Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than five thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I share 60 of them here. Completely random and as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 7
1
What everyone thinks is true:
I love helping people and want to save the world.
What actually is true:
I wish someone would swoop in and save me and help me.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I am in a perfectly happy marriage.
What actually is true:
I think of divorce almost everyday. He makes me feel worse about myself than I already do, he says he don’t mean to and I am just sensitive but he doesn’t try to make me feel good.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
That I will make a great mom someday because I love children.
What actually is true:
I do love children. But I had an abortion at 15 that only a few H.S. friends know about. No one I talk to now knows, including my best friend and fiance.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I have dealt with my past abusive relationships.
What actually is true:
I can’t stop replaying my rapes in my head during sex even though I trust and love my boyfriend.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m terrible with money and rely on my mom to bail me out all the time.
What actually is true:
I really am pretty bad with money. But I’ve prostituted myself out so as not to be a financial burden on my family.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
A little over a year ago I went through a bad breakup and nearly drank myself to death over the course of four days. After 15 days of rehab I am fully recovered.
What actually is true:
I go home from work every night and drink til I fall asleep. I drink and sleep all weekend then repeat the work week. My home and finances are a mess and I have no social life.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I do not allow my children to stay away from home.
What actually is true:
I was molested on several occasions away from my home when I was young. I refuse to let that happen to my children.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That because I am an open book when it comes to my life I am very trusting, everyone loves me, and I am confident.
What actually is true:
It took me nine years to let my husband in, accept he wasn’t going anywhere, that he could really love me, and it took me dating other people to see it was true. I push everyone out.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
I moved from the USA to Canada to marry the love of my life.
What actually is true:
I purposefully found love in another country because I needed a do over. I was stuck living with my parents again at the age of 28.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I love my husband just as much as everyone loves theirs.
What actually is true:
I recently had a mid-mid life crisis where I realized I chose the man who could give me what I thought I wanted at the time (house, kids, etc.); not the man who truly completed me.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m ok with being a heterosexual just divorced female, living back with my parents and my kids.
What actually is true:
I’ve been in a relationship with another female for three years and am counting the days till I can move us out, tell everyone and marry the real love of my life.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am a confident happy woman with a full life.
What actually is true:
I am 47 years old and don’t know how it feels to be in love and be loved. I’ve never had a long term relationship.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a cheery college boy whos always happy and loves life.
What actually is true:
I hate myself more than i can express, i suffer from depression and often think of ending my life
14
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am a faithful, completely happily married woman.
What actually is true:
Although I love my husband dearly, I have cheated numerous times and know that I will again.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
That I do not lie.
What actually is true:
I lie every day, about how I feel, about what goes on, there is very little that isn’t a LIE.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he’s most known for, with more than 2 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It’s an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!