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MAKING the Baby Come!

Pregnant woman

I don’t know if it’s because it has been spring, or because in the past six to twelve months there was some weird “let’s get it on” pheromone really cranking through the environment, or just because fertility goes in spurts, but it seems that just about everyone is having babies lately.

My best friend just had one. My sister is about to have one. On Saturday I helped some friends move and kept finding myself weave in and out of bellies full of babies. Friends, relatives, neighbors, you name it. Babies. Babies. Babies. Rumors of babies. And even more babies.

I’m starting to feel like the odd dog out. And that’s okay. Holding other people’s babies is more than enough to satisfy the occasional baby hunger I experience.

But with all these babies come baby talk, and more specifically pregnancy talk, and even more specifically, discussion about how the moms are going to make themselves go into labor because, dagnabbit, they’re tired of being pregnant!

I blame the internet. It’s a magical haven for “secrets” that pregnant ladies can use to induce their own labors.

And why wouldn’t they want to? I mean, they have a tiny thing growing inside of them, sucking all their energy, weighing down their spine, making them eat like ravenous swans (please note I was careful to remove the original term ravenous gorillas for sake of saving my own life), and more or less just becoming irritating.

Plus, they want to actually meet the tiny thing inside of them. Pregnancy is like a dating website where you “kind of” meet someone, but you don’t really meet them, and it just drags on and on and on and on and you never actually get to meet them, but they just sound so awesome, and you get to see cute pictures of them sometimes, and they seem so awesome, and you keep holding onto that excitement because you know that the day you finally do meet, fireworks will happen… Yeah. It’s like that. I’m guessing.

I’m also guessing that by the time nine months rolls around, it’s starting to really feel like a one-sided relationship. Mama gives, gives, gives. The baby takes, takes, takes. The baby inside drains mama dry of any and all stamina and patience. We’ve all had people like that in our lives, and they have a way of taking us to that point. You know the point, the one where for your own sanity you need to sit the draining person down and explain how there needs to be give and take for this relationship to work.

And so, right at about 38 weeks, just about every mom gets to that point where they need to be done with the relationship as it is, and they start trying to make labor happen.

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184 comments
sweetlittlegals2
sweetlittlegals2

It doesn't come till it wants to come....period.  Seriously. 

momofkali
momofkali

I used a smoothie recipe that my midwife gave me.

2 Tbls. almond butter

2Tbls. Castor oil

blend in 300ml water

200ml apricot juice

5 drops lemon verbena

I drank it that morning and went into labour that night.  Less than 90 minutes from beginning to end.

Lily7102004
Lily7102004

Pressure point massage! I was insistent on having my son, so I started massaging away on the ankle/leg, every time I hit the point right on I could feel a mild contraction and two hours later my water broke.


Though I mostly agree with you, the other stuff seems like bull. My friend tried caster oil... XP

Amy
Amy

Thank you for referring to the baby as "it," not "she," like all the stupid baby websites and books. Some babies are he's too, you know.

TrinaObornBonman
TrinaObornBonman

I'll admit I did the "coffee potty" I was three days past my due date and facing an induction if I didn't go into labor over the weekend. On Friday I worked half a day, ate spicy curry for lunch, took a nap, and that evening brewed up some coffee (fyi - you put the coffee in a bowl in the toilet, not in the toilet itself). I'd been having on and off contractions all week but within an hour the contractions were stronger and more regular. Would I have gone into to labor that night on my own? Probably, but I do think the coffee speed it up a little. And besides, not only did it smell really nice but I now have a great story to tell my daughter someday!

Sparrowchild
Sparrowchild

Notta clue. Never been pregnant, never gonna be pregnant if I can help it. :) sounds like the worst kinda misery. Then 18 years of no sleep after. I like my sleep. ^.^

angela52689
angela52689

That's good to know. I know where they put the incision can impact it too.

AngelBrookins
AngelBrookins

I hear that walking thins the cervix, making labor easier ... also sex can trigger labor because an orgasm is really just a type of uteran contraction.

ShannaClark
ShannaClark

My son was 9 days late and I tried several of the more common suggestions; sex, walking, spicy foods. In the end I went in for a NST and a Sonogram to check on him and they said they were sending me up to labor and delivery and they were going to have to induce... so, ultimately induction worked for me lol 


SaraNeukirchner
SaraNeukirchner

I had read that rosemary would start contractions so i drowned everything I ate in rosemary for weeks. Ten years later and I still cant stand the smell/taste of the stuff.

