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Because. People Really Are Good. Part II.

Love

It’s so interesting to me that so many people believe human beings are inherently bad. They believe the “natural man” is a lying, thieving, conniving, greedy schmuck who will only do good when inspired by external forces or when it is for his own good. Watch the news every day. There is never-ending “proof” that this just might be the case.

Others believe (and I am in this camp) that human beings are inherently good. They believe the “natural man” is good-hearted, kind, generous, honest person who may slip often but will do good as often as possible without the need for guilt, self-aggrandizement, or selfish purpose. Watch the news every day. There isn’t much proof that these people exist.

But they do, even though their acts and lives aren’t always “newsworthy.” And they really are everywhere if we’ll just look up from our own lives now and then to see the good that others are often up to.

In the middle of a really crappy, self-absorbed day a few weeks ago, I asked you all over on the Single Dad Laughing Facebook page what the nicest thing was you’d ever seen a stranger do for someone else.

These were your {beautiful} replies. They really flipped my bad day right-side up again.

Please also note that hundreds and hundreds of responses came in. I snagged just a small percentage of them to share with all of you.

Because. People Really Are Good (Part II)
24 Stories Highlighting the Goodness of Strangers

  1. I saw a man @ Walmart pay for the groceries of the mom with 3 small kids behind him (and in front of me). I’ll never forget the look of gratitude on her face – makes me teary now!
  2. Shortly after Veterans day, I went to the dry cleaners to pick up my husbands uniform. When I went to pay the lady said, no put your wallet away. Another customer had come in on Veterans day and paid for all military uniforms as a thank you for their service. I left in tears. Freedom isn’t free but, that day it all seemed a little bit worth all the sacrifice.
  3. A friend was out to dinner with his son and his army buddies the night before they deployed. A stranger picked up the $1,000 plus tab.
  4. One night my mom and I went out to dinner. The restaurant has a crane machine with stuffed animals inside. The dishwasher came out and won my 3 year old a stuffed toy since I was not successful. He even refused my money and used his own. He made my sons night.
  5. A man got stood up for his blind date, so he invited the homeless woman outside the restaurant to join him for dinner. They sat and talked for hours…
  6. I was 20, in the Marines, on a flight home on emergency leave. Mom was hospitalized and my 13yo sister was home alone with no groceries. Man on the plane waited until we landed, handed me all his cash ($130), and said to take care of my family. He then darted off the plane.
  7. I was at a stop light, and there was a man in a wheelchair going across the street and he was struggling. A high school cross country runner left his team, ran back across the street, and helped the man cross.
  8. We saw an older couple drop their pints of blueberries in the grocery store parking lot. My teenage niece went in and bought them more with her own money.
169 comments
CaseyEvans
CaseyEvans

24 really got to me. My son is 2 1/2 and is starting to really get into some epic tantrums. It's nice to have home that some people out there understand and aren't just annoyed by "badly behaved children" also known as kids who have just had enough.

RachelWei
RachelWei

When my son was 2, I was moving out of our apt and my X, his father, refused to help. After days of giving away everything I could and moving the rest to storage it was the night we absolutely had to be out by and I was still running up and down the 3 flights to load my car. All of our stuff was never-ending and I was getting frantic because some of it was too big for my little car. A man down the hall who was in the military had a trailer and he helped me load my stuff into his trailer and made several trips with me back and forth to my storage unit, helping me load and unload everything. When we finally had everything out I was so grateful I didn't know how to thank him. I told him and asked him what could I do for him and he just said I should help the next person out. I don't remember his name, but I will never forget his kindness.

I loved reading all of these stories and am glad that people are sharing their good experiences. I do believe people are inherently good. 

Woobie21
Woobie21

This falls under the "There really are good folks out there" category.  Love & peace to all. Hope you enjoy the song.

The song "No More Hurting People" was inspired by the memorable, and heart-breaking picture of 8-year old Boston bombing victim Martin Richard, holding up a handmade sign displaying these four words. This message was obviously a desire of his heart. It's the desire of billions of people's hearts around the world. This anthem's purpose is to counter the effects of evil and hatred. Sometimes, music can be one of the greatest weapons against these forces. It is our heart to bring encouragement and a greater hope to all hurting people through the melody and lyric of this song


Here's a link to the video: (No More Hurting People)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtB1ET-gvME

Here are the lyrics to the song:

A sign for love, a cry for peace
From a city's child to the grieving streets
With simple phrase, the banner pleads
What heavy hearts wanna still believe

Let the dreamers' dream never be in vain.
Let the words ring out for Heaven's sake.
No more, no more hurting people.
No more, no more hurting people.

