truth box - no regrets

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” It has taken on different forms and purposes over the months.

Recently, I asked you all to anonymously share something you did that others think is wrong, that you don’t regret. There were only three sections to fill out on the form. “What I did that others think is wrong,” "Why I don’t regret it," and “Who told me that it is wrong.” hundreds of you shared.

Every Thursday I try and share a Truth Box post here on Single Dad Laughing. Sometimes secrets you’ve never told anyone. Sometimes parenting secrets. Sometimes embarrassing things you’ve done. Here are this week’s secrets, completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down or make us discouraged, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles and that sometimes right and wrong might be a little more gray than we all like to think. Or maybe it’s not, I don’t know. Just be kind and edifying in your comments, that’s all I ask.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 21
"I Don’t Regret It" Edition

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What I did that others think is wrong:
I left a restaurant without paying for my meal.
Why I don’t regret it:
The waiter was awful and also being an ass to us. He also wouldnt let me have wine because i left my wallet with my ID at home.
Who told me that it is wrong:
My conscience. But only for a minute.
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What I did that others think is wrong:
I stopped breastfeeding before 12 months.
Why I don’t regret it:
We struggled with breastfeeding from day 1, with medical issues, big boobies, etc. Doing what was right for me ended up being right for both of us.
Who told me that it is wrong:
ME!!! (I felt like I was a selfish, failure of a mother), my “supportive friends”, and society.
3
What I did that others think is wrong:
I slept with my soon to be ex-husband to break him and his girlfriend up.
Why I don’t regret it:
She was horrible to my children. He cheated on me the entire marriage so i knew it would be easy. I couldn’t wait to call her up and tell her!
Who told me that it is wrong:
My ex husband when he found out my real reason for doing it. Some friends when I told them. I knew it was wrong, i just didnt care!
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What I did that others think is wrong:
Denied my son breakfast.
Why I don’t regret it:
Food is his weakness. He threw a fit about not being able to eat in the living room, so he went without that morning. Haven’t had a problem since.
Who told me that it is wrong:
Who told you that it is wrong?
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What I did that others think is wrong:
Not telling my immediate family that I’m gay.
Why I don’t regret it:
Because they don’t care to know, it would be selfish of me to do it. Besides, it doesn’t lessen my life as a gay man.
Who told me that it is wrong:
Most of my gay friends / gay acquaintances.
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What I did that others think is wrong:
stole a man from his wife because i loved him
Why I don’t regret it:
because i truely loved him with all my heart. and his wife never deserved him. she didnt love him like i did
Who told me that it is wrong:
friends and family on both sides
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What I did that others think is wrong:
Had my daughter when I was only 19.
Why I don’t regret it:
My mom has had ovarian cancer, uterine cancer, cervical cancer & breast cancer. I’m glad I had a kid while all my plumbing still works!
Who told me that it is wrong:
I get judging comments/teasing about my age, being the youngest mom of a 4th grader in our social circle.
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What I did that others think is wrong:
I am raising my children agnostic and I am Wiccan.
Why I don’t regret it:
I believe that spirituality is an individually chosen path.
Who told me that it is wrong:
Society. I am a teacher. If my conservative community knew that I am Wiccan, I would lose my job.
9
What I did that others think is wrong:
Had an affair with a married man.
Why I don’t regret it:
He’s now my husband.
Who told me that it is wrong:
Well…
10
What I did that others think is wrong:
I “excused” a bridesmaid from my bridal party.
Why I don’t regret it:
I wasn’t a bridezilla. Buying a house and building a life w/ my future hubby were my priorities-not the wedding. I didn’t need anyone else going bridezilla for me.
Who told me that it is wrong:
Well, her and a few friends. Whatever. It was low key and fun with only my BFF as my Maid of Honor.
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What I did that others think is wrong:
I listed all of the “swear” words (in English) to my children so they would know what they all meant. The kids were 6 & 8.
Why I don’t regret it:
Because they knew that those words are just words, and don’t really have power, but that we don’t say them around some people.
Who told me that it is wrong:
my mother
12
What I did that others think is wrong:
Spanked my monkey every day
Why I don’t regret it:
I grew it, its mine to play with if I want to.
Who told me that it is wrong:
My mom, she said I would go blind if I didn’t stop… btw, I can still see.
13
What I did that others think is wrong:
Love my son too much making him a Mama’s boy.
Why I don’t regret it:
He is a kind, sensitive young man nearly 16 now.
Who told me that it is wrong:
His Father/sperm doner until it was easier. Come to think of it only men said I was too easy on him.
14
What I did that others think is wrong:
I had an emotional affair with a married man while I was married to someone else.
Why I don’t regret it:
It gave me the confidence I needed to leave a marriage that was not right for me.
Who told me that it is wrong:
All who knew and many who suspected.
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What I did that others think is wrong:
slept with a married man
Why I don’t regret it:
my husband is okay with it and the other guy is miserable in his marriage
Who told me that it is wrong:
my ex-bff
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!