Pulled from the Truth Box – Week 6

#60-My fiance has crohns disease, and has either crapped himself in front of me or needed me to pull over to the side of the road more times than I can count. I don't judge him for it: it's life. The right person will understand, and anyone who doesn't understand hasn't had to deal with it. I know it's embarrassing (my fiance used to just about die everytime it happened) but the right person won't hold it against you. It's poop! Not the end of the world! To help cope I've had to become a lot more comfortable about the subject of defacation, and my fiance and I now share poop stories all the time. Let someone in-anyone who judges you for this is an asshat.

I can relate to some of these...thank you for sharing!!!

I'm sorry, but #57 upsets me. It's one thing to do something and feel guilt or remorse, but to yell at someone else for something you chose, not ok. I hope you can, either admit to everyone that veganism just isn't for you, or at least stop yelling at your husband. 

@sabagup  Mine was posted too. I wasn't sure when he would run it, if he would run it at all.  I wasn't expecting to see it in this one and when I saw it, I paused for a few moments looking at it and I kinda felt good that it's out there now.  It also made me realize that we are not alone because my secret isn't worse or better than everyone else's.  Everyone has some kind of secret or bad experience in their lives that no one knows about.

#38... You have described me life perfectly. I feel your pain and frustration.

You ran mine thanks and no I won't say which one it is - having read through them all though at least I had a lot of fun at the time which some of these people surely didn't.

#50... please think about the other people you are sleeping with. Knowingly having unprotected sex with somebody who you know to be HIV positive and then having unprotected sex with another partner is putting everybody at risk. If you‘ve had sex with somebody with HIV you just cannot go ahead and sleep with somebody else without at least letting them know you may now have HIV yourself AND using protection. You truly could end up destroying somebody‘s life. Please think about this. For everybody‘s sake.

#18-as a youth minister this post haunted me all the way reading through the rest of the entries.  I'm frankly shocked that only one person has posted about it.  How hard it must be to have any kind of normal relationship with a higher being now.  I'm so horrified this happened to you, and I wish I would have been your youth minister so you wouldn't have had it happen to you.  I would say I'll pray for you, but that might make you feel worse.  I'll simply say that I send positive, healing energy toward you. 

#43, my heart breaks for you. I wish I could wrap my arms around you right now and take all that pain away. My wish for you is to find someone you can talk to about your feelings, someone who understands those feelings and can let you know that you are not alone. You will be in my prayers. 

#5 I can relate sometimes, my anixety is caused by issues I cannot control in my marriage that hardly anyone knows about. Hugs to you and everyone else, you are all loved!

#29..ae you really breastfeeding a 6 yr old?? I thought the first 8 weeks was the most important..youve gotten thru that..I commend you. It was very painful to me...I could only do 8 weeks..and I cried the whole time...the contractions were unbearable..

#28 - my God, are you my twin?

#19 - I hear you.  Every day I have people telling me how strong I am for dealing with the loss of my husband.  And every time I want to tear my hair out and scream in frustration!  I know some days are worse than others, but please reach out to someone on the really bad days.  I've been on this journey for over 3 years now.  I still have dark periods when I think it would be easier to end my life than continue on, but they're shorter and I've found some great support to help me through them.  I just had to learn to ask for help.  There are people out there who do care, do understand, and just want to help you heal.

Yeeea, if I ever got into a relationship again, my significant other would have to sleep in a separate bed and separate room. xD

I look forward to this post every week...Not because I like to see people's pain, but to know that I am not alone, and that we are all in this weird world together, the good and the bad...Some of us have "good" bad, some "bad" bad....but in the end our Higher Power, however we perceive him/her will always be there for us, atheists included!

The one I most connected with was the "People think I'm strong and brave" when in reality I'm scared all of the time!  I'm a single mom, raised 3 kids, am now raising my grandson, and people have always told me how they envy me my strength, patience, etc., when the majority of the time I don't know how the bills will get paid, how the car will get fixed, how will I deal with a teenage boy, teenage girl, etc.  There have been times when I've broken down and cried for hours at a time, knowing I couldn't do it anymore, yet kept on going.  

I loved, however, how these all made it very apparent that each of us is truly living in our own circumstance, and not necessarily what it appears to be on the outside.

#38 - I have been through much of what you have, and I wish I could lend my heart to you, because reading your secret was like reading a piece of myself.  From me to you, I think you are awesome. And I hope someday, being strong, the protector, will be less of a burden, and more of a triumph. Some people are blessed they do not ever need to know the pain and trials it takes to become strong. You are someone people look up to, and know you are made of better stuff than they will ever be. 

I can relate to some of these, especially 11, 22, & 39

In fact so many of those describe me, it's scary! But it makes me feel better too that I'm not alone.

21....21.....21.....

Thanks for sharing everyone!!

wow. raw honesty.

