That’s why I hate it. You’re using my platform to further your platform. You’re using other people’s platforms to further your own. This is proven in the fact that so many incredible and wonderful forums exist for you to share your breastfeeding pictures where the beauty of breastfeeding is all that matters to their members. It’s proven in the fact that you’re not keeping it on your own walls, and your own pages, and your own platforms. Instead, you venture into other people’s terrain and force it and bully it onto them as well.
Don’t you get it?
You so often claim that the reason you do it is to normalize breastfeeding and to show how beautiful and right public breastfeeding is. You claim that you’re doing it because you shouldn’t be ashamed and because no one should be ashamed. You claim that you’re doing it because society needs to change.
You also so often call others out and get mean, and nasty, and defiant, and attacking, and rude about anyone who doesn’t want to see it or who questions it. Anyone who doesn’t want to see your breastfeeding breasts online is a shitty, misogynistic, jerk of a person, plain and simple.
You’ve successfully scared the world into questioning you or your thousand daily breastfeeding pics that you plaster everywhere.
Can’t you see the irony in that? Can’t you see how counter-productive it is?
You’re not normalizing breast feeding by forcing it onto others. Just like with anything else, scaring others into being tolerant of it online is not the same thing as inspiring others to be accepting of it in public.
Forcing it into the view, and feeds, and streams, and internet faces of others is not the same thing as openly breastfeeding your child on a park bench.
When you’re out in public, you don’t pull your boob out and scream at the top of your lungs, “I’m pulling my boob out and breastfeeding my child! Everyone look!”
You don’t pull your boob out and find some way for people in Detroit, and London, and Toronto, and Alabama, and Podunk U.S.A. to watch you every time you do it.
No, you just pull it out of your shirt, you do your thing, you satisfy your baby, and you put it back.
If you want to change the way society views a breastfeeding breast, then back it up by doing exactly what you say you want when you do it. Just don’t care, do your thing, and don’t make a big deal about it.
Until you do that, and until you stop trying to force it on everyone else (online) in inorganic situations, and until you stop making other people scared of you, I don’t think I believe you that you want what you actually say you want when you post your pictures. I don’t think I’m buying what you’re selling.
And, guess what. I’m going to start deleting or hiding extreme breastfeeding pics that show up in my comments, and on my posts, and in my feeds. Yes, some people will find it beautiful and wonderful when you post them. But so many people don’t. Most people don’t. Not when it’s showing up in the wrong places.
But don’t worry. If we’re out in public, and you quietly sit down and start feeding your child, I won’t think twice about it. It’s just a baby and a boob. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s beautiful and fantastic and it should be okay and normal.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing