truth box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every month I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 32

1
What everyone thinks is true:
I am an intelligent, creative person.
What actually is true:
My knowledge comes only from repeating what I’ve read and heard. Most of my “creativity” is copied from someone else’s. My lack of originality scares me.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
we are a happy couple and everyone is jealous
What actually is true:
we are like an on and off switch. on is when we are at our happiest and off is when we hit each other and say evil things that will leave us emotionally scarred for life.
3
What everyone thinks is true:
I love my new home and being up here with this side of my family.
What actually is true:
I hate being up here so much i miss my sister and would give anything to pack up mine and my daughters stuff and go back home.
4
What everyone thinks is true:
I am exploring the possibilities of a new boyfriend, and am taking it slow because he’s a bit shy.
What actually is true:
I think I’m falling head over heels for him, but I’m scared to rush in where angels run screaming-last time was a 10-year emotional rollercoaster from Hell.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
That my husband loves both of our kids equally.
What actually is true:
He never wanted our daughter. He finds her annoying and loves our son more then her. It breaks my heart.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
That my husband and I have the perfect relationship and I adore him.
What actually is true:
He has a pornogrpahy addiction that is crippling our marriage and I hate him for his weakness. I’m sick of the lies. I’m sick of feeling inadequate.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
They think I’m peaceful. Or they think I’m shy.
What actually is true:
I’m neurotic as hell, and I’m stuck. I feel like my light is dimming, and I can’t seem to change anything!
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a successful high school teacher.
What actually is true:
I feel stupid most of the time and that I am never teaching my students enough.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
I am happily married
What actually is true:
I am happily married but I have had a “catfish” relationship for 10 years
10
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a bitch who overreacts emotionally about everything that other people say and do.
What actually is true:
I was bullied as a child and refuse to put up with people hurting others for any reason. I am afraid that I have no real friends because they don’t understand me and don’t care to.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That I enjoy taking care of my elderly father.
What actually is true:
I wish he would die in his sleep. Then no one would be mad at me for not wanting him to live with me anymore.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I have it together and I’m content being single
What actually is true:
My credit score is crap, I’m deep in debt, I have no way of ever getting out of debt, and I’m 30 years old and have NEVER had a boyfriend.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m recovering well from my ex-husband’s infidelity and doing great as a single mom to our special needs child.
What actually is true:
I don’t know if I’ll ever get over his betrayal and abandoning us for the woman he cheated with and her typically developing children. I ask to feel indifference, instead of hate.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
It’s no big deal that last year my friends states away asked me to stop visiting once a year because I disrupt the games we have all played for years together before I moved.
What actually is true:
I have abandonment issues ever since my mom walked out when I was 4 (Im 30) and then had another family were she was”a great mom”. I still cry about it & wonder whats wrong with me.
15
What everyone thinks is true:
That I didn’t want to celebrate my birthday because of last year’s birthday going badly.
What actually is true:
I wanted someone to show they cared enough to do something for me without me asking, I wanted people to remember because they wanted to not because FB told them.
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!