Some of us are not willing to try adventurous and exciting things for fear of what the worst possible outcome might be.
Some of us are not willing to shut out the voices of the world, which we know deep down are wrong. Those voices which tell us what unrealistic beauty is. Those voices which tell us we’re not good enough. Those voices which tell us other people are somehow better than we are.
Some of us are not willing to dig deep inside of ourselves and confront the truths that lie below the surface which we ourselves have built. We are not willing to do the journaling, or the self-exploration, for fear of what we’ll find when we do. Then we fear what we will have to do and what the effort it will take once we do find those things.
Some of us are not willing to get divorced, or end long-term relationships, because we don’t feel like our own happiness is worth it.
Some of us are not willing to dive into our failing relationships and ask the hard question of, what do I have to do to fix this.
There are many things we aren’t willing to do, but…
What matters more than anything on that quest to happiness is changing. We have to change it from our current attitude, to an attitude where we’re willing to do it all. All of it. No matter what it takes. And no matter what sacrifices we have to make.
And I don’t mean some of it when I say all of it. I mean all of it.
Too often we try to claim ownership of our own lives and situations because we were willing to do only some of the things required.
This is what I mean when I ask the question, do you know why happiness is seemingly always just within reach, yet always just out of reach?
It is just out of reach because we haven’t done everything required to get there. It is seemingly just within reach because we have done some things right and we know that they were right, and we felt ourselves get closer when we did.
Happiness to me is a life all my own, yet a life given to others.
It is a life where there is no one and nothing that can say or do anything to change who I am.
When you are truly happy, you can be depressed and still be happy. When you are truly happy, you can experience loss and still be happy. When you are truly happy, you can lose people you love and still be happy. When you are truly happy, you can be imperfect, and still be happy.
This is self-actualization. This is authenticity. This is happiness.
Doesn’t that sound nice?
My question to all of you is, are you willing to do what it takes, and are you willing to do whatever it takes, to finally be truly happy?
Oh, just deciding won’t get you there. It’ll be a good step.
But true happiness will come only when you have made the decision to do what it takes, and then slowly, one step at a time, you do it. All of it. Everything you have to do to make your life your own, to shed your past demons, and to fall in love with every cubic inch of amazing that makes you, you.
The air is nice up here. Join me. There is always room for more. Always. And this I know: it’s that truly happy people only want everyone else to have the same thing they do. Always.
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing