Pulled from the Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than five thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I share 60 of them here. Completely random and as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 10

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m miserable and unhappy with my life.
What actually is true:
I’m not. I’m happy and I love my life, but I can’t let my religious family know that because they’ll cut me off.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m shy and reserved.
What actually is true:
I’m terrified that if I say anything at all people will think I’m stupid. Most of my life is lived in silence.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I am an honest and good realtor who will always treat my neighbors and friends right.
What actually is true:
I didn’t like one of my neighbors so I bullied him out of the neighborhood.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
My Mom is a wonderful woman and I’m lucky to have her.
What actually is true:
She abused me both physically and verbally until I was about 10. Even now I still have a hard time forgiving her.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m happily married.
What actually is true:
While i do love my husband very much, a year after getting married, i fell in love with my female best friend.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I married for love.
What actually is true:
I married because I had to save my cousins from their abusive mom and was afraid I couldn’t do it alone.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
My ex-husband is a horrible person.
What actually is true:
I cheated on him and exploited his every fault to defelct attention away from my new relationship
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a great dad and husband.
What actually is true:
I have cancer and not even my wife knows.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am happy person and wonderful mother.
What actually is true:
I take depression and anxiety medication just to make it through each day.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am an atheist.
What actually is true:
I don’t know if I truly doubt his existence, or if I’m just incredibly angry with God after my struggles to get pregnant and my subsequent miscarriage.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That although I don’t go to church and I often criticize my religion, I’m still a Catholic and believe in Catholic dogmas.
What actually is true:
I don’t believe in those things anymore, I believe God permeates everything and I feel attracted by Buddhism.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
That Im a happy wife and mother.
What actually is true:
I love hubby but only in a friendship sort of way. I think I’m a lesbian but am too afraid to come out and lose everything.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I have been diving with Great White Sharks.
What actually is true:
It’s just one of the many stories I’ve made up about my boring life.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
My late husband was a terrific husband and father.
What actually is true:
He emotionally, physically, and sexually abused me and my 4 children and I was relieved when he killed himself.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a good girl, true to my religion and beliefs.
What actually is true:
I am a kleptomaniac, I have sex all the time outside of marriage and love it, and I smoke weed with my friends from time to time.
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