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Noah’s Stepdad – Clinging to Life

Last week, I received this text which made my heart stop cold.

motorcycle-accident-text

Jeff is Noah’s stepdad. Known by everyone as Chappy. Known by Noah as Dad #2 when he’s at this house. Just Dad when he’s over at theirs. And he is as good a dad as there comes.

And last week Chappy did something he almost never did. He rode his motorcycle to work without a helmet. Nobody really knows what happened after he left. There were no witnesses. No clear pictures of what unfolded. Just Chappy, his bike on the side of the road, his skull fractured from one side all the way to the other, his unconscious body rushed to the hospital where surgeons and specialists would spend the next two days frantically doing everything they could to keep him alive, unsure if they actually could.

With his brain swollen and bleeding, they had to remove part of his skull. He has been in a coma since it all happened. He is alive, but far from being out of the woods.

So much isn’t known at this point, and knowing what will happen from here on out is going to be a very slow road and journey. There are no quick answers in something like this.

chappy-accident

What there are is a lot of people who love this man and are asking for all of your positive thoughts and prayers in hopes that he somehow miraculously recovers from this. There is his only daughter who was to be married four days after the accident. His wife, who is my child’s mother. His baby brother. Many others. But most of all, there is my son.

Our son.

Noah.

He loves his Chappy more than you can possibly imagine. They are buddies, pals, work partners, mechanics, wrestlers.

My heart is terrified for what my son is going to go through in all of this. Absolutely terrified.

So please, take a moment and do whatever your beliefs push you to do. Think happy thoughts. Pray. Send positive vibes. Please. I believe in positive energy and I won’t hesitate one moment to ask you all for it. For Chappy. For Noah’s mom. For Noah. For all who love and need this man in their lives.

Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

PS. Lots of photos of Chappy on the next page. He loves his Noah as much as Noah loves his Chappy. That’s for sure.

I’ll do my best to keep you updated with how this all progresses. So many dynamics that go on when something like this shakes your family and writing for me brings more clarification to why I’m feeling what I’m feeling than anything else does.

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1219 comments
clikchic
clikchic

Gosh! I am so sorry, thinking of you all!

Dawn Berlin Hadley
Dawn Berlin Hadley

So sorry to hear. My brother went through a terrible motorcycle accident years ago. I will keep you and your loved ones in my heart and mind. I wish the best for you all and send love and best wishes.

Jessica McLaughlin-Foster
Jessica McLaughlin-Foster

Sending prayers and positive thoughts for Chappy, for Noah, your family and for you. The power of prayer and positive thought is tremendous. Keep heart and stay positive. Sending love and prayers to you all!

Charity Jack
Charity Jack

looking for true love,since the death of my beloved husband,i have been single, and i think its time to move forward, so pls looking for some one to love me as much as i do.

Sorcha Kelley
Sorcha Kelley

Keeping your extended family in my thoughts.

Sara
Sara

Praying.

And echoing the sentiments of how wonderful you are for your son.  Your son will grow up with more people in his life who love him that he does not have to be the middle man for and feel guilt and tension over loving multiple people who share the same role.  Kudos to you.

My husband adopted my two older girls because their biodad did not step up and became unsafe for them.  While this makes my heart so full of love that he loves our two oldest like he loves our youngest, which is his biological daughter, there are times my heart aches for them when they realize the truth--their biodad did not care enough to be a good person in their lives.  YOU are preventing that from happening to your son.

Again, praying.

Country Gal
Country Gal

I second that! I had been thinking the same thing.

Theresa Morales Soloma
Theresa Morales Soloma

Thank you all for modeling such a sweet family structure. It's the best for the children - and adults too. Praying........

FallChildPhotography
FallChildPhotography

Can I just tell you- as an ex-wife of a very bitter man, you give me hope. The love and compassion you have for the man who cares for your son when he is not with you is overwhelming. You continue to be a role model to single-dads/bio-dads and dad's who have to share their kiddos everywhere. I wish you could do a workshop for men who cannot let go of their anger! I'll keep your family in my thoughts.

Christina Kling-Garrett
Christina Kling-Garrett

The more I follow you Dan, the more amazing I find you to be. You've made me cry two days in a row. For Chappy, for Noah, but also for what a wonderful example you are. Lots of prayers for all of you.

CrissyLance
CrissyLance

Sending all my positive energy your way!  Love you guys!

Ida Marie Fitch
Ida Marie Fitch

Everyone involved in this will be in my prayers. ESPECIALLY the children. Please keep us updated.

Michelle Perry Miller
Michelle Perry Miller

Lots of prayers for Chappy and your family. So sorry all are going through this.

Cameron Berry-Banks
Cameron Berry-Banks

Beautiful! You are a perfect example of what co-parenting should be. I wish I would've had that when my parents divorced. As a mother with stepchildren I understand the sacrifices you make to ensure your children are loved and cared for by both sides. Your family is in our prayers!

Linda Grant
Linda Grant

Hugs and prayers to all of you and strength for the journey. May God bless and keep all of you in this difficult time.

Ellen Hilliard
Ellen Hilliard

So sorry and many prayers for all of you. Poor little Noah, really difficult, I can only imagine how awful for him. He is lucky to have you as his dad as well as Chappy!