Katelyn Crist
Katelyn Crist

The only thing I will say worked well for me was reflexology. I was a week past due and they were talking about inducing me. I didn't want a chemical induction, so I asked around if anyone had any advice. They gave me the name of this gal that did work on particular parts of your feet and ankles to induce labor naturally. Five women said that it worked and to pick a good time because almost exactly 12 hours later, they started labor. I made an appointment for 4pm the following day. I kid you not, almost exactly 12 hours later, I started labor. Smoothest delivery I had with any of my kids. 

denmama
denmama

I've had 8 babies and am pregnant with #9. I'll take two out of the running, because both were premature because of various troubles. Also, with my first two, who knows why I went into labor, other than it was just time, but thinking back, both were born within 24 hours of having sex. With the third, I went into labor 2 weeks before the due date within an hour of having sex, and baby was born in about 4 hours. Number 4 was born within 12 hours of having sex. Number 6 was born three weeks early within 6 hours of having sex, and was almost born about 2 1/2 weeks earlier for the same reason. With number 7, I was in early labor and decided to hurry things along by having sex; baby was born within 3 hours. Number 8 was born by emergency C-section, so number 9 will be a planned C-section (unless we have sex at some point and cause labor to start early).

Kelly Rose
Kelly Rose

I actually had a nurse tell me not to push - baby had already crowned, but the doctor wasn't scrubbed - my problem was that she said "my BABY needed to rest"!!!!  I knew she was lying, but being preoccupied with the whole having a baby, I didn't have the presence of mind to call her on it. Of course, that was the same hospital I threatened to leave (as in getting out of bed, bleeding on the floor, looking  looking for my clothes, telling my friend to please get the car seat) because they wanted to take my baby into the nursery for "mandatory" observation and refused to allow me or my husband to accompany him.  Right.  I'd done the tour and saw all the newborns screaming their little heads off while the staff did nothing to comfort them for the entire time we were there!.  So, we "compromised" they let my husband sit in the doorway of the nursery, in line of sight of our son.  The staff sent them both back tot he room 20 minutes later. I guess he made them nervous.

EliseRoebuck
EliseRoebuck

With my first, I wanted him out sooner rather than later. I tried walking, I tried cold showers. He was just going to take his sweet time. I finally went into labor, then panicked, I realized that I was ok with being pregnant a while longer, that whole idea of giving birth suddenly freaked me out. Of course, there were other plans. And after 46 hours of labor, and 3 heart rate crashes, my son was delivered by c-section. With my daughter, there was none of the stress. Since my son had been a borderline emergency c-section, we opted to schedule a c-section. So, 5 days before my due date, I went into the hospital, and had my daughter. If I have anymore, I am TOTALLY fine with doing it that way again.

Tara Gauthier
Tara Gauthier

Every bodies experience will be different. Sex worked with my 1st, was in labor next day. Walked entire labor and had him at home, water never broke on it's own. 2nd child and water broke, and I never went into labor. Tried herbal induction from midwife and nothing. So I was induced and labor started and her heart rate went down, until a code pink was called at one point and she was born via emergency c-section, cord pulled tight against her shoulder, so you just never know!!

JamieLynnBear
JamieLynnBear

For my 3rd, my doctor didn't want to induce- even though I have a medical condition that really needs me to be induced. I ate a whole pineapple sans the core and the skin ;) The next day I went into soft labor- non painful, yet regular contractions every 7 mins. My Dr said he would do an induction if I was having regular contractions and i was. Would they have stopped had I not gone in? Probably. But I was done, so I'd say I won.

JennyJensen
JennyJensen

In an Anthropology class that I took last year, I read the book "Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down" about a Hmong girl born with Epilepsy.

Anyway, this is a paragraph from the first chapter describing how the mother gave birth to her children while still in Laos. It's REALLY fascinating! 

"If Lia Lee had been born in the highlands of northwest Laos, where her parents and twelve of her brothers and sisters were born, her mother would have squatted on the floor of the house that her father had built from ax-hewn planks thatched with bamboo and grass. The floor was dirt, but it was clean. Her mother, Foua, sprinkled it regularly with water to keep the dust down and swept it every morning and evening with a broom she had made of grass and bark. She used a bamboo dustpan, which she had also made herself, to collect the feces of the children who were too young to defecate outside, and emptied its contents in the forest. Even if Foua had been a less fastidious housekeeper, her newborn babies wouldn't have gotten dirty, since she never let them actually touch the floor. She remains proud to this day that she delivered each of them into her own hands, reaching between her legs to ease out the head and then letting the rest of the body slip out onto her bent forearms. No birth attendant was present, though if her throat became dry during labor, her husband, Nao Kao, was permitted to bring her a cup of hot water, as long as he averted his eyes from her body. Because Foua believed that moaning or screaming would thwart the birth, she labored in silence, with the exception of an occasional prayer to her ancestors. She was so quiet that although most of her babies were born at night, her older children slept undisturbed on a communal bamboo pallet a few feet away, and woke only when they heard the cry of their new brother or sister. After each birth, Nao Kao cut the umbilical cord with heated scissors and tied it with string. The Foua washed the baby with water she had carried from the stream, usually in the early phases of labor, in a wooden and bamboo pack-barred strapped to her back."