I have to admit, the one who doesn't like to sleep in bed next to a anyone, made me laugh out loud - I totally get you! I've been married, twice now - and there are still days I don't want to sleep with anyone. I have kids, dogs, friends, family, a phone that rings, and some days, I don't want to hear voices, the tv, be touched, licked, hugged, kissed, clawed at, spit on, or whined at. I want to lay in bed, by myself. First, I bought a bigger bed. A Cal King. Then, I got honest: the nights that hubs' snoring drives me to the brink, or it's his turn to get up with Screech, I hit the couch, or better yet, one of my step-kid's beds if they're not here that week. LOADS of marriages have couples who sleep separately - be honest! You may find someone who enjoys their space at night just as much as you. 

For the guy driving the bus to get away from your wife for a while....hey, good for you! My husband has been laid off for over a year now. He, the baby and the dog have been in my hip pocket for so long that I'm looking as forward to his going back to work next week the same way most people look at going on a cruise.  Feel free to drop by for coffee.....I'll even make a cake.

#17, you are far more common than you think.  It doesn't matter what other people think, just don't think like that about yourself!

#23, GET OUT!!  You are a valuable human being and deserve better.   If you need help getting out, there are lots of places where help is available.

#26, please, please, please fall in love with yourself first!  Secondly, stop looking so hard.  The right person will sneak up on you when you least expect it!

I wish I could hug each and every person who shared, look them in the eye, and tell them they are loved.  I can't do that.  But if you read this comment, consider yourself hugged and loved!  OK?

#38 - ((hugs)) you are not alone in having had a life like that

Holy cow!!! Very candid...some funny; others, I send out prayers to, including the ones who question their faith. To those who are afraid of being judges. When others judge you, it is never a reflection of you, but a reflection of them. It gives us a very clear insight about whta is going on in their heads. Just some food for thought.

#26, don't give up.  I married the fat fun guy and he is the most amazing husband/father.  There is hope, just keep looking. 

#60, please don't give up on love because of that. There is someone that is the right person for you and they won't care.  I have this same problem.  After dating a few months, my boyfriend and I were on the way to the airport for a vacation.  We got a text alert that our plane had been delayed, so we pulled into a restaurant/bar to pass some time.  I took one sip of my drink and immediately had to go, and did not make it to the bathroom in time.  I had not told my boyfriend about my problem yet and I was mortified.  I cleaned myself up the best I could, then came out and asked for the keys to the car.  Fortunately I had a suit case of clothes and some wipes with my toiletries.  I changed in the car and had to go back in and explain what was going on.  My amazing boyfriend took it all in stride and suggested we go find a laundry mat to wash my pants. (It was summer in Texas and we didn't want to leave the jeans in the hot car baking for a week).  It ended up that we couldn't find one nearby, so we did the next best thing...pulled into a car wash!  We were even able to put the jeans through a wringer to get all the water out.  As I said, when it happened I was mortified, but it proved to me what a great guy I've got and its now one of those funny stories that we look back on and laugh about.  You'll find your person too if you don't close yourself off.  Good luck!

Sometimes I wish I could wear my truth on my shirt, so people would stop judging on what they see, or think, is going on!

60, a lot of people won't care about that. I know I won't.

I love these and hate them at the same time. Love to everyone who has to hide part of themselves to "fit in"... which I guess is pretty much everyone.

My heart breaks for #18. 

To number 25: it was NOT your fault. Intoxication is never legal consent, whether the word "no" actually came out of your mouth or not.

To the person who cannot stand having someone in their bed- I can completely relate. I hate sleeping next to someone, but my dogs are always welcome in bed. Isn't that awful? lol Don't get me wrong I love my bf but I hate hate cuddling when Im trying to sleep

I related to many of those confessions. I now know , even though i sort of knew already, that we are ALL hiding something.

Favorite post, every week!

I love these and so many of them break my heart into pieces. If nothing else, I hope people can realize they aren't alone, no one has to be perfect and most of all stop shaming yourself for your past/present. If you are ashamed of yourself it means you think you aren't worthy of being fixed/helped. It truly is within your power to find happiness, get help, talk to someone, go to a counselor, get a divorce. Whatever form it takes, people care, I care and you are worthy of being happy I promise xoxo

I love this post every week. It has become a favorite. At first it made me sad, but now I actually find it reassuring, especially when I come across a secret that I could have written.  It helps sometimes to know we are all struggling in some way, from the small to the big.

*HUGS* to all of you. And please know that it is never too late to make a change. You all deserve to be happy.

I could have wrote 8 myself... So # 8 if you are reading, I will be your friend!

I freaking love all of you people. Especially the former stripper. It's important to know people have a past that may be very different...I used to be like THIS..... But it's important to remember there is a future, and it can also be very different from what you are living now. Take heart, sad people! 

This makes a person realize you are never alone! Someone, somewhere is struggling too!

This is why I try not to judge people.

To Number 26--  Have faith in yourself.  There are women out there that love and appreciate bigger guys.  You don't always have to be the friend.  Someday you'll find your lover and she'll adore everything about you.  =)