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Single Dad Laughing FAQs

Will you test or review my product?

Currently I am not accepting very many new products for review. Feel free to contact me about it, I do work some great products in either via product placement, video review, product review, or giveaway.

Please understand that I do not accept products I am not personally interested in, that are not of the highest quality, do not entertain, or that my readership would not be interested in.

Please also note that I must test all products before ever including them or mentioning them.

Would you be willing to share a link to my blog or website?

Unfortunately not. I get at least a dozen emails every day from people asking me to share their blog or site, sometimes more. I wish I could help everyone, but I had to make the decision to share mostly only my own stuff unless I happen across something that really resonates with me.

One of the most unexpected realities of big blogging is that to run Single Dad Laughing, it takes almost all of my work time and free time. Unfortunately I don’t have time (if I want to be an involved dad) to visit very many blogs, and the ones I do visit are usually recommended by people who aren’t associated with the blogs.

Will you help me spread the word for a good cause?

No, probably not. I have many of my own causes that I’m passionate about and support. I understand that the world is full of incredible causes. It’s also full of incredible people. I can’t cover it all, so be one of those good people and make things happen where you see a need! I had to make the decision some time ago to focus on entertainment and discussion on this blog and save my “good cause efforts” for what I can see and do near to me.

Occasionally I will bring my causes to my readers, and I am always so thankful for the way we all are able to reach out together for each other.

Are you dating anyone?

Not anyone exclusively at the moment.

Could you give me some advice for growing my own blog?

Write what needs to be written. Say what needs to be said. Be honest to what’s inside of you, and you’ll attract people looking for your honesty.

Don’t be politically correct all the time. If you never say anything that people will strongly agree with or disagree with, there will never be a reason for people to come read your blog.

My secret formula is this. 1) Write something honest or different. 2) Write something that people will want to share. 3) Ask people to share it and then make it easy for them to do so.

I’ve also written my 100 Blogging Tips that hopefully will help you get going a lot more quickly in the right direction!

Will you listen to my story and give me some good advice?

Due to the nature of this blog, I get a lot of emails asking for advice in certain situations. Sometimes I can reply, sometimes I can’t.

It is my experience that most people who write to me looking for advice are also people who want a second opinion to confirm to them that the “higher road” is the better road. You already know it is, so find the courage to take it without needing the consent of others first. Easier said than done, I know.

What if I disagree with something you’ve written?

Then you’re normal and it’s not the end of the world! Blogging is all about getting good discussion and debate going, so celebrate when you see things differently and (nicely) share your point of view!

I read something negative about you on the Internet. Is it true?

Probably not. Lots of people have lots of different opinions, and that’s all they are. I learned long ago that I can’t please everyone.

Since starting Single Dad Laughing, there have been a small handful of bloggers who have spread falsehoods and disdain for my blog. I am happy never reading their stuff, so I appreciate when you don’t send it to me. All it does is bring me down and, like you, I try to stay happy.

Why is a guy like you divorced?

This is a very common question that I get. I answered it in this post.

Is there a trick to writing viral blog posts?

I get asked often if I have a formula for writing viral blog posts since I’ve been lucky enough to have many of my posts go viral.

My answer is absolutely not. I learned long ago that I can’t plan a viral post. Any post I thought would go majorly viral tanked. Every viral post I’ve ever had was one that I didn’t think was any big deal at all, or that I was scared to publish because I thought it might be “too much” and actually hurt my blog.

The key to going viral is to just put your best work out there every day, no matter what flavor it is. The ones that will go viral will go viral. The internet has a way of bringing the best stuff to the top.

I found something awesome on the internet and I know you share stuff all the time. Want me to send it to you?

Yes. Definitely! You can send it to me here, or share it on my SDL Facebook wall.

Why don’t you reply to very many comments?

The answer is simple and complex. The simple answer is that they can be very overwhelming. I reply to some of them, and because new comments bury old comments, my replies get buried to the bottom of the stack.

More than anything, I believe that the comments are a natural platform for all of you to share your thoughts on what I wrote or shared to begin with. In other words, what I share kind of is my comment.

That being said, I really wish I could comment more and often. My blog gets an average of 500-1000 comments every day (site-wide) and I simply don’t have time to get to all of them. Not if I want to be a good dad, good family member, and good person to the people in my personal life.

