Well, I finally pulled a couple of these out so I could show the Farmer’s Daughter the man I once was. Thankfully she just laughed and loved me more.
And, as I perused my somewhat secret “fat album” on Facebook, I decided… meh. Why not share them on the blog.
These are from a time I was fatter. And blonder. And balder. And harrier. And still just as awesome as I am (or am not) now. Haha.
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So, one day, I only-partially-jokingly told my husband that he'd gotten the short end of the "me" stick. See, between work, school, and an injury that keeps me from moving much, I've managed to put on more weight than I've ever had in my life, and I feel wretched about it. I think I look fat. My mother in law thinks I look fat. I have moments of guilt and soul-crushing misery when I look in a mirror, and I hate that my husband has never seen that thinner me outside of pictures. However, upon hearing the aforementioned statement, my husband stopped me, turned me to face him, looked me in the eye, and said, "This you is the you I fell in love with and asked to marry me. This you is the you to whom I said yes. I think this you is beautiful. Now, stop talking sh** about my wife." What I learned in that moment is that a) my husband is actually far more wonderful than I'd actually realized and b) that fat, thin, or in between, I'm still me. I'm still awesome, and it's that that makes me attractive to this wonderful man. More to the point, it's that that makes me attractive anyway, and I'd wager a guess that the same is true of you. Don't let the "fat" album be "somewhat secret". Don't be thankful that she loved you the more for it. Of course she would. That person? Still you. Still awesome. Just different.
As someone who has lost over a 100lbs. Isn't it funny how we don't want to share our "fat" pictures or boast of our accomplishment of losing weight? I have almost no fat pictures on my facebook! Why are we so ashamed to share them? Do we always fear going back to our fat selves, or is it because when we look in the mirror, we still see that fat person staring back at us?
good work on shifting that weight, it's tough but worth it when you can look back and laugh. What about a feature in the blog where we can post our secret fat albums?
Honestly, while I do see happiness in your eyes in these pictures I also see sadness and pain. It takes someone who hides their sadness and pain behind their smile to recognize it in others. We all have pain, but there is less of it in your eyes now, and I know a lot of the pain that you have to live with daily you have come to terms with. My favorite of these pictures is definitely the one of you dancing with your sister. It's beautiful.
If you hadn't told us, I would not have known it was you! In some pics, I recognized your smile but that is far as it goes. All the pics are wonderful..especially the ones with your sister. Thanks for sharing them with us.
I think you were, and are, adorable. I don't see sadness in you- you look happy and joyful in all of the pictures. you show your bright light- then and now.Thanks for your page/posts.
I think you are just as adorable back then as you are now. You look really happy in these pics! Thank you for sharing them!
Your smile looks a lot more genuine and your happiness appears a lot more sincere in these pictures. Also, please take this as the constructive not destructive criticism it is intended as: The brown hair isn't a good look for you. At all. And it makes you appear very high maintenance; spending THAT much time and effort on your hair color isn't appealing in anyone.
I love the one with your mouth full. And you have the Love and light in your eyes in all of these photos...
Same amazing person, different amount of padding...thank you for being brave enough to accept yourself at your heavier weight and share the pictures with us.
So you were a lil chubby then, you were still cute. I love the one of you and your sister dancing. :-)
You look a lot different, but still adorable~ Except for that close up of you eating go away close ups of people eating, I dun liek you
OMG, you look like a totally different person!!!! I'll be honest, I teared up with the pics of you and your sister. One thing stays the same in all of them though, you're fantastic smile. I love that smile, it's contagious.
I love your expression when you are getting the jar of candy but the one of you dancing with your sister is the best of all.
Love the one with the pig ;-) Definitely like brunette better on you but your awesome sense of fun and your fundamental great guyness is in every photo :-) Dan, Dan, Dan... When will you just believe you are worthy? :-)
@Shannon weird, i had thought the blonde was dyed before you said this. i'm not sure which way it is, but i like it better brown and longer. either way i think pretty much all pics where dan's smiling he looks happy, which i'm all for regardless of hair colour.
@Shannon I think it's time to remember that sometimes, our opinions are best kept to ourselves. He looks amazing anyway he wants to look. Coloring your hair is NOT high maintenance. It's all about how we feel about ourselves, and how we LIKE to look. His smile is just as beautiful and genuine now, as it was then.
@MelodyBoals Oh, I see. I should keep my opinions to myself but your opinion about my opinion is acceptable? Got it! Any other arbitrary rules for a comment section on blog that is neither yours nor mine to control you would like to let me know about while I'm listening?
@SecretlyShaw Then it's pretty awesome that I didn't present it as anything but my opinion, isn't it?