I wrote this short poem in an attempt to explore just how some of our Facebook friend lists got so out of control. Enjoy. Be sure to read both pages.
ODE TO FACEBOOK FRIENDS
I signed up for Facebook,
I didn’t have to think twice.
So many were joining
this over-sharer’s paradise.
Twas two thousand and seven
This could be fun, I thought.
I can share a few laughs
and all the great photos I’ve got.
Click here, Facebook said.
To find all of your friends!
And all the people from high school,
and all your old girlfriends.
“Woohoo, this is awesome!”
I screamed with a smile,
as I sent hundreds of friend requests,
and I built my profile.
It was finally my chance
to prove that I am the man,
to stack up my friend count,
in every way that I can.
First by dozens and then hundreds,
oh how the number did grow,
and it didn’t take long
before I was lost in its throes.
I became friends with the quarterback
from my senior year,
and then friends with the prom queen?
I grinned ear to ear.
And then Sarah Stephens
who was always out of my league,
along with many others
with whom I was always intrigued
I added the jocks,
they were so cool back then.
I added the cheerleaders
and the school president.
But why stop there?
Why not have them all?
I added the band geeks
and the freaks in the hall.
I added the guys
who were top of their class.
I added the girls
who were kind of badass.
I added the nerds
who played cards after school
I added the geeks
Who in drama did rule.
If you were in student counsel
you got a friend request from me.
If you were in shop or home ec,
you became part of my spree.
No, we didn’t really have
to know each other at all.
We didn’t have to even
say hi in the halls.
That was awesome!!! That's how I started out in this Cyber Paradise we all live in, in 2006. I have 408 friends. Some family members, past and present co-workers and people that I graduated with and some that play the games with. Before, it was getting too crazy for me. Sometimes I get too emotionally involved(Yea, I have no life, Single mom of 3, lol). I got upset when people don't like what I share and start to think people don't like me. Now, I post what I want and don't take things personal. I enjoy all my friends. We share our pics, status and have a laugh or two. But, I loved the poem, thought it was great :)
That was rather awesome. I've mostly only ever used facebook as an address book. Its where I keep track of people so I can get in touch if need be.
I did exactly that - every person I ever met, and their inlaws joined my list - until one day I realized I spent more time annoyed over someones status than I did in writing my own that I pared it down to those who I always wished I'd kept in contact with and those I still always keep in contact with.
LOL I guess I got into the game late in FB and was already told to be picky about who I put on my page. Plus since the ex and I went to the same high school I had to be careful about who I let on my page. I think it is nice to have just your close people on there and if it gets too full you miss stuff! I have had to delete some family members because they clog up my feed too much with political crap. I like seeing your stuff though and I'm glad they added the subscribe! Liked our poem :)
I love it. I have added people and added people, then I realized I don't even know these people anymore. I know the years and months change me, so I'm assuming others do too. I have whittled my list down to people I actually know and interact with on a daily basis. And of course your page and others as I love reading your posts, they are one of the highlights of my day next to my family. People get worked up over being unfriended but in reality do people really have 500 friends? The time commitments to sustain a relationship with 500 people is mind boggling.
So many days I debate on deleting 90% of my friends and having only about 30 people on my facebook. Then I feel bad, because even though I don't talk to the other couple hundred, I still feel like they would be upset that we were no longer friends.
Oh, I don't know. I have 242 friends. I've lived in 3 states and twice as many cities (which I'm sure isn't a lot to some people) and I've met quite a few people. Plus people that I play video games with. It's great to be able to keep up even though we're so far apart. I love all my friends, especially those that are very different than me :)
I try to do a list cleansing every few months or so...think I'm about due. It's a dangerous predicament to add ex's, for some the temptation to emotionally cheat is too great. It's how I lost my boyfriend, because he decided that the girl from high school, the "one who got away" (heck it didn't even work when they dated as adults - both times she left him), is the woman he is in love with and wants to be with, even though she lives out of state. I'm right here in front of him, offering everything I have left, because he already has my heart, and I'm the one whose emotionally wrecked.
I have about 300 but all of them are people I'm interested in hearing updates from so I never get rid of any of them. It doesn't have anything to do with me thinking I'm more important, the more 'friends' I have on FB. I just kinda slowly collected them over the years and I've only seen reason to get rid of a few. :) I never did go on a friending spree. I've friended a few folks who came up who I thought looked interesting, but had never met, but only a few. Got to meet a couple of them in person later, which was really cool.
