Arrested teenager

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 15

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I haven’t been going out to socialize lately because I’ve been workign on writing a book.
What actually is true:
I am developing worse and worse social anxiety. I haven’t even touched my book in weeks.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I sleep around and party all the time just because I’m a go go dancer.
What actually is true:
I dance because I love dancing and it’s good exercise. I haven’t slept with anyone in like three years. I’m tired of being stereotyped.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
A company is flying me out to IA for a job interview.
What actually is true:
I’m flying out to meet a woman I met on the Internet.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a good Dad.
What actually is true:
I once locked my kids in their room with their Wii so that a f*** buddy could come over and have sex.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I am kind caring and compassionate.
What actually is true:
I am also scared to share my oppinions because I am afraid people won’t like me.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I want to marry my boyfriend.
What actually is true:
Most days I wish I was single, but he is so good to my kids, I stay for them. He is not their dad.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
That my husband and I are happily waiting to have kids.
What actually is true:
We had a daughter before we got married and placed her with an adoptive couple, ever since I have wanted a baby but he says no.. Thinking about doing it anyway.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That after 6 yrs of marriage I left my ex-husband for my new boyfriend( who was never an Ex).
What actually is true:
I left my husband because our marriage fell apart after an ex-flame from H.S. contacted me (I was only married 6 mon) & my marriage never recovered. Ex-flame is long gone.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
That I love my adopted, autistic son.
What actually is true:
I can’t stand him, he’s terribly hard to be around, and I worry he will grow up to be a criminal.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a great mom.
What actually is true:
My kid spends almost all day watching tv, everyday.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I work day and night at my job to help my spouse make ends meet because we’re in real financial trouble.
What actually is true:
I’m severely depressed and can manage to force myself to actually work only about 3-4 hours per day and then only with the help of drugging myself up.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I never buy myself anything but Im such a great saver and never splurge!
What actually is true:
I filed bankruptcy & only make enough $ to pay bills/gas. Cant afford food & dont qualify for help bc income too high. W/o my mother, my son & I would starve!
13
What everyone thinks is true:
That I forgave him for cheating on me.
What actually is true:
There are still days I hate changing the sheets, because I know the last time he changed them voluntarily was so he could screw her in my bed.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a kind and caring person and have no prejudice against anyone.
What actually is true:
I am repelled by people who look physically ugly. Because of this, I think I am really a horrible person and I feel guitly.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
That I turned out to be the ‘good one’ being raised in a family full of drug addicts.
What actually is true:
At 24 years old, I have been battleing with addiction since the age 17.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!