Frequently Asked Questions
Here you will find the answers to many of the questions that my readers frequently ask me. Please read these before emailing me since there’s a good chance I might have answered your question below.
- Why is a guy like you divorced?
- Do you really believe everything you write?
- How did you get Single Dad Laughing so big so quick?
- Will you check out my blog and share it with your readers?
- Will your review my book on your blog?
- How did you get your blog looking and working the way you did?
- I have an idea for a post. Will you write about it?
- Will you support my cause and ask your readers to support my cause?
- Wanna meet up some time? Grab drinks?
- Do you want more kids in the future?
- Will you be a guest on my radio or television program?
- Can I interview you for my blog?
- How many visitors do you get on Single Dad Laughing?
- How do you come up with everything you write?
- Are you afraid you’ll run out of content?
- Have you ever regretted publishing anything you’ve written?
- Do you ever get writer’s block and how do you deal with it?
- I’m starting a blog, do you have any advice for me?
- How do I advertise on Single Dad Laughing?
- Will you review my product on your blog?
- What religion are you and what are your spiritual beliefs?
- Will you give me advice on whether or not I should get divorced?
- Will you give me advice on something else?
- Will you come speak at my school or university or conference?
- Do you read all of the comments and all of your emails?
- I sent you an email. Why haven’t you replied?
- Do you have an assistant? How do you keep up with everything?
- We’re Facebook friends. How come I don’t see much from you there?
- Do you ever tweet anything besides your blog posts?
- Where do you find the quotes that you post on SDL and Facebook?
- Is there more than one person writing the posts for your blog?
- I read something negative about you. Is it true?
- How do you deal with the internet bullies (trolls)?
- Can I use or republish one of your posts?
- Do you ever delete comments from people who disagree?
- Do you have a degree in Psychology or something?
- Would you like to guest blog or can I guest blog on SDL?
- How do I submit a picture for "Beautiful You?"
- What happened to "Dear Dan?"
- How do I send you something in the mail?
- I saw you yesterday but didn’t say anything. Do you care if people approach you?
- What service did you use to publish The Real Dad Rules?
- What kind of camera do you use for your photography?
- If you could offer one bit of advice to other bloggers, what would it be?
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Why is a guy like you divorced? This is a very common question that I get. I answered it in this post. |
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Do you really believe everything you write? Of course I do. 100%. But let me ask you something. Does that really matter? What matters is if you believe it and what you do after you read it. Sometimes I write something and my opinions change with time or additional perspective, such as with my A Better Way, Mr. Pearce post. I hope that everybody can ditch their pride long enough to consider when they might be wrong. I know I need to do that far more often. |
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How did you get Single Dad Laughing so big so quick? This is the number one question people ask me. The answer is simple. It got big by a few incredible people finding it, then more incredible people finding it, and then even more incredible people finding it. There’s not really a better answer because it’s mostly all been word of mouth. We have been very blessed, and I’m always extremely thankful every time you share something I’ve written or done. Every good thing that has happened here is because of you.
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Will you check out my blog and share it with your readers? One of the most unexpected realities of big blogging is that to run Single Dad Laughing, it takes almost all of my work time and free time. I get several emails every day from people asking me to visit their blog or to share their blog, many of whom hint that I really need to since they’re following Single Dad Laughing. Unfortunately I don’t have time to visit very many blogs, and the ones I do visit are usually recommended by people who aren’t associated with the blogs. One great way to get exposure with my readers is to put a text link on my site. They are a great and inexpensive way to advertise your blog. To learn more, click on the "The Blog" menu above, then on "Order a Text Ad." |
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Will your review my book on your blog? I get a lot of requests from publishing houses and authors to send me books for review or feedback. You’re welcome to send me whatever book you’d like, but I can’t make any guarantees. Please send any books to: Dan Pearce |
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How did you get your blog looking and working the way you did? For the new look and feel on Single Dad Laughing, I used a service called PageLines. It is a powerful platform from which you can build your blog. It’s a lot better than almost every other option I could find. I’d highly suggest using them to build your blog. |
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Will you support my cause and ask your readers to support my cause? No. I have many of my own causes that I’m passionate about and support. I understand that the world is full of incredible causes. It’s also full of incredible people. I can’t cover it all, so be one of those good people and make things happen where you see a need! I had to make the decision some time ago to focus on entertainment and discussion on this blog and save my "good cause efforts" for what I can see and do near to where I live. |
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Can I interview you for my blog? Maybe! I get a lot of blog interview requests, and I only have time to do them here and there. Contact me and let me know specifically what your purpose is, the link to your blog, etc. I’ll let you know if I can squeeze it in. All blog interviews are done over email. |
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How many hits do you get on Single Dad Laughing? Good question. In the non-summer months I generally get anywhere between 300,000 and 2 million page views each month. In the summer months that drops down considerably. And that makes me happy. It means you’re all out enjoying your kids and the sunshine. |
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How do you come up with everything you write? That’s a good question for which there is no easy answer. For the daily blurbs, musings, and rants I sit down and I type whatever nonsense rolls off this crazy brain of mine. For the more introspective power posts, I take time to really think through what I’m going to say. I meditate and usually try to go to a different place with it. I don’t publish those ones until I’m convinced that what I’m trying to say has been transcribed fully into writing. Even then I often come up short. |
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Have you ever regretted publishing anything you’ve written? This question is funny. If you were to ask me if I’ve ever regretted writing anything I’ve published, the answer would be no. If you were to ask me if I’ve ever regretted publishing anything I’ve written, the answer would be yes. But that doesn’t happen very often. |
