Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 17

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I was trying to jump over a fence and accidentally impaled myself in the anus, and so now I walk funny.
What actually is true:
I have a condition which causes me to get infections. One of them got so bad I had to have rectal surgery. Nobody knows.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I have a great, fullfilling, busy life with tons of friends.
What actually is true:
The loneliness I feel is like a literal weight pushing on my chest. I can’t sleep at night because I dread facing the next day.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a happy and cheerful atheist ever since I left religion 1 year ago. I strive to be a good and kind person.
What actually is true:
I’m actually miserably lonely because church was my only community, even if it was superfical. I think I have social anxiety and no close friends.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
He’s my best friend.
What actually is true:
I’ve been in love with him for almost a decade but we’re both married and miserable without each other.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I read 50 Shades of Grey and didn’t think too much about it.
What actually is true:
It’s made me feel like I want to experiment with some crazy stuff in my sex life, but I know my husband never will.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
we are best friends since high school football and I was the best man at his wedding
What actually is true:
everytime I see him I want to suck his dick
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a very secure 30 year old who doesn’t care what others think. I have my life in order.
What actually is true:
I worry what others think about me. I also still chew/suck on my thumb when I’m alone. And I have mild Tourettes but don’t feel comfortable ticcing in view of anybody.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That I “lost” my high school class ring, which my financially-struggling parents scrimped and saved to buy, when I moved out.
What actually is true:
I pawned the ring to buy gas for my abusive then-boyfriend’s truck, so he wouldn’t hit me…again. I’m 52 years old now, and I’m still so ashamed it makes me sick.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
I won’t marry my girlfriend of 5 years (who is moving across country with me and has proposed to me several times) because I have commitment issues.
What actually is true:
I’d made plans to propose this morning. Last night she told me she doesn’t think she really loves me- she just loves our “relationship”.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a loving and devoted boyfriend.
What actually is true:
I am but have struggled with infidelity for years. It doesn’t mean anything but I don’t know why I can’t seem to stop…
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I was morbidly obese and lost weight. I watch what I eat to be healthy.
What actually is true:
After weight loss I became addicted and have been recovering from Anorexia. I wish I could return to my Anorexic days.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I would never do *that*
What actually is true:
One time I fooled around with a married man. (kissing/groping). I only said no to him comming with me home, because I knew I wouldn’t be able to look his wife in the eyes again.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am strong, facing my problems and on medication to help.
What actually is true:
The meds don’t work and I spend every day in agonizing pain, mentally unstable and praying to die.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
After my ex and I split, the State and IRS discovered that we had not filed our taxes for many years.
What actually is true:
To get back at my ex for leaving me and our 4 kids for a woman with money, I turned him into the IRS and State. He ended owing hundreds of thousands of dollars, but not me.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a totally capable and self sufficient and able to handle anything
What actually is true:
My adult mentally ill son is a burden I can hardly bear but he has driven away everyone else.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!