Arrested teenager

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 22

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I gave the homeless woman a hundred dollars.
What actually is true:
I gave her a buck and didn’t correct them when one person started saying how generous I was.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I farted in the office so bad that it cleared the room.
What actually is true:
It really wasn’t me but nobody will believe me.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m such a great mom because my kids are do smart & well behaved.
What actually is true:
I just really lucked out!
4
What everyone thinks is true:
That I lead a healthy sex life with my husband.
What actually is true:
I have to fantasize that he is my stepfather (or other abusers from my past) in order to have an orgasm.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m proud and strong and smart.
What actually is true:
I’m filled with shame, rage, weakness and I believe my intelligence is not as above-average as others think.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am a normal happily married woman with a normal sex life.
What actually is true:
No one except Hubs knows I was molested at a young age, was too afraid to open my eyes, don’t even know who did it. Sexually abusive past relationship, hate SEX-but I crave it.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I was admitted to the hospital for the flu.
What actually is true:
I was placed there by my OBGYN for postpartum depression.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I only suffer from bipolar disorder. I’m trying my hardest to conquer it.
What actually is true:
I actually have borderline personality disorder. I often find it pointless to even try because it’s never going away.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a highly intelligent, confident, popular, and selfless medical student.
What actually is true:
Every day I’m terrified that I am not good enough, and will fail everyone. Worse yet, that I will be average.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
That I have a strong moral compass and live accordingly.
What actually is true:
I have had many relationships, and I wasn’t faithful in any of them except this last one, and he cheated on me.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’ve got it together and my Fiance’ will be moving home shortly and we will start planning our life together.
What actually is true:
She’s actually still married, living with her husband and I haven’t heard from her at all in 3 months. I’m a total wreck inside.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
My divorce was mostly mutually agreed upon.
What actually is true:
I didn’t have the courage to leave my wife, so I had an affair and used pornography as a means for her to get angry enough at me to divorce me.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
People say I am a beautiful woman and roll their eyes if I imply otherwise. Their compliments take me by surprise almost every time.
What actually is true:
In my mind, I still see the ugly, awkward, abused, broken young girl I once was. I’m an attractive woman now, I try to tell myself and believe. But I still feel like that girl.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m thrilled to have lost 40+lbs, and am happy to continue losing weight.
What actually is true:
I’m terrified that I’ll lose enough to be skinny again, I’ll cheat on my husband with the first guy who shows he’s attracted to me.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a Christian who doesn’t like going to church because I dislike organized religion.
What actually is true:
I’m an Atheist and have been since I came out as gay. I can’t believe in a God that so many are willing to proclaim hates guys like me.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!