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Do you ever get writer’s block and how do you deal with it? I don’t ever get writer’s block (knock on wood). When I’m in the writing zone, I pound out as many quality posts as I can and then schedule them in the future. When my brain isn’t in the zone, I work on other aspects of running a big blog that need my attention. This way I rarely have to deal with the pressure of coming up with something on the spot. It also gives me the added benefit of moving posts around into a way that makes more sense to those following along. |
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I’m starting a blog, do you have any advice for me? Yes. Don’t. Unless you want to be awesome! Actually, I do have advice for you. Write what needs to be written. Say what needs to be said. Be honest to what’s inside of you, and you’ll attract people looking for your honesty. Don’t be politically correct all the time. If you never say anything that people will strongly agree with or disagree with, there will never be a reason for people to come read your blog. My secret formula is this. 1) Write something honest or different. 2) Write something that people will want to share. 3) Ask people to share it and then make it easy for them to do so. |
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Will you review my product on your blog? Possibly! Send me a test product to: Dan Pearce I’ll be starting a new feature where in an occasional post I’ll talk about all the random stuff people send in. It’ll be a humor post, and may be a bit edgy, so if you’d like to possibly be a part of that, send in your product. |
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What religion are you and what are your spiritual beliefs? I was raised LDS, and even though I tried to believe in the religion, I just never could so I eventually left the church. I have my own very personal spiritual beliefs that are important to me. I do not belong to any organized religion. Do I have a problem with religions? Absolutely not. I love when any individual finds spiritual fulfillment through their personal religion or through their own endeavors. Religions just aren’t for me. |
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Will you give me advice on whether or not I should get divorced? I get asked this question a lot. I can’t answer it for you, but I attempted to answer it in my Single Dad Laughing post "Should You Get Divorced?" |
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Will you give me advice on something else? Due to the nature of this blog, I get a lot of emails asking for advice in certain situations. Sometimes I can reply, sometimes I can’t. It is my experience that most people who write to me looking for advice are also people who want a second opinion to confirm to them that the "higher road" is the better road. You already know it is, so find the courage to take it without needing the consent of others first. |
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Do you read all of the comments and all of your emails? I try, and usually I can read most of them. Sometimes it’s all I can do to write my post for the day, but I am always extremely thankful for every comment. They are so important to the success of any blogger. Just remember, I’m not the only one your comments benefit. Every time anybody posts a comment, it has the potential to help another reader. It has the potential to make another person smile. It has the potential to validate somebody else. Please don’t hesitate commenting. Many people follow for the comments as much as they do for what I post every day. |
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I sent you an email. Why haven’t you replied? I am sorry. I wish I could get to all of them. Every day I get dozens and dozens of them. There are some days when I have received 500 or more, some of them as long as 5,000 words in length. My suggestion is to make the subject of your email very specific and to keep your messages on the short side (believe me, I know how fast something can get really long). I also understand that many people simply feel better having written and sent their feelings, and are not really looking for a response as much as an outlet. If this is the case, please make them as long as you like! Just know that I get to as many of them as I can, and it is nothing personal if I can’t get to yours. |
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We’re Facebook friends. How come I don’t see much from you there? I have two Facebook accounts. My original intention was to post everything personal to the account with my real life friends, and everything that I don’t mind everybody seeing to my blog account. Unfortunately I didn’t ever really do that. The good news is that now you can follow people even without being friends, so please feel free to follow my public updates (which is most of them) on my real Facebook account here: http://www.facebook.com/mrdanpearce. I will be shutting down the second account soon. |
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I read something negative about you. Is it true? Last I checked there were some 1.2 million places on the web that mentioned SDL in some way, and a lot of them included people’s extremely varied opinions of me. Luckily the negative is only a small chunk of that, but what little does exist can get pretty colorful. My advice, read Single Dad Laughing for yourself. The only thing anybody out there has is what I myself put on this blog. |
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How do you deal with the internet bullies (trolls)? This has been the number one hardest thing for me to learn as a blogger. I don’t want to have to develop "thick skin" to deal with the jerks of the world. I have learned to ignore them for the most part, and every once in a while I speak out against them (such as in my post A Letter to the Extremists). |
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Can I use or republish one of your posts? That depends. If it’s in a school or public service program yes. Everybody else needs to ask permission. Anybody can always use a few paragraphs or quotes and link people to the original source, but to publish an entire piece is taking away my lifeblood, which is visitors to my site. |
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Do you ever delete comments from people who disagree? No. I know that there isn’t anything I could write that everybody agrees with. Everyone’s comments are always welcome, so long as they are civil and courteous in their response. The second it gets vicious, attacking, belittling, or degrading, I will delete the comments and may ban the commenter from commenting again. We play fair here, and I won’t put up those shenanigans. I always find it funny that people want to hurt other people, and when I don’t put up with it they try and use that against me as if it proves that I’m a phony. And while I don’t delete disagreeing comments, they do disappear to moderation if my readers report them as flagrant, abusive, or spammy. |
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Would you like to guest blog or can I guest blog on SDL? Probably not. I haven’t had great success with guest bloggers in the past (with the exception of the amazing Rants from Mommyland post) and I don’t have much time to post on other people’s blogs. From everything I’ve heard from other established bloggers, guest posting is starting to become a thing of the past. |
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What kind of camera do you use for your photography? This is a list of the main equipment that I use… Camera Body: Canon 5D Mark II |
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