Before the Internet, gratification we got was based on what others in our lives saw with their own two eyes. Now, we get the gratification we seek by painting pictures of our lives as we want others to see them.
And, before the Internet, most harsh judgment took place in people’s heads and behind people’s backs where most of the time it wouldn’t affect what we did next. Now, the anonymity of the Internet lets people say anything on their mind and feel justified as they do so, leaving us feeling vulnerable and anxious about the control others might have over us if we share the truth.
Think about those three things.
And maybe you’ll see why I believe it is those three things that are making us fatter.
The Internet lets us hide, it lets us lie, it lets us get away with our laziness, and perhaps worst of all, it paints us into a corner in which we are so afraid of the judgments and comments and thoughts of others, that we don’t do what we need to do to get out.
Simplified even further…
The Internet has made health and fitness uncomfortable. For most of us.
Most of us will post the very occasional exercise or active photograph into our social media. We feel good about doing it. It is part of our plan. Part of the painting we want to present. The painting that says, “I am well-balanced and on top of everything in my life.”
But you ask someone to post a picture every time they work out, and they don’t refuse because they don’t want to do it. They refuse because they are afraid they will be judged harshly for doing it. Surely they will be thought vain. Surely, they will be thought to be too obsessed or show-offy.
Then… you ask the exact same person what would motivate them the most to start getting healthy, and they would tell you support, cheerleading, acknowledgment, excitement from others.
This is why I love the Single Dad Health Club, I suppose. We have that. There is no judgment there. We want to see each other’s selfies whether we just competed in the Olympics or we just got off our couches for the first time in three months.
And frankly, the rest of us need to start working together to do the same thing and change this part of social networking.