Just know that I read a good number of the comments that come through, even if I don’t reply, and I’m really thankful for all of them because the conversation is what I love more than anything.

How did you get this blog looking the way you did?

I taught myself how to design websites, and I built this one. To build a site like this takes a lot of blood, sweat, and tears. And a lot of banging your head on the desk. And if you’re willing to learn how, it’s also a lot of fun.

For this website, I started with the Flagman theme. It will do pretty cool stuff right out of the box, and I highly recommend it. You’ll need to be on self-hosted WordPress as your blogging platform.

Wanna meet up sometime? Grab drinks?

Maybe. Drop me an email. Attach a pic. Tell me what you had in mind. Just know that I do go out on dates sometimes, but not as often as I like, so it’s nothing personal if I tell you no.

Will you be a guest on my radio or television program?

Maybe! Contact me and let me know who, what, when, where, why, how, and how many listeners/viewers you have, what kind of show you do, etc.

Are you afraid you’ll run out of content?

No. I don’t think that’s possible. The world is spinning too fast for that to happen.

Can I advertise on Single Dad Laughing?

No, unfortunately I have no current options for advertising on my site. All ads on my site are delivered by BlogHer, Pubmatic, or Tribal Fusion.

Will you come speak at my school, university, or conference?

It’s possible! Contact me and let me know the who/what/when/where/why/how much, etc.

I sent you an email. Why haven’t you replied?

First of all, I apologize. That’s annoying, I know. I get so many emails that I simply can’t get to them all. It’s one of the down-sides of having a blog this big, and please don’t take offense if I can’t get to yours.

Every so often I have to bug bomb my entire inbox and try to keep up starting at the present, but I do my best to reply to as many as I can.

Why don’t you hardly ever tweet anything besides your blog posts?

You want the truth? I don’t like Twitter, I don’t get Twitter, and I have never put much effort at all into it. I really think every big blogger has only time to focus on building one solid platform, and I chose to build mine on Facebook.

I do, however, understand that there are many tweeters who don’t use Facebook, so I share links to my stuff every day and I occasionally tweet other stuff (though, it’s admittedly rare).

Will you give me advice on whether or not I should get divorced?

I get asked this question a lot. I can’t answer it for you, but I attempted to answer it in my Single Dad Laughing post “Should You Get Divorced?

What religion are you and what are your spiritual beliefs?

I was raised Mormon, and even though I tried to believe in the religion, I just never could so I eventually left the church. I have my own very personal spiritual beliefs that are important to me. I do not belong to any organized religion. Do I have a problem with religions? Absolutely not. I love when any individual finds spiritual fulfillment through their personal religion or through their own endeavors. Religions just aren’t for me.

I find my soul on the mountain.

Do you ever get writer’s block and how do you deal with it?

I don’t ever get writer’s block (knock on wood). When I’m in the writing zone, I pound out as many quality posts as I can and then schedule them in the future. When my brain isn’t in the zone, I work on other aspects of running a big blog that need my attention. This way I rarely have to deal with the pressure of coming up with something on the spot. It also gives me the added benefit of moving posts around into a way that makes more sense to those following along.

Do you want more kids in the future?

Yes. Absolutely. Whether the future will line that up for me is TBD.

Do you ever delete comments?

The answer is rarely. I have deleted less than 50 of the more than 400,000 non-spam comments that have been left here on Single Dad Laughing.

The only comments that get deleted are those that are attacking, flagrant, or full of vitriol.

I don’t mind people debating with each other or strongly disagreeing with me. I’m thankful that it is able to remain civil most of the time.

How many hits do you get on Single Dad Laughing?

Good question. In the non-summer months I generally get anywhere between 3 million and 5 million page views each month. In the summer months that drops down a bit. And that makes me happy. It means you’re all out enjoying your kids and the sunshine.

How do you come up with everything you write?

That’s a good question for which there is no easy answer. For the daily blurbs, musings, and rants I sit down and I type whatever nonsense rolls off this crazy brain of mine. For the more introspective power posts, I take time to really think through what I’m going to say. I meditate and usually try to go to a different place with it. I don’t publish those ones until I’m convinced that what I’m trying to say has been transcribed fully into writing. Even then I often come up short.

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