Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

The Truth Box is back, and this week it’s all about parenting again. We had two new questions in place of the usual ones.

In a brand new questionnaire, I asked you all to anonymously share an embarrassing parenting secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “The embarrassing thing I did as a parent,” and “why I’ve never told anyone.” Lots of parenting secrets were shared. I will begin swapping out some of the usual Truth Box Thursday posts with these ones. Here they are… Completely random and exactly as they came in.

As a side note, these truths aren’t really meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles. Including, and sometimes especially, as parents.

In the first parenting edition, things got a little heated and even ugly. There was lots of good stuff happening too. It led to a follow-up post (The Human Parent: An Overdue Rant), and I would encourage you to read it before leaving any harsh criticism below. Harsh criticsm is not what this is about.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 23
PARENTING EDITION

1
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I rarely ever change the sheets on their beds.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I’m pretty sure people would think that is gross.
2
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
My kid almost choked while I was busy looking at pinterest. when I turned to check on him, his face was purple-red and he was looking at me like “why won’t you help me??”
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Because my heart broke into pieces that day.
3
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I put my 1.5yr olds favorite show on so my husband & I could have sex in our room, she dumped a container of corn starch everywhere!
Why I’ve never told anyone:
We left our baby alone in her playpen watching TV to have sex! she could have gotten hurt, shes always getting into everything.
4
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I tend to lose my patience regularly, and I’ve pushed my daughter away from me hard enough for her to fall. I try to walk away before I get that upset.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Borderline child abuse?
5
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I rarely take my 2 year old outside because of my own anxiety disorder. He usually only gets about 20 minutes of outside time once a week… twice if I’m having a good week.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
because I KNOW he needs to go outside and I just can’t do it. I feel like a failure for not being able to put my own issues on hold long enough to take care of my child.
6
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I have thought about sending my autistic 7 year old away because I just can’t do it anymore.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I would feel like a failure, like I gave up on him.
7
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
My daughter has rolled off of beds, ran into my cigarette, I have yelled at her I have spanked her… the list goes on and on…
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Actually I have told everyone no one is a perfect parent every single one of us screws it up probably at least once a day. All that matters is you love your children.
8
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
left my 3 week old screaming in her cot for an hour
Why I’ve never told anyone:
she had severe colic, i hadnt slept and either i sat outside and chain smoked for that time, or i was going to severely hurt her
9
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I took my 6mo daughter into the porn store because my husband was deployed and I really need a release with a grown up “massager.”
Why I’ve never told anyone:
Who the hell takes their child into the porn store?
10
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
Slapped my 2-year-old across the face for screaming at me in anger.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
My husband & mom were in the other room & I told them I smacked his hand too hard. I still get chills & will NEVER do it again.
11
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I don’t cook and clean for my teenagers any more.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I feel like a terrible parent, but I just can’t summon the energy to cook and clean.
12
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I didn’t call the dr after my oldest son had a febrile seizure when he was a little over a year old.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I was scared, alone with a baby while my husband was in Iraq and I had felt like an idiot when I took him to the hospital and had croup. My husband thinks the 1st one was with him.
13
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I love my normal daughter(2) more than my autistic son (7).
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I’m supposed to be the perfect mom and advocate for my son.
14
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I left my 4-year-old daughter alone on the bed with my newborn baby. She stood up and when I told her to sit, she fell down hard on my son’s head.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
I should have been watching better, and thank God, he was fine. She was heartbroken she hurt her brother and begged me not to tell anyone. I won’t because it was my fault.
15
The embarrassing thing I did as a parent:
I let my kid sleep in bedding he peed in because I didn’t want to wake him up.
Why I’ve never told anyone:
That’s gross!
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