Truth Box

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Before sharing it, I was so convinced that I was alone in my fears and my experiences. I was certain that my secrets would be the end of me. I didn’t see anyone else struggling with the things for which I had hated myself for decades. After sharing it, person after person after person began coming to me in confidence, telling me that they had the exact same struggles; they had the exact same fears; they had the exact same worries.

Wondering how it was that so many people were experiencing the same thing, yet we all felt so alone in it, I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two boxes to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “What actually is true.” I called it The Truth Box.

I have received thousands and thousands of responses, and each week I will share 60 or so of them here.

The thing I love about these respones is that they make us feel a lot more human with our own truths. Some make us sad. Some make us vulnerable. Some of these difficult secrets were shared by those who come here every day and leave such positive and wonderful comments on my daily posts. Hopefully all of these secrets make us feel more love for others. And when I read them, I somehow become incapable of judging anyone for anything that they shared. All I want to do is hug them and tell them I love them. Based on the comments that have continually poured-in, so many of you feel the same way…

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 3

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a friend you can trust.
What actually is true:
I spread my best friend’s darkest secret and I don’t know why.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I am normal, when it comes to food and diet.
What actually is true:
I still struggle with an eating disorder and though I no longer purge, it is only because I fear my husband would leave me if he caught me doing that again.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a happy independent 18 year old who’s got it all together.
What actually is true:
I’ve been struggling with my sexuality since I was 12, I’ve been severely depressed since I moved out, and I’m addicted to various drugs and medications, not all of which are legal.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am better off without my old best friend’s friendship and that I am doing just fine without her.
What actually is true:
I miss her everyday, I would do anything to have her back, I would forgive her in a heartbeat if she did. I have always loved her as more than a friend and its killing me.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I go over to my best friends almost every night because we are so close.
What actually is true:
We have been having an afair for the last 6 months and my husband has no idea.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I left my ex boyfriend because I caught him cheating on me.
What actually is true:
He was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive and the night before I left, he beat me.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
That I loved my childhood.
What actually is true:
I hated it and ofter wished I was part of another family. My step mom made me babysit all the time and I lost out on lots of experiences in high school.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I am finally over the guy who broke my heart.
What actually is true:
He’s the love of my life and 2 years later he calls me and hangs up nearly every day. It makes me happy he is still thinking about me.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am an over sensitive crazy, nut case that flips out on my poor husband.
What actually is true:
My husband is verbally abusive, bipolar, porn addict & I do my best to understand but I still completly lose it when he is cussing me out & calling me names behind closed doors.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I have finally started being a good christian girl again.
What actually is true:
Even though I am desprite to believe, I find myself struggling to daily. And no matter what I do, Im not happy.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That i’d rather not be in a relationship because i’m selfish.
What actually is true:
That i am scared of being in another relationship since my last boyfriend was caught molesting my cousins. I want to kill myself because I wasn’t the one to notice.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I am looking for a job every day.
What actually is true:
I pretend to apply for jobs when I’m really just watching Netflix and surfing the internet. My partner doesn’t know.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I love all my children equally.
What actually is true:
I look at my oldest he reminds me of his abusive, drug addicted father and I have a hard time separating the feelings. My younger son is my favorite.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
My boyfriend and I are an "on and off" thing.
What actually is true:
He has broken up with me, then came back to me, 3 times. But it has never felt like we were separated. He’s my best friend; he makes me happy, and I probably don’t deserve him.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I have a decent realtionship with my mother.
What actually is true:
I hate my mother with every ounce of my being and wish she would never contact me again.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!