truth box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every month I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 31

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What everyone thinks is true:
I’m happily married, even though he’s not working.
What actually is true:
I want a divorce but I’m afraid I’ll have to pay spousal support.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
My husband spent 2 years working in Iraq as a civilian making money to fix the debt I put us in.
What actually is true:
The only debt we had was our house. My husband went to Iraq because he felt it was his duty since he didn’t deploy while serving in the Marine Corps.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I got married at 18 because I was pregnant.
What actually is true:
I needed an out because I was too ashamed to admit I didn’t get into any college. 14 years later we are still married.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I was upset that my ex-husband passed away.
What actually is true:
I did get emotional at the funeral, because I saw my children breaking down. I personally am relieved he will no longer be able to disrupt our lives.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m married to the perfect man, and we have a typical vanilla relationship.
What actually is true:
We are both bisexual, and while I do love my husband, I’d like to explore polyamory and date women too.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a hardworking, recently graduated woman thriving in a man-dominated field.
What actually is true:
I waste all day on the internets when I should be busting my butt at this first job. I feel like a hypocrite, but my attention span just isn’t long enough for 8-hour days.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I have everything together all the time.
What actually is true:
I feel like a failure and that I am never good enough in any situation.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
That I don’t spend time with my family because we don’t get along and that my husband doesn’t like them.
What actually is true:
My brother, mother’s husband, and sister’s ex are all registered sex offenders and I won’t allow any of them near my children.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
When he found out he was going to be a dad I was very happy for him.
What actually is true:
A piece of me died, I wish more than anything else I was the one having his baby. He has no idea how much I love him and want to have a family with him.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I hate judgmental people.
What actually is true:
I hate people who judge others, but I judge those people all the time.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
I was raised by my biological mom.
What actually is true:
I was raised by my biological grandmother. My biological mom has mental issues and has been in jail for the past 5 years for murder.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
My mom is perfect.
What actually is true:
My husband and my MIL see her bad side and due to that they hate her. I feel torn that she isn’t perfect.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a conservative.
What actually is true:
I don’t want to argue about politics, but I am passionate about marriage equality, and a higher minimum wage, but I don’t support abortion.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a single mom that has everything under control.
What actually is true:
I believe one of my sons is a sociopath and would like to run away every day and let someone else deal with everything.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a “normal” girl who is just a little “weird”.
What actually is true:
I’ve been a BDSM Mistress since I was 18, before that I learned about the “lifestyle” I love it, I was born this way.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!