Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than five thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I share 60 of them here. Completely random and as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 8

1
What everyone thinks is true:
All gay men are promiscuous sex machines.
What actually is true:
I’m gay, male, tall, confident, handsome and muscular but I haven’t had sex in 15 years…
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I am happily married and in crazy love with my husband.
What actually is true:
I am attracted to women and suspect I may actually be a lesbian.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
that im strong
What actually is true:
im really weak
4
What everyone thinks is true:
People think I am a giving person.
What actually is true:
I am really very selfish, but good at hiding it.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I love actively volunteering at my kids’ school.
What actually is true:
I hate it and am so burnt out by it, but nobody else helps and I am trapped into it.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m mentally stable
What actually is true:
I’m bipolar
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m just so busy with my kids that I don’t have time for friends and I’m OK with it.
What actually is true:
I am crippled by social anxiety and have pushed away everyone because of it – and I’m incredibly lonely.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a regular gay guy
What actually is true:
I’m into S&M
9
What everyone thinks is true:
I love having sex with my wife.
What actually is true:
I have never actually seen my wife naked. She won’t have sex with the lights on and we hardly ever have it.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I used the pill and a condom and my daughter was a miracle birth.
What actually is true:
I missed the pill and no condom was used.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
People think I’m cold, a snob.
What actually is true:
I am painfully shy, and unbelievably lonely.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
That I eat really healthy food.
What actually is true:
I eat fast food and junk food. A lot.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
People think I’m outgoing and friendly.
What actually is true:
People scare the shit out of me and my greatest fear is rejection.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I detest cheaters, since i have been cheated on.
What actually is true:
I have cheated in every relationship i have been in.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
Everyone thinks I’m slutty.
What actually is true:
I want someone to treat me like a princess.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!