The tears will dry, the wounds will heal
We'll always live with the loss we feel
Make no mistake, we'll run again
Cause the light won't ever let the darkness win

Let the dreamers' dream never be in vain.
Let the words ring out for Heaven's sake.
No more, no more hurting people.
No more, no more hurting people.

Love is still the answer
Love will conquer all.
Life will overcome
The darkness when it falls.

Oh, I believe there will someday be

No more, no more hurting people
No more, no more hurting people
No, no more
No more, no, no more.



doodle
doodle

I thought I should write this down... 3 years ago when I was about to get married, I received a call from a completely unknown number, When I answered it was someone I didn't know who just wanted to talk, because his father was in Hospital (According to him with cancer last stages) and he didn't know what to do, because he had no money, he was from a rural area in my country, he just lost his job and he wanted to commit suicide. he just needed to talk to someone! I offered to send him money, gave him names of doctors, told him where to get free medicine etc. 3 years later (about 5 months ago, I received yet another random phone call, which I didn't pick up as I was having dinner. my husband did. and It was this boy, who called to tell me that his father is well. and He just wanted to thank me for just listening to him!!! :)

CKMom
CKMom

I truly believe that all people are inherently good, and those who aren't we taught to be bad...I always say that I married the male mother Teresa, my husband gives $$ to those in need, even when we were barely scraping by...he says that he has so much that $$ can't buy and that if someone else can use it they're welcome to it...

Edith Derstine Tully
Edith Derstine Tully

An amazing story. People are good, we all have days when we all want and need a hug or whatever helps us to have a more joyful day. Thank you. I will repost and also make copies of this to give to others. Thank you again. Give us more, please. These should be on the front cover of all newspapers.

SweetsBySam1
SweetsBySam1

Back in college, I did everything I could to cover all of my expenses and often lived paycheck to paycheck (this was even with 3 jobs and full time school). One day, I decided I would do something for myself and go out for Halloween. I made my costume but went out to buy the shoes as a treat for myself (at Payless lol). Well, I was going to school in Calgary, Alberta, Canada and it's a long train ride and short walk anywhere. I far from home, paid for the shoes, and hungry as can be, went to a place in the food court. I got a pasta meal and was picking at it as I went up the line but at the register, no cash and my two cards were declined (debit-- I didn't trust myself with credit yet). I was tired and hungry, teared up and asked if the guy could take the food back. The woman behind me had ordered a plain bowl of noodles for her 3 year old and said she'd pay for both. Well, that broke me. I started crying like an idiot and thanked her multiple times. She smiled and said "just pass it forward, dear." 

RoxanneFlores
RoxanneFlores

I always want to do things like this but my boyfriend always tells me I have to be able to help myself first. I'm working on that so I can start paying it forward!

Willatbird
Willatbird

I am a single mom of three boys. I work a lot of hours to keep us in our family home and to feed the boys. Sometimes the only time I can get to the grocery store is after the youngest is in bed, and I'm always dragging my behind to get it done and get home. One night I was so tired that I left my (black) purse in the shopping cart in the parking lot. I drove to my mom's to drop something off for her and then went home. It took me a few minutes to figure out that my purse wasn't in my car or at my mom's. I had seen a scruffy looking, (assumed) homeless couple in the parking lot and I figured that they had taken it. When I got back to the store, very stressed, the man was still standing there. He saw my frantic behavior and asked me if I'd lost my purse. I said yes, and he told me his girlfriend had just taken it inside the store and given it to security. After I retrieved my purse, I came back outside and thanked them profusely and gave them some travel money. The woman took one look at me and asked me if I needed a hug. It was a wonderful hug. And I really did need it. It told me I was forgiven for thinking the worst of these lovely people. 

And the last one on your post made me cry.

AshleyWhite
AshleyWhite

My husband and I recently took a trip and were at an amusement park. A lady with her sons found out my husband was military and insisted on paying for our lunch. It was such a sweet gesture and I will never forget it!

nada
nada

My boyfriend was putting change in the change counter at the grocery store when we were in college and a woman stopped and handed him a 20 dollar bill. She said she used to have to do that and she always said if she ever was better off she would stop and help out someone who had to do that too. I remembered that woman a few months ago when I was at the laundromat and saw a college student come in. I had a lot of extra change and I was leaving so I said "here take it" and I gave her the rest of my quarters.

Heather Vieth
Heather Vieth

Wow. Just wow. I am a very cynical person (I chalk it up to my line of work), but reading this definitely lightened my heart a bit. Thank you.

NightGod
NightGod

People are basically decent. We just hear about the exceptions more often than the rule.

