a very good service for a person in true need. I don’t know how you did it, or how this magic works, but all I know is, IT WORKS!! Andrew my husband and I are happily back together, and I’ll always be grateful to dr.zaba email him for any kinds of help is very capable and reliable for help([email protected]

Alice Slayford
Alice Slayford


My name is Alice Slayford  I am an American, i want to share my testimony, I was married to my husband for nine years before he left for another woman it was so bad that it affect my job to shorten the story it all ended when I meet with a great spiritualist who prayed for me. In relationships we need a lot of spiritual help he told me my problems and they where all true he prayed for me and after four days my husband who had abandoned me for two years already came to my door with some red rose flower asking me to take him back, we talked for some time and after two weeks we renewed our wedding vows and we are happy together now. If you want to contact the spiritualist you can contact him personally  for help on [email protected] he is a father figure with great powers, his temple is a home of solution.

NicholasHugh
NicholasHugh

I and my lovely wife have been having a lot of problem living together, she will always not make me happy because she have fallen back in love with her ex outside our marriage, i tried my best to make sure that she let go of her ex this woman but the more i talk the more she makes me feel sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because she no longer gives me attention,she lies a lot,she comes home late at night.So with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my wife again. The spell caster told me what i will do to get my wife back, so he told me that he was going to make all things normal back.he did the spell on my wife and after 3 days my Wife changed completely she even apologize with the way she treated me that she was not her self, i really thank this priest for helping me his name is Priest Ajigar he have bring my wife back and she no longer see her ex boyfriend again i want you all to contact him who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem he will solve it for you his spells are pure and he does not do black or dark magic. his emai:priestajigarspells@live.com

BiancaSparks
BiancaSparks



I stumbled on this email address robinsonbuckler@yahoo. com few days ago, so i emailed him about my bad relationship condition, how my lover left me, how he was with another girl, so Mr Robinson told me it would take 3days to get my boyfriend back, i waited for 3 days, unbelievable my boyfriend came to my house asking me if we could try things out again. He broke up with the other girl and we rekindled and got back together, he now show me care and attention. Mr Robinson was my last hope, my last chance after all the spell casters I tried before, Mr Robinson kept his promise! he is the greatest spell caster on the internet, call Mr Robinson  (+)19715126745 for help

comment022
comment022



A couple of years ago I was in a dark period in my life, the man I love to bits had gone off with someone else, that was when I was told about this spell caster.  Well he told me he could see that we would get back together that gave me hope, and he was right, because this week we have moved in with each other and are so happy.  A big thank you to Dr.Obodo.  If you are in need of an angel please get in touch with my Dr.obodo at E-mail: [email protected] or Cell: +2348155425481.
 
 from BD

MercyBrown3
MercyBrown3

I’m Mercy brown by name I have a few testimony to share with you all about myself, I was in a relationship with this guy and for 3years and we were about getting married when we both have misunderstanding with each other and he ask me for a divorce and we both agreed and after 4months I head that he was having an affair with one of my closest friend and I was very upset and worried so a friend of my advice me and told me if I still love my ex and if I really want to have him back so I told her yes, and she ask me to contact Dr. Madurai the spell caster and I did although I never believe on spell so he gave me something when he was casting the spell and ask me to say my wishes on it and after the casting of the spell a receive a phone call from my ex and was ask me at which I did and now we are back together again I’m so happy and I wish not to ever have this mistake again in my life. I will also advice anyone with this kind of issue to contact him for help he is really nice on phone and always there to answer you question giving you the good advice that you need. his email is [email protected]

MercyBrown3
MercyBrown3

I’m Mercy brown by name I have a few testimony to share with you all about myself, I was in a relationship with this guy and for 3years and we were about getting married when we both have misunderstanding with each other and he ask me for a divorce and we both agreed and after 4months I head that he was having an affair with one of my closest friend and I was very upset and worried so a friend of my advice me and told me if I still love my ex and if I really want to have him back so I told her yes, and she ask me to contact Dr. Madurai the spell caster and I did although I never believe on spell so he gave me something when he was casting the spell and ask me to say my wishes on it and after the casting of the spell a receive a phone call from my ex and was ask me at which I did and now we are back together again I’m so happy and I wish not to ever have this mistake again in my life. I will also advice anyone with this kind of issue to contact him for help he is really nice on phone and always there to answer you question giving you the good advice that you need. his email is [email protected]

