Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 24

1
What everyone thinks is true:
That I love my new job of one year
What actually is true:
I keep making mistakes and am scared to death I am going to get fired. It is very stressful.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m only interested in my husband.
What actually is true:
I think about my childhood sweetheart on a weekly basis–I miss the chemistry.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
The coffee was good.
What actually is true:
I ran out of filters so I cut an old sock and used that. I’m not even sure it was clean.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
My ex husband and I just decided our marriage didn’t work and we are grateful we never had kids.
What actually is true:
We tried for kids for 4 years. He was a cross dresser and watched legal young teen porn who knew he couldn’t have kids and lied about it.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
That i’m a good happy mom when my kids are around.
What actually is true:
I’m so broken inside from my last relationship of 5yrs (not my kids dad), that it takes all that I have just to make sure my kids won’t see how depressed I get when they’re not.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
My “best friend” and I are working through the huge falling out we had several months ago.
What actually is true:
I loathe her and lost all trust in her. My hubby wants to be friends with her yet so I suck it up and pretend. I’m terrified it’ll fall thru, and my hubby’ll be mad I faked it all.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
That i am taking my time after my marriage broke up from a cheating wife
What actually is true:
I am exploring my bisexual side slowly and think i am much happier than I have been ever.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m totally in love with my fiance of seven plus years.
What actually is true:
Stopped loving him four years ago. He’s lazy, doesn’t take care of anything, says horrible things about my mom and myself, YELLS at her, and turned his family/friends against me.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
My husband and I are a sedate, dignified, middle-aged couple.
What actually is true:
My husband and I play together like kids, love nudity, board games, and sex toys. We are having the childhood neither of us ever had before.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
My social phobia and anxiety disorder are keeping me from getting a boyfriend.
What actually is true:
I don’t know how to find a guy who is willing to have a BDSM relationship with me AND get to know me for me.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That our blended family is perfect.
What actually is true:
I hate my stepkids.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I accepted years ago that my best friend and I would never be together and that I’m happy that he’s married to a woman that he caresbout and that we can still be best friends.
What actually is true:
After 15 years, I am still just as much in love with him as I ever was. I hate his wife for coming between us and I find myself comparing every man I am ever with to him.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
Im happily married.
What actually is true:
I still have strong feeling for a old highschool flame from 25 years ago. We still talk alot but we are both married and I dont know if he has the same feelings as I do?
14
What everyone thinks is true:
Happily married.
What actually is true:
Yes, but I still have two exes that I constantly think about. I never got the closure, and it is SO hard not to reconnect on FB…I don’t know what would happen, can’t tempt myself.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I am honest.
What actually is true:
I was caught for shoplifting as a 18 yr old, and had to serve community service after going to court. I feel like a fraud every time I want to be a stand up person.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he’s most known for, with more than 2 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It’s an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!