Ha, perfect timing! I have been culling down my facebook friends almost weekly. I used to have almost 200, now it is down to almost 100. If people I knew from high school tried to add me but we had never even talked, I ignore the friend request. If I see you in public and you don't even remember me even though I try to say hi, I take you off my friend list. If your political beliefs are wildly different than mine, you probably aren't on my newsfeed. It's not that I am superior it turned into a popularity contest there for a while. I am trying to take my facebook page back and make it into something I enjoy not something that pisses me off almost on the daily, glad to see I'm not alone.
Dan, you totally make me laugh! I love this poem! So I have one for you.. Dan, I don't know you, we've never met... If we did, I wouldn't forget! I can read your posts, laugh out loud, or smile, so I'm glad to see you on FB at least for a while! If we cannot be friends, then please do me a favor..... "won't you please, won't you please... Please won't you be my neighbor?"
So curious what your Facebook Analytics would be like after running the Wolfram|Alpha report on them - http://www.wolframalpha.com/facebook/
I love this! So true. I will definitely be sharing this post.My husband will get a kick out of this. I am slowly trying to unfriend people for this very reason. I didn't get quite to the numbers in this poem but certainly to where logging on is not as enjoyable.
This is so true and hilariously funny. I plan to share it to all of my way-too-many-friends list. Just one thing from this editor: "before I was lost in its throws." This should be "throes." And "hom-ec" should be "Home Ec." :-)
I've got 27 people on my friend's list on FB, though I've had an account since 2009. I interact nearly daily with all of them. A good chunk of them are either people I'm related to (and actually like), or my best friend's family (who I also happen to like) - which are essentially family anyway. LOL
I actually ignore friend requests from people I went to school with - I didn't like them then (and they didn't like me... I was a nerdy geek, a crime in the 70's & 80's), so why on earth would I give a rat's patootie what their lives are like now? I also have the attitude that if you're not someone I would happily invite to spend an evening hanging out in my living room... if you're not someone I'd feel comfortable enough with to actually let you into my home if you showed up unannounced... then you're just not someone whose life I need to see so deeply into either.
I'm kind of an anti-social introvert anyway... if I don't think you'll share things of interest to me, and I don't think what I share will be of interest to you, there isn't much point in our being "friends" on a site meant for sharing interesting stuff. LOL
hah, 128 here !! xD Must admit, most of them are people I have met online through gaming (no, not facebook games!!!) and family... I made a new FB account cause it was getting out of hand on the old one and then I kind off realised the message you just made come across in this poem :P
Instead of going through 300+ friends I just deleted myself and made a new one about a week later ;)
I just seriously had a big upset with my former brother in law and sister in law when I removed him from my page over unwanted political comments... its wild! (Well, I really didn't mind him sharing his political views, but it was just annoying that he never wanted to communicate with me about anything else, if that makes any sense?) I wish I was brave enough to take about 1/2 the folks off my Facebook and I only have around 320 people.
I have learned to use the lists function. You can make a list of "close friends" and then only view a news feed from those friends. You can also put people on restricted list so they won't see as much of your stuff, if I understand it correctly.
LOL Yeah... when I first joined, like many others, I added everyone I'd ever met and could find. Then the drama began, and the frustration of people who just wanted to rant or try to start fights, and the spammers... I cut it down to family and a handful of friends :) Some of the family has gone too, but that was for the sake of stopping some of the drama :)
I think I have just under 150 friends. I'm related to 95% of them (I have over 80 first cousins). If I glean my list I end up insulting a relative :(
You are the most psychic blogger I have ever read! You are pretty much on the nose, except you forgot about game friends man! You start playing those games and then you add all these strangers to help your game! HAHA. GREAT Poem!
Yes, I'm friends with High School friends who I was never friends with, but the ones who I was friends with aren't on...Gotta have a clue as to what my life is like compared to theirs, right? Actually, I'm more worried about who my kids are friends with...I like to keep up with that...
Dang, I wish I could say this didn't fit me, but it really does. At least a little bit. Not near those numbers though! Maybe I ought to do some weeding out when I get home.
@DawnTillFitzgerald ..same EXACT thing happened to me..I mean whats with all this "get back with the ex" stuff? youre still the same two people..if it didnt work the first THREE times, what makes them think it will work this time?? smh
@JeanetteSmithLamb Couldn't have said it better! :)
@Melanie I have just chosen the option of not having the drama-queen-relatives show up on my feed. That way they don't know I'm not seeing them, without the further drama of "why did you defriend meeeeee?"