666greatilluminati
666greatilluminati

THE GRAT DR OGUL THAT BRING MY HUSBAND BACK TO ME AM NOW A HAPPY WOMAN

i am sharing my testimony to everyone that has tried everything possible and had lost hope on how they can get their ex back, i want you all to know that their is one man called Dr. ogul that work for me and after 2days of his spell. my ex came back to me without any delay, i am really happy now that we are together again and we are living happily with so much love and respect for each other, so i will advise everyone to ask for this same man's help so that you can be happy again and make your dreams and wishes you have with your ex come true. via [email protected] he can help you without any delay.

I want to thank DR. oboites for what he has done for me in my life, After my lover left me without notice i was so frustrated and confused i never knew what to do until i told my friend, After she told me the great deeds of DR. oboites on how people talk good about him on radio stations and internet so she gave me the contact. I email dr. [email protected] and told him how my lover left me for over 3years,He told me just to be happy that i will have him back to my arms that's its only a matter of time,i was like is this real mean while i had fate in DR oboites that he would bring back my lover,amazingly to my surprise after 3days i got a call from my husband who has left me for over 3years begging me for forgiveness,Which i did,And now we are together and he love’s me more than anything on this earth. Please you can contact him for help on this email address; dr. [email protected]

666greatilluminati
666greatilluminati

HOW I GOT MY HUSBAND BACK!!! i want to say a very big thanks and appreciation to Prophet ogul for bringing back my husband who left i and the kids for almost two months. i am very much grateful to Prophet ogul. I pray God almighty give you the strength and wisdom to help more people having similar problem like mine. for help you can reach him on his email address: [email protected]

DavidandAlliktina
DavidandAlliktina

i think the way to a happy marriage is to make divorce never be a choice. ever. your marriage sucks? work it out. its broken? fix it. dont just divorce and go for another person cause i can almost guarantee youll have as much problems if not even more. My advice is for both the people to truly work on their relationship and never have divorce as an option. it works for me!:) 

ButterflyyGirll
ButterflyyGirll

Thank you for sharing. I wish that I could post this on my ex (still Mormon) husband's fb page.  Instead, like during our marriage, I stay quiet for a multitude of reasons.  Really -- I think that I just need to get over it all.  It was my 8.5 yr BYU mistake.  He remarried right away after all and now has the perfect submissive Mormon wife and family.  I'm not silly enough to blame all of my issues on him.  I'm an adult and capable of moving on and moving ahead.  I never thought for instance that I would be where I am at in my career.  I was so submissive (sad to say that about myself), that I never knew that I could actually be anything more than his failure of a wife.  Now I am divorced with a graduate degree under my belt and completing a doctoral program.  I help people for a living and rescue fur babies.  I grow herbs and listen to great music.  I cut my hair how I damn-well please and happily live on trail-mix, chocolate and ice-cream.  I left a church and way of thinking that was harmful to my self-worth and I feel like a better person.  And most surprisingly of all, I am actually starting to like myself... 

MaxjnrWeber
MaxjnrWeber

I've been really depress and been in so much pains after my wife left me. Our son is just 8 without his mother. Life can be very displeasing especially when i try every way possible to get her back and all i got is been scammed by this fake Spiritual Spell Casters.... I'm new on this spell stuff but after talking and chatting with Dr. Abby of [email protected] then i realize he is the man i can completely trust. I know there are many of you out there who are in the same problem too and also looking for a real spell caster that can give wealth and bring back your love once.. Dr. Abby spell is real and in just 3 days of his spell my whole story got turn around and things started to be as before.

I followed his advice and Spell instructions, and fortunately, I'm a success story! Kathy is back now and im so glad our son got to see his mother again. Now we're better than ever. Dr. Abby spell really worked and he has been very helpful, and I can't believe it worked so well! I'm honestly, still in shock! :) If you feel like your relationship is salvageable, and you need help contact him 24/7 on [email protected]

Max Weber sent from my ipad

lisawash78
lisawash78

# 22 Don't only touch her when you want sex...that is the number one thing that caused problems in my marriage...as soon as we got married all he did was work and we would never spend time together unless he wanted sex. It was like i was a possession of his that he would only take off the shelf and play with when he wanted to but other than that i should just sit there and look pretty.