Sara Liesenfeld
Sara Liesenfeld

I have run into to many bad people to believe that people really are good. IMHO most are just bad. Its far and few in between that I find actual good people.

Samantha Gitli Schaefer
Samantha Gitli Schaefer

Loved each and every one of these heartwarming stories! Thanks for putting this together!

JenniferDavisPollock
JenniferDavisPollock

When I was in my early 20s, I was driving from Mississippi to Arkansas alone and my engine blew.  It was before I ever had a cell phone and I was in the middle of nowhere, stranded in the rain.  A van from Texas pulled over and the family offered me a ride to a gas station.  The people at the gas station fed me and let me wait there for hours until someone could come get me.  I have no idea what I would have done without all their kindness.

Jenn Arnott
Jenn Arnott

Tears. Thanks for compiling these and sharing. This just confirms what I already knew, there is so much good in this world.

SandyMuller
SandyMuller

There is a place in Denver, called Cafe180.  If a person comes in and doesn't have money for their food - they can work for an hour, earning their meal.  The food is really awesome.  If you have the money - you can pay it forward for someone who can't.  The people that run it are great.  They understand that sometimes, in order to help someone lift themselves up, all you need to do is show them respect and believe in them.  My 20 yr old daughter is homeless and eats there often.  I got the opportunity to dine there myself on a visit a few months ago.  The staff truly care about their clientele.  They remember them, know what's going on in their lives and it shows.  Thank you Cafe180!

CarrieFox
CarrieFox

Why do I keep reading these???? It makes me cry every time!  Dan, I appreciate you posting them (even tho they make me cry) because I am one of the people who believe people would rather be rude and mean than nice and kind and it makes me stop and think when I read these!  My story is one of my own acts of kindness ~ my ex and I would go out to dinner every couple of months and we'd always try to over tip when we could.  One time, right after we had gotten a refund from the IRS (surprise, surprise they gave money BACK!) we went to Ponderosa in a town about 100 miles from our home.  We watched as people were extremely rude to our waitress, we were saddened by the tired smile she kept giving everyone even as they were demanding and impolite!  We left her a large tip (the amount doesn't matter, does it?) and as we were leaving the manager caught us in the parking lot and explained that she was now in the back crying because her son needed that exact amount of money for a school trip that she didn't want to have to tell him he couldn't go on.  She was a single mom, working three jobs to keep her 3 boys in the 'good' part of town and in the 'good' schools, my heart was so happy to hear that we had been given the ability to really make someone's day.  The manager didn't tell us how old the boy was or what the trip was but I have kids and I know how important all the trips are and I know that there have been kids in my class growing up and in my kids' classes that haven't been able to afford trips and typically another parent kicks in the extra cash for elementary trips but knowing what we gave I would assume it was for a trip more geared for high school kids. 

Kelly Elder
Kelly Elder

I always tell people "The world would be a better place if we all took care of each other." I try to live up to those words!

Angela McLauchlin
Angela McLauchlin

My kiddos set up a lemonade stand today. A stranger walked by and handed my boys and their friend $1 each. Said "no thanks" to the lemonade and the cookies and kept walking. :)

dolphinkist
dolphinkist

Please, please keep these coming. I believe there is good in people, but it can get buried and we don't see it. So these help remind me that it isn't time to give up on the human race, yet. And it reminds me who I want to be.

Linda Reeder
Linda Reeder

Tears. Just...tears. Going to read part one now. Thank you for sharing, I believe people are good. The good far outweighs the bad :)

StephTris
StephTris

I love these posts.  After a pretty stressful last night/this morning with a lot of rude people coming across my path its awesome to read these stories and be reassured that while I may have had an abnormally large pool of not so nice people cross my path today - there are people out there that are on the other side of the spectrum.  Thank you Dan for posting these.

NancyVisserBarrett
NancyVisserBarrett

      I have a bunch of positive, inspirational quotes as my screensaver - one of my absolute favorites is "The Greatest Gift you can give someone is your time, your attention, your love, your concern." - Joel Osteen
        It doesn't necessarily take money to make somebody's day.  Sometimes it's the simple things like holding the door open, playing peek-a-boo with the cranky toddler, offering a few words of empathy when someone is obviously having a bad day, offering to drive the neighbor's kids to or from school to save them a little gas money, giving a homeless person that warm jacket that you won't ever use.   I've done "good acts" that cost me some money, and "good acts" that were free, and they both make you feel good inside.   

Jennifer Betts Shettle
Jennifer Betts Shettle

These are my favorite of your posts. Just when I start to lose all hope, there is a glimmer of the goodness in people that I need to see again.

fallsfromtrees
fallsfromtrees

you know.. you made me cry... been having a crappy few weeks, and I have been forgetting to be "that" person... thanks for the reminder... and the stuffy nose!

