Dear Ye Who is Often Late,
I am really struggling with your lateness. I know you probably have a good excuse a lot of the time, but I’d really appreciate if you’d work on it. And don’t worry, nothing you do or don’t do could ever affect our relationship, I don’t want to drive any wedges into what we share. I was just hoping you could be more respectful of my time the way I am of yours.
And, they’d have read that and done… nothing.
And maybe they read yesterday’s open letter and still will do nothing. I don’t know.
What I do know, is that I want to be important to you if I make you important to me.
I want my time to be valuable to you, the way yours is to me.
I want to not start off every meeting with anxiety and annoyance from both you and me.
I want to focus on all the time we have to now spend together, and not all the time we now no longer have to spend together.
I want to continue wanting you there, doing the stuff I want you doing with me.
I want a relationship of mutual respect and understanding when it comes to schedules and outings.
And more than anything, I want you to know how I feel because I’ve been passive-aggressive about it my entire life, and so far you have just trampled all over that, and my time, and me, and it’s time to make things better.
This was what yesterday’s letter was all about.
It was the honest truth I have been pushed to over the years.
The truth that says, a healthy person expects the same respect they give others in the relationships they are in.
Why is that so debatable?
I don’t know.
But I do know that there is no real excuse for those who are never on time.
Oh, there may be a lack of time-management skills.
There may be a lack of skills to accurately predict how long your daily activities will each take.
There may be a lack of appreciation for how your actions affect the rest of us because you’ve never been on our side of the fence.
No matter what it is, it is something that can be honestly worked on and mastered.
If you care.
But only if you care. And only if you honestly care.
Oh, and please, if I am doing something disrespectful of your time and lives that makes you frustrated, or annoyed, or straight-up agitated or angry, please be as direct with me about it as I was with you yesterday because obviously I don’t understand just how whatever it is I’m doing affects you. And I appreciate that kind of honesty.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing