Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 19

1
What everyone thinks is true:
My father abandoned his family when I was little.
What actually is true:
My uncle murdered him and is in prison for life. My mom took us away and I’m the only one of my siblings that knows.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m in a “perfect” super happy relationship with the greatest guy in the world.
What actually is true:
I’m in a troubled relationship with a nice guy who has betrayed my trust and I can’t seem to fully forgive him.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I travel each summer to help children in 3rd world countries.
What actually is true:
I just need to get the hell away from people for a while so I get in the car and drive and don’t come back for three months.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m not selfish.
What actually is true:
I am.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m sexually liberated, and in a strongly independent and supportive relationship.
What actually is true:
I have never had an orgasm with a partner, have pretended with my fiance for years, and I am terrified to tell him what a liar I am – but I can’t marry him until I do.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I have always walked the straight and narrow.
What actually is true:
I had an abortion at 17, did drugs and was promiscuous into my 20’s and regret it all.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m excited to help my best friend plan her wedding.
What actually is true:
I’m upset that I’m not her Maid/Matron of Honor but in the grand scheme of things that won’t matter because I don’t think the wedding will happen anyway.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a good Mormon housewife.
What actually is true:
I read Single Dad Laughing every day because it gives me courage to someday leave.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a great mom and I’m balancing all of life responsibilities well.
What actually is true:
I yell a lot, and I often feel like I’m failing everyone because I’m not good enough.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
We are a vanilla, happily married straight couple.
What actually is true:
We are a happily married couple who has had two threesomes, loves having kinky sex and would consider being poly-amorous if we could find the right couple.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I trust my boyfriend of 6 years.
What actually is true:
I go through his text messages and I know he’s been cheating on me, but don’t have the strength to split up our family.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a strong, independent and powerful person who doesn’t let anyone walk over him.
What actually is true:
I’m a pushover, and I will let people do what they want as long as I feel like they like me, because I’m so insecure about myself that I need to feel like people love me.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I was date raped that’s why I slept with him.
What actually is true:
I was drunk and horny. Nothing else.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I love my autistic son more than anything in the world and couldn’t imagine a life without him even though I had him at 22.
What actually is true:
I love my autistic son more than anything in the world, but I wish I would have had him after I turned 30.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a confident, funny, attractive, self-suficient, happily-single girl.
What actually is true:
I’m in love with my best male friend but afraid to tell him.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!