Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

The Truth Box is back, but this week it’s all about parenting, and we had two new questions in place of the usual ones.

In a brand new questionnaire, I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult parenting secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “The embarrassing thing I did as a parent,” and “why I’ve never told anyone.” Lots of parenting secrets were shared. I will begin swapping out some of the usual Truth Box Thursday posts with these ones. Here they are… Completely random and exactly as they came in.

As a side note, these truths aren’t really meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles. Including, and sometimes especially, as parents.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 20
PARENTING EDITION

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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
My kids were watching TV in my room. I went to the kitchen to prep dinner. I came back to my room they were massaging themselves with my, um…err..massagers.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I did not feel the need for EVERYONE to know that my kids stumbled upon my “toy box” & then proceeded to massage each other’s backs.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
My son and I both pretend that he doesn’t know I smoke.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I teach him every day that lying and sneaking are HORRIBLE, but every night I do the opposite.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I numb my brain with alcohol every night after my son goes to bed.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Pure terror that my ex will take my heart (son) away from me. I am a good mom. I just drown my hard life with alcohol. Never in front of him. I live with the guit every day.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I left my 3 month old and 2 year old kids past pickup time with the home daycare woman because I had too many drinks at dinner and lost track of time.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I did tell my husband. But I never want my kids to know i did that (they’re now 18 & 20).
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I say the F-word a lot around my kids. I hate myself for it.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
‘Cause I don’t want them to think I am a fucking horrible parent.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
When my fifth child was born, I was leaving the hospital and had strapped him into his car seat. I went to grab a bag and his seat flipped off the bed.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I had 5 kids!!! By then I should have known not to put a baby in his car seat on the bed.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I gave up on my oldest son (after years of trying to get help) who was abusive like his father and self medicated with all kinds of drugs and got arrested.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I felt like I was being lazy or incompetent. It also turns out I don’t love him the way a mother is supposed to.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I boiled water one morning to make oatmeal for breakfast. Found a boiled spider in it but scooped the spider out and used the water anyway.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Good mothers don’t use boiled spider water to make food for their children.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
My daughter was not yet walking and I had her in one of those old fashioned walkers on wheels. The baby gate was not up at the top of the stairs. She went all the way down.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
They told me, they warned me, how could I ever admit I was that careless. She was absolutely fine thank God in Heaven!
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I’ve lost control of my temper and hurt my son more than once, even when he was a baby.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I’m afraid he would get taken away. And I really love him, even though he does everything possible to push my buttons all the time.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I encouraged my son when he was being bullied to just “knock that kid on his @ss!” if he touches you.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Because I encouraged my son to hit another child. I feel justified in that the other kid started it, but still…
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I’ve left my baby in the car when I went inside the gas station. It was at the butt crack of dawn and she was fast asleep so no way did I want to wake her up to carry her inside.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Everyone would look down on me for leaving my kid in the car.
13
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I put my daughter in a metal garbage can and sat on the lid for 5 minutes.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
She dropped kittens from the 2nd floor window to see if they landed on their feet. I asked her if she wanted me to drop HER from the window. I couldn’t make her stop.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I lashed out at my 4 year old. I screamed, I name called an I slammed his door. I made him cry and he was down right scared of me.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
He doesn’t deserve a mother like that. That woman was my mother in true form, minus the physical. I resent her for her temper an abuse. I’m ashamed for how I reacted.
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The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I’d set up pyramids of glasses at the foot of each entrance to the house, and sleep on my children’s bedroom floor with my body blocking their door, and all phones within reach.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
As a single mom, you always say “I can do this alone, no sweat”. Hard to admit that being the sole protector of my little children is something I’m not always confident about.
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