truth box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 14

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I have chronic dandruff and nothing I try works for it.
What actually is true:
I have a rare skin disease and I don’t want anyone to know about it so I say it’s dandruff because that’s less humiliating.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I have a hot boyfriend and I’m always off doing stuff with him.
What actually is true:
I’ve created an entire fake relationship with pictures and everything. I’ve duped a lot of people and I don’t know how I’m going to get out of this.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I love hunting with all the guys in my family every fall.
What actually is true:
I hate killing so much but I’d never live down telling everyone that. Hunting has been a major part of our family tradition for generations.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m gay.
What actually is true:
I’ve never told anyone I was gay ever. And I’m not. But they seem to like me for it, so I let them keep assuming.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I love the Mormon church and believe in it and live it whole-heartedly.
What actually is true:
I feel so trapped you couldn’t imagine. I hate what it does to me and what it requires of me. I don’t believe in it anymore.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m over feeling suicidal.
What actually is true:
I had an abnormal pap smear and won’t go back to the doctor. Cancer runs in my family and no-one will suspect it was anything but bad luck.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m happy we got a cat for our children.
What actually is true:
The cat breaks things and pees all over the house. Sometimes I wish he’d sneak out of the house and never come home.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m okay with being alone at night all the time.
What actually is true:
Some nights I go so crazy that I can’t breathe, eat or sleep from loneliness.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
A mom at 17, pregnant by my boyfriend, didn’t work out, but I handled it well, and have been a great mom.
What actually is true:
My son is the product of rape by a step brother. I lied about who the father was to protect my dad’s happy 2nd marriage, because I was raped by her son.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
After 2 failed marriages, I never want to get married again.
What actually is true:
I want to find a marriage that will work, but I’m too afraid of becoming my mom who is on marriage #4.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I am incredibly lucky and happily married.
What actually is true:
I am truly lucky. My husband is an amazing man and wonderful father. He has a great job, he cooks, cleans, laundry, fixes everything.. but we don’t talk. I’m unhappy.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m the well-put together child who is happy, confident and full of life.
What actually is true:
I have serious social anxiety and sometimes don’t leave my house for days.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
Nobody knows who broke my mom’s giant living room window.
What actually is true:
One day I came to grab some stuff for a vacation and I accidentally tripped into it with a beach umbrella smashing it into a million pieces. I booked it outta there and let my mom find it that way.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I am trying to be more healthy so I’m not drinking.
What actually is true:
I’m not drinking because I’m pregnant and I’m not ready to announce it yet!
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I hate God.
What actually is true:
I miss God.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!