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say-something-im-giving-up-on-youMaybe it’s a dream. Maybe it’s a goal. Maybe it’s something simpler.

When you feel that, and you will, go stand at a mirror, look deep inside of yourself, and start singing the song.

“Say something, I’m giving up on you.”

Repeat that line until you connect with whatever it is you need to connect with.

It is not you in that initial moment that you are singing to.

You’re not actually singing to yourself at all.

You’re singing to something that once was in you. Something that once was a part of you.

Maybe you’re singing to a time in your life when you remember having such amazing goals about weight loss. Maybe you’re singing to the person you knew could do it. Maybe you’re singing to the person who stood looking in the mirror once before with hope and excitement for the weight loss journey that was about to come. Maybe you’re singing to the person who used to think fitness was possible and that nothing could stop you.

“Say something, I’m giving up on you.”

Maybe you’re singing to a time in your life when you were gung-ho about giving up an addiction. Maybe you’re singing to the person who knew they could beat that damned substance, or that damned pornography, or those damned cravings. Maybe you’re singing to the person who you remember once believed in you far more than you believe in yourself now.

“Say something, I’m giving up on you.”

Maybe you’re singing to your goals and dreams the way I was. Maybe you’re singing to the person inside you who knew she could finish school or who knew she could one day thrive in her dream career. Maybe you’re singing to the person who had an amazing idea, had it all thought out, and was once so excited to build something amazing. Maybe you’re singing to an old moment in time where you were unstoppable and you were going to make something big of yourself.

Just sing it.

“Say something, I’m giving up on you.”

Whatever it is you’re singing to, it’s not gone.

That’s what I’ve learned as I’ve sang it to myself in the mirror.

It’s never gone.

Not if we sing it until the words change. And the words will change, my friends, if we study ourselves long enough and reach inside of ourselves deep enough. It may take seconds, it may take minutes, it may take hours, but the words will change.

“I’m saying something, please don’t give up on me.” You’ll hear it squeaking out of the person looking back at you. “You’re the one that I love, please don’t say goodbye.”

And suddenly… eventually… You’ll start to feel it. You’ll start to hear it.

Your cogs will start turning. Soon you’ll start belting it at the top of your lungs, this time singing it to the person in the mirror. “I will never give up on you!” You’ll be belting it at your renewed goals and passions. “I will never give up on you!” You’ll be singing it to yourself! “I will follow you anywhere!” Soon you’ll be dancing! “No I will never ever give up on you!”

Oh, this song is so powerful. And once I sang it to myself instead of about someone or something else, everything changed so quickly.

We can’t always make someone else say something. Sometimes we have to give up on other people.

But we never have to give up on ourselves. We never have to let our hopes, dreams, goals, and excitement fade into eternal silence just because times are tough, or roadblocks have appeared, or things get discouraging, or time has passed. Yes, we can always hear ourselves singing those words if we sing them long enough and loud enough. We just have to be willing to sing them.

Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he’s most known for, with more than 2 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It’s an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!