John Sheldon
John Sheldon

Well, its proof that SOME people really are good

SamanthaKnapp
SamanthaKnapp

24.  Crying like a baby cause I totally get where she's coming from.  It's so freaking hard some days.  But we make it work.  For our kids. 

Simplyblessed
Simplyblessed

I have always believed people are good. Always. I try to be "the good". I am telling my story because there is no one I can tell it to. I know there are people that are going to leave nasty comments, there are some that are going to thank me. It doesn't matter. I just want people to know that people are good. This is my story.

11 years ago my husband and I were newly married and after 3 miscarriages found out we were pregnant again and this baby might actually make it into our arms. When I was 3 months along we both lost our jobs because the guy we worked for went through a nasty divorce and he blew what was left on drugs. Our Cobra health insurance was more than our house payment and we didn't know how we were owing to make it.

DawnTillFitzgerald
DawnTillFitzgerald

I think these are my favorites, even more than the Love is Louder and Beautiful You...and those ALWAYS make my day!

LauraP338
LauraP338

Thanks for reminding us of the good in all of us.  We all need to remember that not everyone is as blessed as some 

scootershell08
scootershell08

That made me cry.  It's good to be reminded of the beauty in people.  Thanks for sharing, Dan.

Jecca
Jecca

Dan, This is beautiful.  Great job starting another vital and vibrant conversation.  It is uplifting and kind and fills me with hope and love.  Please, more.

DaciaWeese
DaciaWeese

I was in Mexico on vacation with my husband - we had a terrible fight one night, and he ended up leaving me in tears at a restaurant.  I got my meal packaged to go (bawling of course), and just sat there waiting for my check trying to collect myself - and trying to figure out how to get back to where we were staying.  The manager came up to me and said I reminded him of his daughter, he was sorry I'd had an issue with my "amor", he'd paid for my dinner and could he please escort me home?  He walked me 6 blocks back to my hotel, gently patting my hand the whole time while I sobbed.  Turns out my hubby had had a reaction to his meds and the two beers he'd had, and he had no memories of the night, the fight, or leaving me behind.  He went back to the restaurant the next day after I told him what happened, and hugged that manager and thanked him for watching out for me when he didn't have to.  He bought the manager a beer and paid him back for my dinner plus a nice hefty tip.

eilonwychade
eilonwychade

Amtrak once put three of us passengers into a cab on the way home.  It was nighttime and when we got to the station, the other two people had pickup rides waiting for them.  The taxi driver asked me where my ride was and I told him I was walking home.  He told me he'd drive me home even though I didn't have any money for a tip or ride because he didn't want a college student walking across town in the dark.  I always appreciated that he wanted to see a stranger safely home.

TanyaPi
TanyaPi

A few years ago my son was in Guatemala. He ended up getting very sick. The group he was with was performing music for different groups, and while he didn't have to play, he had to go to the venue with the band. While he was there, a man helped him find a place to lay comfortably then purchased Gatorade and medicine with his own money. When I heard of this I was so grateful that a stranger cared for my son when I couldn't be there. When my son returned home we were talking about it and that was when I figured out I knew the man. I was a 911 dispatcher and the man was an officer who used to work with me. There was no way for him to know who my son was.  Such a small world and there are good people everywhere. 

killasandra
killasandra

I just saw a beautiful moment yesterday. It was pouring down rain (so bad that a few minutes later I had to pull over to the side of the road due to no visibility) and I passed an old man stooped over with age waiting at the bus stop. A lady had pulled over and was standing in the rain holding an umbrella over his head.

NancyVisserBarrett
NancyVisserBarrett

@RoxanneFlores   You don't have to start with anything big; sometimes just a smile, offering to let someone go ahead of you in line at the store, giving someone a coat that you no longer need.  It makes you feel better about yourself and is actually an excellent way to help yourself build confidence and love for yourself !!

AutumnCabral
AutumnCabral

@Willatbird the last one made me cry too.  What a good mom you are to care for your three boys! 

canadianbbw73
canadianbbw73

@SandyMuller John Bon Jovi has a restaurant called Soul Kitchen where there are no prices on the menu.  People pay what they can afford and if someone can't afford a meal at all they can wash dishes or clear tables.  You can read more by going to http://www.jbjsoulkitchen.org/about.  Cafe 180 and Soul Kitchen are doing beautiful work to help those who are financially disadvantaged!

dolphinkist
dolphinkist

@Simplyblessed ...and?

Just wondering if the rest got lost or if you had a change of heart. In just the little bit you've told, I feel so much for you. It had to be a very scary time.