Debbie Jennings Hayes
Debbie Jennings Hayes

OMG... That is so awful Dan. Sending Chappy, Noah and everyone positive thoughts and prayers. I know it must be very difficult for Noah right now, and he's trying to be strong for his mom and brother. Big shoes to fill for such a little guy. But he has a great role model in you Dan. You're a great dad. Please keep us updated.

NanaOak
NanaOak

Praying for Chappy, for you all...

PamLong
PamLong

Sending positive and healing vibes for Chappy, his family and you.

Veronica Marjon Van Bruggen
Veronica Marjon Van Bruggen

Whatever happens, God loves all of you and helps you to do the right things and say the right words.

H.t. Nelson
H.t. Nelson

Lord God, please surround Chappy,,Noah, and this entire family. Give them your blessings, Your perfect peace, and Your comfort. Heal Chappy, oh, Lord, and answer Dan's prayers. Lord God, we know that nothing is beyond You, and wonder and rage at how things like this can happen to good people. Show them your care and love and return Chappy to them if it is in your will, Lord God, PLEASE. Please just surround this family with your perfect wisdom and comfort them - each and every one - as this situation unfolds and thereafter. I thank you Lord, so very much. In Jesus' name, we pray , amen.

Denise Shroth
Denise Shroth

Prayers to you and the wholr family. I was blessed 13 years ago with my life after a horrific motorcycle accident and Hope the same blessing on Chappy.

Alison Hopkins
Alison Hopkins

What a loving family, if only everyone supoorted each other like this. Love to you all x

Joel D McRee
Joel D McRee

Be blessed in all that you do! Life is fleeting! Be blessed in Jesus Christ, by His Blood!

Cole Sadamoto
Cole Sadamoto

Warm Hawaiian healing prayers being sent out.

Karen DeCorby-Learmonth
Karen DeCorby-Learmonth

Hoping there's a miracle. Thank you so much for being such a good example of what blended families should look like.

onebluegirl76
onebluegirl76

Sending tons of warmth, light, love and healing to all of you. ♥

Lorna Hull
Lorna Hull

Your family has my prayers and good thoughts.

SallyBowman
SallyBowman

My thoughts are with all of you during this time.  Sending lots of positive, healing energy in Chappy's direction.

ToniIbabao
ToniIbabao

Sending so much love his way. Its so incredibly hard explaining things like this to young children. 

Amy Halsey
Amy Halsey

Sending prayers for your family and extended family. I am very impressed at your unconditional love, maturity and awareness that family is all that matters.

cmartin002
cmartin002

Dan I will pray with intention for Chappy. 4yrs ago my very beloved SIL was hit by a speeding van as she jogged thru an intersection. It was grave. She is 100lbs soaking wet. Mother of 3. Nothing explains her recovery - nothing. Her full recovery after being as close to death as a human can be. It wasn't a miracle, so much as a series of miracles, perfectly timed. I will pray for all of you during this, the agonizing waiting part.

Mary Waninger
Mary Waninger

and a little boy named Noah how do you think God who loves us all more than anyone else can will listen to all these prayers. I know first hand what these prayers can do. I gied before I will be pve you this advice only because it has worked before. Praying and watching. God Bless you all!

Puja Narula
Puja Narula

Lots of prayers for Chappy, Noah, his grieving and terrified Mom and the Braveheart of a Dad who's feeling for his son... Such beautiful people in one extended family. Noah is a lucky boy to have known two such great fathers! God Bless You All with togetherness forever!

JoGillespie
JoGillespie

Sending love and prayers and positive energy from New Zealand. 

Mary Waninger
Mary Waninger

Why not a miracle, they happen every day and Chappy sure sounds like he more than deserves at least 1 miracle. I am asking God for this miracle and I am sending Chappy Angels to help him to fight and not only survive but recover and continue to be the amazing man you say his is and you will tell him while he is in this coma all the things that you told us about him and hn the ow much you love  him and appreciate him and how you and Noah and everyone loves and needs him. They say that people in comas can hear even when they cannot respond and maybe a phone call from Noah to Chappy, even if it's just on Speaker phone on cell phones or a recording from Noah and the rest of you and  keep it going. When you and Noah's mom  feel that seeing Chappy with tubes and wires etc, will not frighten Noah take him to Noah to Chappy to visit and tell him to talk to Chappy  and tell Chappy how much he loves him and needs him and what they will do together when he wakes up and how he will help Chappy to get better and that he is praying for him and asking the angels to protect him and help him. Teach Noah if he does not know how to pray yet,  get down on your knees with him before he gets into bed every night before he gets into bed and every morning when he first wakes up to first thank God for the day you've both had or the new day that you two are starting and if it  is mom he is with get her to do the same. I know so well how  God loves and listens to the children and I'm sure that if we all are praying and feeling what we are because of an amazing father, an amazing man and 

Rebecca Lynne Hillan-Jensen
Rebecca Lynne Hillan-Jensen

Please keep us posted. Have patience, it's difficult, but this will take time. Pray tons. Heavenly Father and Jesus hear you and you are never alone. Get a blessing too.

Rebecca Lynne Hillan-Jensen
Rebecca Lynne Hillan-Jensen

Hang in there Chappy. You've got this. Prayers are being sent your way. May our Father in Heaven heal you and make sure all is working right for your healing. Hang in there Dan, we are praying for you all!!!