Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than five thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I share 60 of them here. Completely random and as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 11

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I am the funniest person ever.
What actually is true:
I’m only funny when I’m high. And I’m always high and nobody knows it because they’re all Mormons who wouldn’t even know what weed smelled like.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m in love with my fiance and so excited to get married.
What actually is true:
I’m planning to break it off and I don’t know how to do it. The more time passes the harder it’s getting.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m the night manager at Wendy’s.
What actually is true:
I’m just an assistant shift supervisor.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
Between full-term babies and miscarriages, I’ve had 5 pregnancies.
What actually is true:
I’ve had 6. I had an abortion when I was 19, and it’s the biggest regret and shame of my life.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a Christian
What actually is true:
I am an atheist
6
What everyone thinks is true:
That I have a moral compass and have my shit together.
What actually is true:
I cheated on my first husband, had 2 abortions (ages 17 and 19) and cry in the shower every morning because I really don’t have my shit together. Not in the least.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a great person for taking in my niece.
What actually is true:
She makes me so angry that I often contemplate sending her back to her cancer-ridden addict father.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I was sick in junior high because of a complication with strep, and needed hospitalization.
What actually is true:
I faked it because my parents hadn’t spoken to me in months and I was desperate for attention.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am a very sweet, put-together, straight-edge woman who has the perfect marriage.
What actually is true:
For 3 months, I used to get up at 5:00 AM to go on my morning runs, only to meet up with a married man and have sex with him in the woods before the sun was even up.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I had 2 babies.
What actually is true:
I had 4.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
My coworker’s and students think I am straight and married.
What actually is true:
I am gay and afraid to be judged as anything other than a great teacher.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
…that I’ve gotten over my Gma’s death.
What actually is true:
….I’m bathed in grief everyday.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
Everyone thinks I’m a straight 52-year-old mother of 3 adult children and grandmother of 1 grandchild.
What actually is true:
I’ve been gay since the day I was born and have lived my entire life trying to be who I was taught I had to be.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a good mormon.
What actually is true:
I no longer believe in God or the church and I’m too scared to leave. I am losing everything I am and everything I love.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m the a strong single parent
What actually is true:
I’m one paycheck away from losing everything, lonely and stressed to the max. Just wish I could find someone to love me and my son.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he’s most known for, with more than 2 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It’s an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!