Can you imagine Westerners giving birth this way? Maybe not necessarily with dirt floors, but in SILENCE BY THEMSELVES?! 

PeanutsMummy
PeanutsMummy

I am currently 29 wks pregnant and have been told in my parenting class that the best way is to erm ... stimulate the nipples! lol. As you can imagine, the ears of all of the men in the class propped up with that comment :) At this point, I would rather eat squirmy,rat guts than have someone touch my boobs! OUCH! lol

MirandaRibbingLundy
MirandaRibbingLundy

Waiting for the right time and being patient. When it was time it happened.

Lori Brett
Lori Brett

I would caution the hot coffee sitters. Hot coffee in a cold porcelain toilet and your water won't be the only one breaking. Naturally is best unless the DR determines they need a little help. I had five babies three natural, first two no Drugs. #3 with an epidural I didn't want, Last two c-sections, they needed a little help.

RachelJones
RachelJones

Ok, to put a more serious thought out there... babies come when they are READY.  And due dates are just estimates.  The average is 40 weeks, so anywhere in the 2 weeks before to 2 weeks after is normal.  I know it can be quite unpleasant... Both of mine were born in summer.  In Arizona.  Beginning of June and beginning of July.  I totally get wanting to just be done with it and not feel gigantic!  But just think of what will be best for the baby.  I mean, it is usually a small time to wait, but has big health implications.  Babies who are premature tend to have respiratory troubles.  For the rest of their lives.  And inducing a unripe baby means that there is a much greater chance for prematurity.  Anyway, walk a lot, drink lots of water, eat lots of healthy and yummy food... and relax.  It will be over before you know it, and you will look back and miss this time in your life.  Treasure everything, even if it's not such a great feeling.  This is all for that precious baby. :-)

Mandy
Mandy

Although I don't yet have children of my own, after watching multiple friends go in to be induced and observing that it can even take days for hard labor to kick in, I will be waiting until the baby is ready to come on its own, barring a medical emergency.  It's not worth it to speed things up with drugs from what I've seen.  

OkayStacey
OkayStacey

Sure fire way to induce labor: Scheduled induction. That's how I managed to get those little suckers out three times out of four. 

PennyLegge
PennyLegge

Hmmmm...how many women DIDN'T do any of these things...and went into labor? These are so funny to read. What would people back in the early 1900's do if they had to give birth today?

LinChambers
LinChambers

With that logic, I would swear by a baby shower.  With both kids that made it to birth, I had a baby shower for them on the Saturday before my 37th week; on Friday I would be admitted to the hospital for preclampsia, and on Tuesday I would have a baby, and Friday we would be home.


Much better than what I did to my own mother.  My ETA was October 1, and they finally kicked me out Nov. 6.

Emberlee
Emberlee

A day of walking and several straight hours of laughing my @$$ off finally caused my oldest to make an appearance...two weeks after he was due. With my youngest I just decided I was done, went to the hospital, and refused to leave until I had him.

Alin
Alin

Sex worked for the first baby I had (at 37.5 weeks).  Pizza for the second (at one day before he was due).  I'm not sure why I went into labor with the third, but he was the only one that went beyond his due date (by 3 days)..

ash
ash

With my son I was in and out of labor for 4 weeks (starting 6 weeks before his due date).  Since I didn't want to end up in the hospital we did what we could to stop it until 3 weeks before his due date, and then...it wouldn't start and I was frustrated beyond all belief.  38w hit and I was doing nothing more than sitting on the floor watching TV & eating dinner with my husband and I went into HARD labor.  It sucked and my midwife was out of town...so my secondary midwife had to rush me to the hospital because my son was breach.  Hope things go smoother this time around. 

Nykee
Nykee

My oldest and youngest came out with the assistance of pitocin (the drug used in hospitals to kick-start labor) but my middle child... she came on her own three days early. I tried to do things to make her come - walking, I'd even hop down the stairs when I went down hoping gravity would help. Ya know, when you have a bottle of ketchup, and you put it upside down and tap it and the ketchup falls to the spout? That's what I pictured when I was hopping down the steps. Haha, it all sounds ridiculous now but being HUGE in the middle of a hot North Carolina summer toting a one year old around... it seemed logical at the time. :)

mocosamercado
mocosamercado

Eating pizza worked for me. I was in labor within the hour.

birthjunkiemom
birthjunkiemom

I have 5 children.  They don't come until the mom goes through the process of being really pissed off, and then moves from that into being delusional that the baby will truly never come and she will be pregnant for-freaking-ever.  Then she goes into labor.  At least, that's how it was with all of mine.  I was so delusional, in fact, that when I was very clearly already in labor with #5 in January, I posted on Facebook that it was my due date, and therefore the one day I was guaranteed to not have the baby.  Baby was born 4 hours after posting.  LOL

ValarieMarie
ValarieMarie

my daughter is over 38 weeks & willing to try anything to start the labor process! so I had her look at this...she's ready for twister & lemons! we'll let you know when it works! :)

Miranda Laird
Miranda Laird

I went into labour, then they had to induce me and it still took a day to get my Taurus out! And that was by c/section, since the forceps didnt work!