Heather Mac
Heather Mac

Dan, first time seeing your blog & I enjoyed it despite myself ;) I appreciate your quest for growth, & thanks so much for sharing your journey. I don't know you & likely never will, but this did impact me a great deal. Thank you for the relationships that sharing your journey has impacted. Thank you for giving the ladies something to hold on to when things look bleak. Thank you for being so authentic & writing your journey & learned lessons down for accountability.

I disagree with the not arguing in front of the kids. While you don't want to scare your kids into thinking that mum & dad are breaking up each time they argue, I feel like you're teaching & showing them that you can disagree & still love one another, and I think we need to teach our kids how to disagree & argue fairly.

Thanks again, & we're rooting for you, as you are for us.

Heather :)

Amanda
Amanda

I was to thank you for putting yourself out there in a way that is so real. I've been doing some of the EXACT things to my fiance that you talked about, and didn't realize it until I saw it written down. The funny thing is, I thought we had such a great relationship and these awesome ground rules that put us above everyone else's sure-to-fail relationship. Now I see that we are just as easily susceptible to a failed marriage as anyone else. Reading this has given me enough humility to talk to him about this and try to fix it. Thanks again!

TXrunningmommy
TXrunningmommy

I think you are a genius. I seriously have been thinking all these things and had a rough night last night and this is a very real and direct answer to everything I have been struggling with in my own marriage. Thank you so much!!

BethSalwaechter
BethSalwaechter

so, now I have my list completed for what I need in a man!  Thank you! 

MrsR
MrsR

I wish my husband would see it this way. This made me bawl. We are on the verge of divorce and he can't get past his ego to be there for me the way I need him to be. He's not completely to blame for the current status of our relationship. As you know the dynamics of a romantic relationship can be very convoluted. It all came to a head though when I found him in another woman's bed a week and a half ago. We've agreed on counseling and have already started seeing a therapist. I want so badly to make it work. At least this way if it doesn't, we can say we tried everything we know to do. We're both just so exasperated with where we are but don't want to give up just yet. It's so hard trying to get back to a happy and satisfied place in your relationship when you feel like everything is so broken.

Jenna Murray
Jenna Murray

How sappy is it that this totally made me cry?

JamieLenigan
JamieLenigan

I'll be forwarding this to my husband! 

justhmis
justhmis

If read to yourself in the right mind set, this is still fabulous advice as far as what not to do or what to apply to your relationship.  Well done. Personally, it's not a failure if you really learned all of these things and actually apply them to future relationships.  But no one is perfect, so when you stumble and do one of these things again, never be afraid to say sorry.  It goes a long way; even if it's days later.  Getting married October this year and these tips couldn't have come at a more productive time.  Thank you for sharing!

Casey McKim
Casey McKim

I think the best relationship advice anyone has ever given me is, "Always be honest, and don't ever be afraid to be the one who loves the most."

Dave in IA
Dave in IA

if i made a list of advice about marriage it would read almost exactly the same as yours.  only thing i would add is never say "I told you so" those four words spell doom in any relationship.  at least in my experience. If you argued with your spouse about something and it turns out you were right all along be aware that they already know and probably already feel embarrassed and guilty about arguing over what ever it was.  making a point to tell them you were right and throwing it in their face only makes you look like a huge jerk.  While not pointing it out when they are wrong will show them that you respect them.  Not to mention that nobody wants to be with someone who gloats and does a victory dance every time they win an argument.  You are a wise man though with alot of great advice.  Its just a shame that in both of our cases knowing how to maintain a great lasting marriage had to be learned through hindsight.  My wife left me only a month ago and had i done all the things you mention i believe i would still be a happily married man right now.  I hope that others will avoid all these mistakes in the first place as i plan to do if i am lucky enough to find love again.  This is a great article its reassuring to know i'm not the only guy looking back and shaking my head at my own stupid avoidable mistakes.

