Arrested teenager

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” Thousands of secrets were shared. Every Thursday I share 60 of them here. Completely random and as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes) heavy reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 4
1
What everyone thinks is true:
I am totally happy I was homeschooled K-12.
What actually is true:
I sometimes wonder if going to public school would have given me opportunities I didn’t have & helped me develop skills/strategies to fight my extreme procrastination habit.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a happy, strong, and successful single mom. Baby father and I are still managing a long distance relationship.
What actually is true:
He is a cheater and a liar and never did a single thing to help me with our child. I struggle everyday to be able to feed my child the next and pay for gas to get to work and pay bills.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am smart, confident and love my job and my life.
What actually is true:
I am self conscious all the time. I have an eating disorder and feel fat. I feel like a fraud at work and feel like its only a matter of time before everyone figures it out.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I didn’t join my Army husband in another country because of my job.
What actually is true:
I didn’t join my Army husband in another country because he cheats on me and abuses me verbally.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a loving and devoted wife.
What actually is true:
Walking down the aisle I realized I loved the best man more than my groom and my entire honeymoon I spent wishing he was there. We’ve had an intimate affair for over a decade now.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a confident single father who is stern but loving, and I just need to find a new wife.
What actually is true:
I’m frazzled, exhausted and worried my kids will grow up and hate me, because I’m too strict and I’m really gay.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I got pregnant with my fiance and that was the reason we got married so quickly.
What actually is true:
I got pregnant from someone else and even my fiance doesn’t know.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That I no longer have feelings for my ex-wife.
What actually is true:
I miss her and I still love her. It’s scary how often I’m tempted to leave the kids with my mom and take off with her somewhere far away.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
We have worked things out.
What actually is true:
He often calls me a bitch softly enough that only I can hear. He is passive aggressive and I am miserable and lonely.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m the rock for my friends to lean on: always there for them when they need something and never wavering myself.
What actually is true:
I’ve survived 6 suicide attempts and several close calls with ODing to make it to 21, and couldn’t be less sure of anything than that I’m any good.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a happy, easy going Christian and a reliable friend
What actually is true:
I’m bi-sexual, I’ve always known, but I’m afraid to tell my family for fear of rejection. I hate living a lie.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I am 100% straight.
What actually is true:
I kissed a girl and I liked it. If given the chance I would explore my sexuality a lot more thoroughly, but I am faithful to my spouse.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I am really good at knitting.
What actually is true:
I’m not. I buy sweaters and hats and give them as gifts and tell others I knitted them.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
My husband and I are happy living where we are (close to his family).
What actually is true:
We desperately want to move out of this part of the country and only stay because his mom has guilted us into staying nearby.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m just another 20-something girl waiting for the right guy to come along.
What actually is true:
I’m a 22-year-old never-been-kissed virgin that has only been on one date, which was three years ago. I crave affection and physical touch every day.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!