Truth Box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every month I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 29

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I spent the night at a creepy guy’s house because I wanted to.
What actually is true:
I spent the night there because he lived close to my work and I didn’t have the gas or $ to get home and back to work the next day.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
That I had a great group of guy friends in college.
What actually is true:
Most of them were good friends, but two of them took advantage of me sexually a couple of times.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
We’re just waiting a while to have kids.
What actually is true:
I’ve had four miscarriages that only my husband and I know about. Just holding my friend’s baby makes me want to cry. I miss them so much even though I never knew them.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I love my Grandparents
What actually is true:
I’m tired of being someone who I’m not, living a double life and hiding the fact that I smoke — I wish they would die already!
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I don’t date because I’m waiting for the right one.
What actually is true:
I’m in love with a guy from high school, and I still haven’t gotten over him.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
That I met my current husband while on a business trip and we had an affair that ended both of our previous marriages.
What actually is true:
We never touched each other on that trip and we both filed for divorce because meeting each other exposed the void in our lives.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a strong confident woman who is conservative.
What actually is true:
I really wish my husband would dominate me. Just man handle me… He’s too f***ing loving and caring. Yeah I’m tired of being the man in the relationship when I have the vagina.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That I was an empowered woman who slept with anyone she wanted because she could.
What actually is true:
I wanted the attention, I wanted to feel loved. I wish I would have waited for my now future husband.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
People have called me the “Most Honest Person” they know.
What actually is true:
I have stolen money from a previous employer when I was at risk of being evicted. I don’t know if they ever found out what happened to the money.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
That I have no sex drive because of my anti-depressants and post-partum depression.
What actually is true:
I don’t know if I actually enjoy sex with my husband anymore. I’d rather sleep.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That I have my life together, that I’m the strongest person they know, that I can handle anything that comes my way like the rock I am.
What actually is true:
I was molested when I was 8, repressed it then told my mother when I was 17 who in turned said it was my fault. I haven’t trusted or liked her since.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m a bubbly, happy college student.
What actually is true:
I’m terrified of everything. I throw up most mornings before classes because I get so much anxiety about leaving my room. I’m ugly, stupid and awkward, and try so hard to hide it.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I believe in over coming mental anguish with positive thinking and not giving in to self pity.
What actually is true:
I just wish someone would realize I have serious problems too. I want someone to feel sorry for me! I just want to be acknowledged in my depression.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I love being the optimistic one that holds my family together in hard times.
What actually is true:
I really wish my family would get there shit together and realize I am drowning in depression some days and I need them just as bad as they need me.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
Im stubborn, impulsive and with no sense of direction.
What actually is true:
Truth is, I act depending on the situation, so I dont really want to ask anyone’s opinion of me.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!