At the beginning of 2014, I made the most fantastic goals of where I wanted my life to be by the end of the year.

I worked my butt off all year long. I gave life my all. And… life took me wherever the hell it wanted to with absolutely no regard for what I wanted. This year did not end up at all how I thought it would, and I’m headed down a very altered path than I was just one year ago.

At the beginning of 2013, I did the same thing. And life didn’t give a flying leap what I set out to do or where I wanted to end up then, either. That year I gave it my all. I worked my butt off. And… there was no resolution to most of my resolutions because life had its own ideas for me.

Let’s see… Looks like it was the same with 2012. Same with 2011. Same with 2010. Same with…

Gosh. You know what? When has life ever gone where I thought it would go? When have I ever had major life goals that weren’t derailed with new information, new relationships, new life lessons, new life challenges, and new life triumphs? When has life ever, in my 34 years, been predictable for me?

In fact, when has life ever done anything but force me to hold on for the ride and do my best to try and understand what’s going on! When I think about life, I feel kind of like this amazing picture of Noah I took a couple weeks ago. “What… is… happening… here?!”

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Hahaha. This morning I was out to eat with my Grandma and Grandpa. I asked my Grandpa what his 2015 goals were, and he said, “just do my best.”

And, as I sat there with plans in place to come back home and write my annual “goals for the future” blog post, I thought… my grandpa is infinitely smarter than I am. At 83 years old, that was more wisdom than I have learned in all of my life thus far.

“Just do my best.”

So that’s what I’m going to do this year.

2015. This is my year of no goals and no resolutions.

No. You know what? That deserves an exclamation point.

2015. This is my year of no goals and no resolutions!

2015. Yep. It’s going to be my year of living in the here and now. It’s going to be my year of being a friend instead of looking for friends. It’s going to be my year of strengthening my relationships instead of waiting for others to strengthen them first. It’s going to be my year of complete content in the fact that I can’t control…

Anything.

I never have been able to control anything. I never will be able to control anything. Life is such, and if you think that any of life is truly under your control, you need to dig deeper, look at reality, and concede to the fact that the only control you have over life is choosing to end it early (morbid, but can you think of anything else? Honestly?).

Oh, I plan to have an AMAZING year.

I have a solid idea of what I need to do right now on the path of where I think I might be headed. That’s all I’m going to focus on. Today that is all that matters.

Watch out 2015. I have absolutely no plans for you. I’ll work my butt off. I’ll give life my all. Do with me what you will.

Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!