truth box

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” ~Philo of Alexandria

After 21 years of self-destructive inner-battles, I finally admitted my biggest secret to myself and to the rest of the world. That day, and the day my son was born, were the two most incredible and wonderful days of my life.

Here on Single Dad Laughing, I started what I call “The Truth Box.” I asked you all to anonymously share a difficult secret that you’ve never told anyone. There were only two sections to fill out on the form. “What everyone thinks is true,” and “what actually is true.” More than six thousand secrets were shared. Every month I try and share 60 of them here. Completely random and exactly as they came in.

These truths aren’t meant to entertain. They aren’t meant to bring us down, either. They’re just an incredible and poignant (though sometimes heavy) reminder that we all are fighting our own great battles.

Pulled from the Truth Box: Week 36

1
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’m a straight girl who’ve always just had bad luck with guys
What actually is true:
I do feel attracted to guys and I’ve never been corresponded in my 26 years, but lately I’ve been feeling attracted to all kinds of sexual interactions. I’m confused and scared.
2
What everyone thinks is true:
that I am happy being single
What actually is true:
being single sucks, I am always depress by the fact that nobody likes me. 🙁 I seriously want to die asap, being here on this planet sucks :'(
3
What everyone thinks is true:
i am a happy house wife/mother that would love to have a second child
What actually is true:
i hate being stuck at home it drives me nuts,and i would love to have another baby, but i am terrified that i would become extremely lazy and my husband will leave me…
4
What everyone thinks is true:
That I think my ex (my 3 yr old daughter’s mother) is a selfish person for leaving and having a relationship with her 21 yr old co-worker.. Wea re 36yrs old.
What actually is true:
I still miss her and would take her back in a split second.
5
What everyone thinks is true:
I married my soul mate 6 years ago
What actually is true:
He is an abuser. I am damaged now. And yet my children’s dad Is making things ready for our return to him. I feel like one of the lucky ones.
6
What everyone thinks is true:
That he was just a friend to me, I never wanted a relationship with him and have forgotten about our friendship
What actually is true:
I always wanted to be his, but knew I never had a chance, it’s been over 10 years and I think about him and sometimes even dream about him.
7
What everyone thinks is true:
I am happy.
What actually is true:
I suffer from Bi-polar disorder which is untreated because I am ashamed and if I wasn’t a Christian I would take my own life.
8
What everyone thinks is true:
I didn’t want to work for my father-in-law.
What actually is true:
It would have been a dream job, but my wife told him not to give it to me.
9
What everyone thinks is true:
We finally had our wedding after 10 years to celebrate how in love we are and how strong our relationship has grown.
What actually is true:
We were swingers before we married, buy now my husband wants out of the lifestyle and I refuse to let go. We’ve considered divorce at least 5 times in our 3 months as newlyweds.
10
What everyone thinks is true:
I’m my own independent woman who is successful with her family, friends, and volunteer services.
What actually is true:
I feel like I have been robbed of the ability to make my own decisions. If I make myself happy, I can’t make others happy. Right now, I am happy. Others, however, are not.
11
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am strong and handling my break up with my cheating boyfriend as best as I can.
What actually is true:
That I am totally broken. He was the love of my life and I don’t think I will ever move on. Its been 6 weeks and I still cry everyday. I’m 31 and worried I will never be happy.
12
What everyone thinks is true:
I am a tough, blunt, and strong bitch.
What actually is true:
I got kneed in the face by a girl half my size at a bar last year after she started crap with me. I peed my pants while it was happening. I honestly black out from the adrenaline.
13
What everyone thinks is true:
That I’ve gotten over it and we’re just friends
What actually is true:
Every time I look in her eyes it kills me that we are not together… I can feel the depression weight clouding over me again.
14
What everyone thinks is true:
That I am a strong person that can handle a lot
What actually is true:
I feel so broken that I feel like my whole being is hurting and I can’t trust anyone to help me fix it
15
What everyone thinks is true:
I like my bf’s mother, she’s a good mom.
What actually is true:
When it’s just us two, she talks him down benieth dirt & shit. I can’t see how she says she loves him, because I don’t see it. I have no heart to tell him…
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Dan Pearce is an American-born author, app developer, photographer, and artist. This blog, Single Dad Laughing, is what he's most known for, with more than 1.4 million daily subscribers as of 2017. Pearce writes mostly humorous and introspective works, as well as his musings which span from fatherhood, to dating, to life, to the people and dynamics of society. Single Dad Laughing is much more than a blog. It's an incredible community of people just being real and awesome together!