Michele O
Michele O

Loved your lists- to be honest, it works both ways and I was reminded of ways to be a better wife.

Thanks.  Good luck on finding someone you will be happy with forever.

AmberOpdahl
AmberOpdahl

You're a genius.  And why in God's name are you single?  What is wrong with the women you know?!  If I had a daughter or sister or best friend near you, I would be trying to find your number right now.  (I'm very very married myself to a man I will show this to because we both need to work on some of these).  You are an amazing guy.  Thanks for sharing these and you deserve some love and happiness.  Hugs to you.  

JenniferGrace1
JenniferGrace1

i just want to start this way by giving a huge thanks to this man DR ABULU for what he has just done today in my life . at first i thought it won,t work because many has failed me before but on a second thought i said let me just try and to my best surprises Micheal my husband that said and insist he has nothing to do with me and my family called me immediately this great man DR ABULU of [email protected] ) cast a love spell on him and started begging for forgiveness well i love him so much and at once i accepted him back and today we are both living in pace and harmony, all the same the glory is to this man DR ABULU of [email protected] DOC I THANK YOU once again for you are worthy of all the thanks in my mouth today and forever am grateful and shall ever be to you . i also want to say if you are out there passing through a similar stuff or issues you can contact him today and i bi live him will also help you out ,,,,

S
S

Perfect timing. Thank you so much. I have been so irritated lately with my marriage. I haven't felt appreciated and I haven't known how to tell my husband. I shared both links with him. Fingers crossed. 

Lacy
Lacy

I have a hidden, printed copy of this now. Sometimes I look back at it to remind myself, though i'm not perfect, there are things I can do every day to try and make things better.

C
C

Thank you Dan Pearce. As a wife and mother of two boys I often feel many of the things your ex's must have felt and I could recognize some of the negative feelings I must cause my own hubby to feel. Reading your posts helped me see some of the things that I do wrong myself and some of the things that my spouse does that make me crazy. It also reminded me of how many things we do well. Keep writing!!!

G
G

I saw so much of myself in my first failed long relationship here and the beginnings of myself in my latest not-yet-failed one. Thank you for reminding me what I had learned but begun to forget.

Bertalal
Bertalal

I agree with Joy...fighting fair in front of the kids is ok as long at as it is fair and not abuse. Kids need to see conflict and conflict resolution so that they can see that parents are human and so they can learn how to resolve conflict.

JMGA
JMGA

Dan - great advice - for both men and women. Of the many great suggestions, the notion of not being passive-aggressive and avoiding name calling (I'd add swearing during a fight to that) are critical to a successful relationship.  I've often boiled this down to acting like an adult - which is very different than  being an adult (a chronological achievement).


Once sarcasm, swearing, blaming the other person for what you did or didn't do and name calling enter an argument, the ability to resolve the real issue is almost always lost.  Act like an adult. Take responsibility for your part in the disagreement. Easier said than done, but so important.


As to not arguing in front of the kids, I disagree.  So long as the argument is fair (see "acting like an adult" above), it's ok for kids to realize parents sometimes disagree.  How are the kids supposed to learn to fight fair themselves if they never observe it?  Joy

DavidandAlliktina
DavidandAlliktina

also when me and my husband were dating and knew we love eachother he came up with the no breaking up rule and that way when we had a fight we wouldnt just breakup we would work on it without even mentioning a break up. after the fight we would kiss and makeup and become even stronger in our relationship. :)

yumsin
yumsin

@MrsR good for you for trying to save your marriage and making the necessary steps. but once you have gone to therapy learn about yourself and than make the choice whether to stay or leave.  don't worry about what anybody else says its your choice.  People say Never but my opinion its better to fight than walk away. i was with my husband since we were 16, dated officially at 20 for 7 years...long story short i fought for my marriage but it was too late. he had been cheating on me since before we were married and i never knew... started finding out more and more through friends but the trust just wasnt there. I'm proud to say that i did everything i could before walking away and it still makes me sad today that i wasn't able to save my marriage. I encourage everyone i know to fight because if you don't than you will never know the outcome.  good luck