truth box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles. Tune in tomorrow as well. We’ll have a new "Because. People Really Are Good." post.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 26

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I don’t have time/interest in having friends & I’m happy with how things are
What actually is true:
Ever since I got clean 2yrs ago I’m socially awkward & don’t feel like going out with people.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
Two former coworkers married each other, and I am happy for them.
What actually is true:
One stalked and tried to rape me; the other tried to make my life hell. I hope they make each other miserable. They deserve each other.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
My husband & I accidentally got pregnant at 23.
What actually is true:
I had baby fever really bad after my two sister inlaws had babies 2mo apart. I talked my husband into having a baby. We haven’t finished school yet.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’d open my heart to another person again, despite how much my ex-fiancee’ broke me.
What actually is true:
I don’t know if I can. I’ve never felt my heart feel so cold before.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
That I haven’t gotten my things from my ex-fiancee’ because I owe her money.
What actually is true:
I don’t feel like I owe her anything anymore. I just don’t want to have to see her again. I think I may beat the hell out of her if I do.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
My wife and I are the perfect couple and other couples want to be just like us. (Single friends say we give them hope!)
What actually is true:
She cheated on me. I thought I forgave her, but I haven’t truly trusted her in about a year. She is no longer sexually attracted to me & we are getting divorced after 10+ years.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I called the cops on my boyfriend when we were fighting. I thought he was going to hurt me. We broke up and he hates me to this day for it.
What actually is true:
I never called the cops. He had never put a hand on me before. I never told him because it was the only way to end our relationship for good. I am ok that he will never forgive me.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a healthy, happy, very pretty 23 year old female with her head on straight in her first year of med school and taking care of buisness.
What actually is true:
I’m lonely and I hate everything about myself. This year alone I’ve had an abortion, dealt with several family deaths, and I constantly allow men to abuse me.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
I love my best friend since high school’s husband, we’re like brother and sister.
What actually is true:
We have made out/groped each other many times since they’ve been married. It stopped because I got married. She has no clue, and I could never tell her.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m just a bitch.
What actually is true:
I suck at communicating with people. Every time I fuck up I go home and cut myself. I can’t stop.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
My dauthers father is an ass because he doesn’t want to be a part of her life because he already had 2 kids and doens’t know how to handle another one…
What actually is true:
he is a mess because he got me and another woman pregnant at the same time, hardly acknowledges either child, is my business partner & my family doesn’t know about the other kid.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m an atheist.
What actually is true:
I tried really hard to believe in god when I was young- and felt terrible about not believing for years. I just can’t believe- I don’t work that way.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I am an awesome employee and have killer work-ethic.
What actually is true:
I love my job and going to work because my family doesn’t talk to me and I have no friends. When I leave work I don’t have anyone to talk to. Weekends make me want to kill myself.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m bad at lying.
What actually is true:
I’m fantastic at lying. I just don’t lie about important things. It’s usually just really silly things to keep the plot interesting. My greatest fear is of being boring.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
We have the perfect marriage and love like we are still newlyweds.
What actually is true:
Sometimes I dream of sleeping with one of my friends because he is sexy and daring and all the things that my husband is not.

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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he’s most known for, with more than 2 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It’s an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!