LindseyMorgan
LindseyMorgan

I just had my membranes stripped and both came within 12 hours after having them stripped woot woot

Michelle Ingram Sanders
Michelle Ingram Sanders

As a midwife- I will say babies come when they want, short of medical intervention. One mom eats a whole pineapple and goes into labor, another eats three in one day and is still pregnant. The babies laugh at us and our attempts to make them come on our timetable. :-)

MrsF
MrsF

I've had three babies: 14 days late, 10 days late, 15 [YES 15, then we finally broke my water] late.
I've tried nearly all of it. I'm proof it doesn't work :P

Oh, and you're slightly wrong Dan- it's right around 36 weeks it kicks in, and baby needs to get prepped to evacuate SOON! My poor husband.. I was one cranky.. well, you know what. And for siiiixxxx looonnnng weeks. Ugh.
I'm so glad our family is complete :)

LizBulmer
LizBulmer

I'm trying Twister and lemons in the pits. I'll be sure to notify WebMD when it works. Thanks, Dan! :P

Cerridwynn
Cerridwynn

What worked for me was going to the hospital and being given a pitocin drip. After 2 1/2 months in a long drawn out preterm labor, then not dilating after they took me off of the medication to keep contractions at bay, my doctor wasn't o.k. with letting me go any longer than necessary, because he was afraid the baby and/or I would go into distress.

JessicaKuwata
JessicaKuwata

I never really understood why mothers wanted to get their kids out early.  I was always happy to let them hang out in there as long as they wanted.  They are much quieter and easier to take care of when they are on the inside.  I never had to worry if they were too hot or too cold or going to catch a cold and could go wherever I wanted without having to worry about feeding them or having a clean place to change them or missing nap time.  And did I mention it's quieter? Seriously, I would much prefer being like an elephant, and keeping them there until they're two and skipping the helpless newborn stage entirely.   

Shelleyd77
Shelleyd77

Sex worked for me. Then later in the night my water broke. That was after going to my prenatal appointment and not being dilated. The next morning I was 3 cm dilated.

Joygwen
Joygwen

Pitocin worked like a charm for me, all 4 times, but I do NOT recommend it!

schmolzanderson
schmolzanderson

Having had a baby......... people will try anything. But, with a few small exceptions, like, you know, medicine that legitimately induces labor, you're right. Babies come when they come. Protip: Don't plan to give birth in the summer time.

Lily7102004
Lily7102004

Oh, and sex. >.> Orgasms create uterine contractions, granted far more pleasant.

SaraNeukirchner
SaraNeukirchner

@denmama  Hmm, I dont know about the efficacy of sex, but I will say congrats on having so much sex while pregnant!  Then again I guess that explains the nine kids too ;)


JennyJensen
JennyJensen

P.S. If you're interested in the book, you can find it on Amazon or Ebay or probably even Bookbyte. :) The full name of the book is: "The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, and the Collision of Two Cultures" by Anne Fadiman

Cerridwynn
Cerridwynn

@Mandy It depends on the doctor and the circumstances. By the time my second daughter came, I was so exhausted I slept peacefully through my labor, and I only woke up because the nurse woke me to check my dilation, and ran right into her head. I was induced for a mere two hours. My son took 4, but I had similar circumstances surrounding preterm labor that I had with my daughter. Being in labor for over 2 months tends to take it out of you.

RachelJones
RachelJones

@Michelle Ingram Sanders Yes!  You're so right!  The only thing both of my labors had in common was that I had JUST been adjusted by awesome chiropractors.  Otherwise, my first was born the day after our EDD, and the second was born 12 days after our EDD.  In the second, we had had lots of family come visit, so right after they all left, my husband and I had a date, then the next morning at close to 4 I started contractions and she was born by noon.  There is this instinctual need to be quiet and relaxed and in a dark and familiar space.  THAT was what I needed the second time.  Oh, and both were born at home in a pool.  My mom is a midwife also, so she was our "guardian of safety."

LizBulmer
LizBulmer

@schmolzanderson NO joke! My son was born in June in like the hottest summer we have ever had. I was a happy and content pregnant lady til it was above 80...like I wasn't ALREADY sweating to death!!

SaraNeukirchner
SaraNeukirchner

@Cerridwynn I had the same, prodromal contractions of whatever its called... three weeks and was wore down. I begged to be induced a day early and they did but it didnt help, he came on his due date just to spite me :P