Arrested teenager

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every Thursday I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 27

1
What everyone thinks is true:
My kids never make it to their play dates because they are sick or not feeling well that day.
What actually is true:
I can’t stand other people’s kids. We never go school functions or kids birthday parties because I can’t stand being around thems.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am happy with my husband.
What actually is true:
He makes me feel unloved, unneeded, and unimportant.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
That my husband and I have a 16 year fairy tale marriage and are madly in love.
What actually is true:
I have been having a “friends with benefits” relationship with the same man for 21 years.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am such a strong young lady for never giving up when I constantly get rejected from jobs and other aspects of my life.
What actually is true:
I want to hide in the corner and cry myself to sleep every night. I feel like such a failure and its making me not want to care about myself thus why i keep gaining so much weight.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m just not ready to start dating after my last relationship.
What actually is true:
If I date one more loser guy my head will explode. I’m lesbian, but still in the closet.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a normal person who doesn’t do anything all that weird.
What actually is true:
For some reason I like to masturbate with coconuts.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a good, supportive friend.
What actually is true:
That I’ve been having an affair with my best friend’s husband (I’m male).
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That we are happily married.
What actually is true:
He stole over $100,000 from work over the past few years, borrowed the $ from his parents to pay it back. No one knows. I feel trapped & I want to leave him, but we have a 2yr old.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m fairly happily married.
What actually is true:
My husband is verbally abusive and has forced himself on me one too many times. I now lock myself in the guest bedroom at night until I can figure out how to leave.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I am strong and confident!
What actually is true:
I shake in my boots every day. Terrified of what I really am.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
The guy I’m dating is sensitive and shy.
What actually is true:
In the bedroom he’s a dynamo. I never would have guessed it.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I have a good relationship with my Mormon family.
What actually is true:
I read your blog every day because you’re the only person in the world who makes me feel normal. My family’s never-ending pressure drowns me.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
He thinks I don’t want sex because I’m stressed out and tired.
What actually is true:
I can’t stand how much food he eats and how huge his stomach is. I work hard to stay physically attractive and healthy. Why can’t he do the same? Sex with him grosses me out.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
People assume that, because my husband and I love each other so much, we have a healthy, robust sex life.
What actually is true:
We do love each other, and have a wonderful marriage. He is truly my best friend, but he is impotent, drugs don’t work, and we haven’t had sex in almost 3 years.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m waiting to have another baby until we move somewhere else.
What actually is true:
I can barely handle the two I have, my youngest is almost 3. Almost done with my jail sentence. I secretly despise my husband for pushing staying at home on me…
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!