Dating and blogging. I never imagined when I got into this that one would almost always complicate the other. Can’t a teacher just lay it out for me?”
“Dan, will you please come to the front of the class and solve for x?”
“Sure!” I squeak as I leave my blogging desk and waddle to the front of the room. I’ve seen this kind of math before. Piece of cake. Kind of one of those A + B = C things. Except… when I get up there, it’s not the equation I have always known. And there are bunches of weird variables mixed into it that I have to figure out. And I think someone just threw a grape at the back of my head.
Dating and blogging. This is the x I have to solve if I ever want to have a successful dating life.
LD + (G+(-1D)) + OSP = x
L=Living. How I make my living.
D=Details. As in the ones I often over share doing what I do.
S=Spirit of honesty
Wow. I’m a nerd right now. And so are any of you who followed that. And any of you who tell me that my equation is laid out incorrectly… well… you’re the biggest most magnificent nerds of all.
Regardless, fellow nerds, and non-fellow nerds alike. It’s complicated. In a nutshell, this is what I have to figure out:
My living is made sharing my life. It’s made sharing the details and thoughts and struggles of my life.
And… Part of successful dating and relationships is keeping many of the best and most awesome details of your life private. Your thoughts about it should almost always stay private. Ain’t nobody got time for public scrutinization when it comes to their dating lives.
And… Part of what keeps all of you coming back is a spirit of honesty, and openness, and my willingness to not always keep private things private for the greater discussion good.
And… Part of what keeps a pretty girl coming back is a spirit of honesty, and openness, and my willingness to keep most everything private for the greater relationship good.
Do you see the eternal balancing struggle?
Who knows what that is. I have no idea.